# Washin' away the sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 23, 2000, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318 "2000-05-23T20:18:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![drollman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f04885/32.png) [@drollman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drollman)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/1 "2000-05-23T20:18:16Z")
Somehow, today’s water cooler session was about sex. One consensus: Men like to have sex after they get out of the shower (all nice & clean) women like to have sex, then have a shower (wash away the “dirty sex”) Any follow up thoughts to share? What’s your opinion? ---
**Author:** ![Crunchy\_Frog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ebca7d/32.png) [@Crunchy\_Frog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crunchy_Frog)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/2 "2000-05-23T20:30:41Z")
Sex IN the shower. Save time, try not to slip on the soap. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/3 "2000-05-23T20:46:32Z")
I’m a woman and I won’t have sex unless I’ve showered/bathed within 30 minutes. If there is the slightest chance I might be dirty or smelly then it ain’t happening. I only shower afterwards if I’m really messy. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/4 "2000-05-23T20:52:55Z")
I’m a woman and I won’t have sex unless I’ve showered/bathed within 30 minutes. If there is the slightest chance I might be dirty or smelly then it ain’t happening. I only shower afterwards if I’m really messy. ---
**Author:** ![aenea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@aenea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aenea)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/5 "2000-05-23T20:55:23Z")
Sex in the shower is good, but tends to wash all the natural lube away. Ouch! As for taking a shower after vs. before, I don’t see it as _dirty_ sex, just sometimes sweaty and smelly. ---
**Author:** ![cygnus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e0b2c6/32.png) [@cygnus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cygnus)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/6 "2000-05-23T21:03:39Z")
Before, after, during…is the idea that there’s a time that **isn’t** good? Bwahh haaah haaah haaah! ---
**Author:** ![Iguana\_Boy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ed655f/32.png) [@Iguana\_Boy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Iguana_Boy)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/7 "2000-05-23T22:04:09Z")
“I’m Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta My Hair” What’s that song about then? What has he been doing to her? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Ayesha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c0e974/32.png) [@Ayesha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ayesha)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/8 "2000-05-23T22:15:37Z")
Another women who will not have sex without having a shower first checking in. Afterward depends, it we are going to stay in bed and sleep, then no. If we are going to get up and go somewhere of course I will shower again. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/9 "2000-05-23T23:40:15Z")
First, have sex, then have a shower together, then have sex again. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Cynical](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@Mr.Cynical](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Cynical)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/10 "2000-05-23T23:48:28Z")
I would think that this would lead to an inability to just boink whenever the mood strikes, wouldn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2000, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/11 "2000-05-23T23:53:57Z")
I can think of few things less appealing than having sex with a stinky crotch. GROSS. As for boinking whenever the mood strikes… the mood hasn’t struck in years. Fucking medication. ---
**Author:** ![vandal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/858c86/32.png) [@vandal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vandal)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/12 "2000-05-24T00:06:59Z")
Well, if your partner just got back from the gym or perhaps from a triathalon, then yeah, I could understand the need for a shower. But say it’s a Saturday afternoon, and you and your partner haven’t been all that active the whole day (and both of you have already taken your morning showers), then I could see where a shower really wouldn’t be necessary. So it just depends on what the two of you have been doing. ---
**Author:** ![divemaster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/divemaster/32/78_2.png) [@divemaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/divemaster)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/13 "2000-05-24T02:51:35Z")
Sex just out of the shower is really nice. There is something about lying naked on the bed with your honey all clean and cool. But I am one of those guys who prefers my honey not to wash up just to play around. I _love_ her natural aroma and it is very offputting for me if the main flavor I get is ‘eau de soap,’ or the strange sensation of nothingness. It’s like she’s washed away her feminine essence. Now, I’m not talking 3-day camping trip sans soap. Just normal daily activity. (And for God’s sake, no Serlinesque colognes necessary!) ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/14 "2000-05-24T02:51:35Z")
Regardless of what I’m doing, I don’t _feel_ clean after a few hours. Not “down there” anyway. And if I don’t FEEL clean, there is no way I’m letting someone touch me there. Nope. Not going to happen. I don’t care if he doesn’t mind, I MIND. ---
**Author:** ![capybara](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/capybara/32/202_2.png) [@capybara](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/capybara)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/15 "2000-05-24T03:56:00Z")
Shower afterwards. After a while the, ahem, residue. . . starts to, ahem, smell, ahem, odd. Not to mention the trickling-down-your-leg 15 minutes later sensation. ---
**Author:** ![Nacho4Sara](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Nacho4Sara](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nacho4Sara)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/16 "2000-05-24T04:02:58Z")
Wow. I just thank God I am getting some and go for it. I mean, it’s nice when you feel shower fresh, but unless I’ve been running or lifting heavy shit or whatever (which happens _all_ the time) I partake. Incidentally, I find morning sex to be the most enjoyable, and so I shower afterward to start the day. That sweaty, stinky sex smell is not fun, I would be terrified my professors would look up as I walk in and sniff loudly. But hey, go with the flow. It’s sex, and I’m just happy to be there. Do I sound like a horny guy? Oh well, I’m 19. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![vandal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/858c86/32.png) [@vandal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vandal)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/17 "2000-05-24T04:27:29Z")
Thanks for the mental picture, M.K. ---
**Author:** ![Ayesha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c0e974/32.png) [@Ayesha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ayesha)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/18 "2000-05-24T04:43:48Z")
> [@](#): > > \*\* > Regardless of what I’m doing, I don’t _feel_ clean after a few hours. Not “down there” anyway. And if I don’t FEEL clean, there is no way I’m letting someone touch me there. Nope. Not going to happen. I don’t care if he doesn’t mind, I MIND. > \*\* I agree with you Opal. If I am not comfortable and at ease ( and I’m not unless I know that everything has been washed first) I won’t be able to relax and enjoy it. If I can’t enjoy it why should I even bother. Lion doesn’t care either way, but since he knows it’s an issue for me, he’s always willing to cool his jets for a few minutes while I shower. ---
**Author:** ![Foggy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foggy/32/1082_2.png) [@Foggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Foggy)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 7:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/19 "2000-05-24T07:03:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*\*As for boinking whenever the mood strikes… the mood hasn’t struck in years. Fucking medication. > \*\* \ same here ---
**Author:** ![honkytonkwillie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/3da27b/32.png) [@honkytonkwillie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/honkytonkwillie)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2000, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318/20 "2000-05-24T09:06:28Z")
What medication are you folks taking that kills your mood? This raises my suspicions concerning Mrs. honk. She ain’t been in the mood for quite a while now. Several months. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/washin-away-the-sex/20318.md?page=2)