# We buried my dad today. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 28, 2007, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096 "2007-02-28T23:24:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![thirdwarning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecccb3/32.png) [@thirdwarning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thirdwarning)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2007, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096/21 "2007-03-01T05:05:16Z")
Sounds like you got more than a passion for music from him. Strength and compassion come to mind. He sounds like quite a father, and I’m sure he has quite a daughter. Take his strength, but don’t try to be too strong to grieve. Let the memories come, they’ll get easier with time. We’re here when you want to talk. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2007, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096/22 "2007-03-01T05:46:26Z")
Believe me, that Tribute was fit for a hero, and after reading it I know that your father was one. I’m so sorry for your loss. Know you are safe to share your grief here… sending warm well-wishes and Olives, many Olives, your way. ---
**Author:** ![cerberus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@cerberus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cerberus)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2007, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096/23 "2007-03-01T06:41:48Z")
One thing you can do is get his service record and get copies of his service-related items, and do a Shadow-Box, with a US Flag. It won’t be the same as the original stuff, but it is a good way to remember a Marine. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2007, 1:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096/24 "2007-03-01T13:36:39Z")
Raises my glass to Fiveroptic’s dad. ---
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2007, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096/25 "2007-03-01T13:46:47Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, but I’m also glad you got that banjo. Every time you play it, you’ll remember the good times. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2007, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096/26 "2007-03-01T21:54:59Z")
**Fiveroptic** –there is a pitfall to avoid: guilt at healing. In the last few days, I’ve begun to heal, & at times felt neeedlessly guilty, as if recovery was a betrayal. **It is not!!** Your Dad & my Mom wanted us to live. And to be happy. Do not be troubled. It is just & moral to mourn, and to heal after mourning. ---
**Author:** ![Fiveroptic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiveroptic/32/8257_2.png) [@Fiveroptic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fiveroptic)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2007, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096/27 "2007-03-02T02:57:27Z")
I get that, I really do. With all the festivities ending yesterday, today things went right back into the old routine (sort of.) This afternoon I was on the phone with a good friend and we started talking about something trivial that got sillier and sillier with each sentence and soon I was laughing my butt off – just like always. And I stopped myself because I felt guilty, like it was disrespectful. I mean, it really did feel disrespectful. Yet I knew how illogical I was to think that way. But you’re right, **Bosda**. I think our folks would tell us to knock it off and snap out of it. At least, I know my dad would. At this moment I feel a deep exhaustion like I’ve never felt before. Every muscle in my body aches and the uppermost thought in my mind is a hot shower and a warm bed. So off I go. Thank you all so much for your kindness and your support – I just can’t tell you enough how much I appreciate it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/we-buried-my-dad-today/394096.md?page=1)