# Was just "defriended" by a childhood friend because I'm not a Born Again Christian **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 25, 2014, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493 "2014-09-25T03:17:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/61 "2014-09-26T02:53:10Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Really? “Hi, remember me? I’m the kid who lived next door who stroked your twat when we were five?” Yeah, that’s not creepy at all. :dubious: If it was the first thing they said it would be a little odd. There’s no indication here that that’s the case though. Creepy though? We have different views of what constitutes creepy clearly. ---
**Author:** ![Accidental\_Martyr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ce7236/32.png) [@Accidental\_Martyr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Accidental_Martyr)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/62 "2014-09-26T02:58:47Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > Were your kids friends with her? They must be sad. I’m sure the twins will be very upset. ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/63 "2014-09-26T03:50:19Z")
> [@Lobot](#): > > The one question I’d like to get an answer to is why even bring up the subject with her? It smacks of someone looking to drag an unwilling accomplice into their own masturbation fantasy. It’s an attempt to infuse intimacy into a relationship where none exists. He thinks that reminding of her of these “sexual explorations” will somehow goad her into realizing that they were meant for each other, so WE SHOULD TOTALLY GO OUT. ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/64 "2014-09-26T04:36:05Z")
> [@Marley23](#): > > It’s a pretty creepy story, and you’re not giving a lot of details for some reason. You’re actually encouraging people to make assumptions and putting yourself in a bad light. Marley, you know it’s his schtick right? I’m not using the T word but I do think ETV gets a weird satisfaction from negative attention - some kind of self-flagellation. He posts a lot of these kinds of OP’s with very little feedback after the original post. Just enough info now and then to keep the waters churning. I could easily dig up ten such threads in no time, but this isn’t the pit. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/65 "2014-09-26T04:46:03Z")
> [@AncientHumanoid](#): > > That’s it! No Facebook for you! Who are you? The Facebook Nazi? ---
**Author:** ![dougie\_monty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@dougie\_monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dougie_monty)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/66 "2014-09-26T04:49:01Z")
I am not impressed at all. Charlene Tilton, who played Lucy Ewing on \* Dallas, \* claimed to be a “born - again Christian.” And she stayed with the series. Puts me in mind of Leona Hemsley, or Jezebel, or Mata Hari. I can’t imagine any of them as "born - again Christians " during their careers. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/67 "2014-09-26T04:55:14Z")
I can’t tell if the OP means playing doctor at age 5, or awkward sex at age 15. Whatever the case, no one wants to be reminded of that, and they especially don’t want it brought up in a public space like facebook! “Honey I went to facebook to send you a PM with the info, who is this guy that says you guys fooled around as kids anyway?” Yea everybody is just looking forward to that conversation. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 5:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/68 "2014-09-26T05:02:16Z")
Just saw the OP said it was a PM, but still I’m an atheist and I’d unfriend you. You sound like you’re trying to set up a new session of amateur gynecology. ---
**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/69 "2014-09-26T05:13:32Z")
We were preschoolers. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/70 "2014-09-26T05:17:47Z")
> [@GrandWino](#): > > Marley, you know it’s his schtick right? I’m not using the T word but I do think ETV gets a weird satisfaction from negative attention - some kind of self-flagellation. He posts a lot of these kinds of OP’s with very little feedback after the original post. Just enough info now and then to keep the waters churning. I could easily dig up ten such threads in no time, but this isn’t the pit. +1 ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/71 "2014-09-26T05:20:41Z")
> [@etv78](#): > > We were preschoolers. How much contact have you had with your friend since then? Did you guys talk regularly? ---
**Author:** ![Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5fc32e/32.png) [@Bad\_News\_Baboon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bad_News_Baboon)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/72 "2014-09-26T05:22:19Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Was she hot? Depends on if she had a pixie cut or not. I’m guessing she doesn’t or he wouldn’t have messaged her fishingly. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/73 "2014-09-26T06:05:40Z")
> [@dougie\_monty](#): > > I am not impressed at all. Charlene Tilton, who played Lucy Ewing on \* Dallas, \* claimed to be a “born - again Christian.” And she stayed with the series. Puts me in mind of Leona Hemsley, or Jezebel, or Mata Hari. I can’t imagine any of them as "born - again Christians " during their careers. Uh, was this meant to go in another thread? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Lobot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ce7236/32.png) [@Lobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobot)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/74 "2014-09-26T06:37:29Z")
> [@splatterpunk](#): > > It’s an attempt to infuse intimacy into a relationship where none exists. He thinks that reminding of her of these “sexual explorations” will somehow goad her into realizing that they were meant for each other, so WE SHOULD TOTALLY GO OUT. I think that’s closer to it, yes. Which is the other reason why it’s creepy. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 11:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/75 "2014-09-26T11:04:00Z")
> [@dougie\_monty](#): > > I am not impressed at all. Charlene Tilton, who played Lucy Ewing on \* Dallas, \* claimed to be a “born - again Christian.” And she stayed with the series. Puts me in mind of Leona Hemsley, or Jezebel, or Mata Hari. I can’t imagine any of them as "born - again Christians " during their careers. Cite that etv had preschool dalliances with the women you’re listing, please. I’m shocked. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 11:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/76 "2014-09-26T11:54:02Z")
> [@etv78](#): > > We were preschoolers. OK, back to super-creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/77 "2014-09-26T12:14:50Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > If it was the first thing they said it would be a little odd. There’s no indication here that that’s the case though. > > Creepy though? We have different views of what constitutes creepy clearly. How about ill mannered? There are some things that as a society, we’ve sort of agreed we don’t talk about unless we have a VERY close relationship with the person in question - or its an agreement that those topics are ok. You don’t go to work and announce you had a quickie that morning. You don’t describe the contents of your cyst when it popped. Whether you mind that conversation or not, society as a whole has said “most people don’t like having the shape and consistency of your bowel movements described to them - so you keep it to yourself.” (Some of these remain guilty pleasures - like pimple popping - for far more people than would admit it off the internet - but we still keep these conversations to those who we are fairly close to - or very far away from - like an anonymous internet message board) ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/78 "2014-09-26T12:30:10Z")
Bottom line is, the friend was offended. Better the OP would have posted “I inadvertently hurt my friend’s feelings and I feel bad about it” rather than the “I’m sad she felt the need to defriend me” pity-party he posted. He overstepped the line, but it’s totally her fault for being born-again. ---
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/79 "2014-09-26T12:59:31Z")
> [@dougie\_monty](#): > > I am not impressed at all. Charlene Tilton, who played Lucy Ewing on \* Dallas, \* claimed to be a “born - again Christian.” And she stayed with the series. Puts me in mind of Leona Hemsley, or Jezebel, or Mata Hari. I can’t imagine any of them as "born - again Christians " during their careers. Boy, you really didn’t like “Dallas”, did you? ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2014, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493/80 "2014-09-26T13:15:51Z")
> [@FriarTed](#): > > Boy, you really didn’t like “Dallas”, did you? In Texas, nobody likes Dallas. Unless you’re in Dallas. Then you pretend. Oh…, you mean the TV show! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/was-just-defriended-by-a-childhood-friend-because-im-not-a-born-again-christian/699493.md?page=5)