# wedding or kids dance recital

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wedding-or-kids-dance-recital/620259>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 28, 2012, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wedding-or-kids-dance-recital/620259 "2012-04-28T19:10:36Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 2\
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**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\
**Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wedding-or-kids-dance-recital/620259/41 "2012-04-30T13:48:16Z")

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I wish the OP had mentioned how close she was to her cousin. Since this is the case, I change my vote from “recital” to “wedding.”

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**Author:** ![SmellMyWort](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SmellMyWort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmellMyWort)\
**Post date:** [April 30, 2012, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wedding-or-kids-dance-recital/620259/42 "2012-04-30T20:35:27Z")

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> [@Rhiannon8404](#):
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> Since your kids are not invited to the “family” wedding, I say go to the recital.

> [@PandaBear77](#):
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> Recital. Mostly because you the wedding is no kids – seriously, who does that these days?

> [@secretsmile36](#):
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> If the kids were invited I’d say go to the wedding. Since she’s disrespecting your kids go to the recital.

Wow, I really don’t get these posts. What they seem to imply is that if the whole family was invited to the wedding you’d make your kid miss their recital. If the recital is really important enough that this is such a hand-wringing decision, it seems kind of crappy to make them miss it, depite the fact that Dad can still attend.

I’m also surprised that this is really the ONLY recital of the year. Don’t they have holiday programs and stuff, too. It seems a little intense to have kids practicing for a whole year for a single performance.

And here’s a final thought: If Dad is tech-savey he can probably have the kids’ footage up on youtube an hour after the performance where Mom and maybe other interested family members can watch. It’s possible you might even get to see it before the wedding even starts!

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