# wedding or kids dance recital

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 28, 2012, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wedding-or-kids-dance-recital/620259 "2012-04-28T19:10:36Z")\
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**Author:** ![Rhythmdvl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85f322/32.png) [@Rhythmdvl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhythmdvl)\
**Post date:** [April 28, 2012, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/wedding-or-kids-dance-recital/620259/11 "2012-04-28T20:34:19Z")

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> [@etv78](#):
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> We had a thread awhile back with an IDENTICAL dilemma!

[If it’s the same one I’m thinking of, it’s close](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=609707):

> [@Which event would you choose in this family situation?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-event-would-you-choose-in-this-family-situation/583006/1):
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> I have two family members basically at war with each other right now over this. I am only tangentially involved but am wondering if there’s a general consensus about who is right.
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> I am going to lay out the situation in pretty basic terms but will provide as much clarifying info as people need to make the choice.
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> OK: You have been invited to two events that occur on the same day, within an hour or two of each other. One is your 3-year-old granddaughter’s annual dance recital. The other is your nephew’s wedding.
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> Which do you choose to go to?

and then a bit later…

> [@Which event would you choose in this family situation?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/which-event-would-you-choose-in-this-family-situation/583006/5):
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> OK, I’ll provide a bit more info.
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> The grandparent in this situation is my mom. My sister is the one whose kid has the dance recital. She actually has two girls, both in dance, but the dance studio is so huge that they break up the recital into different times. My mom is able to make it to the 5-year-old’s recital earlier in the morning, but has opted to skip the 3-year-old’s recital in favor of going to her nephew’s wedding.
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> My sister is _insane with rage_ about this. She is claiming that my mom has “chosen her nephew over her grandchild” and is considering disinviting my mom from both girls’ recitals due to what she perceives as a massive slap in the face. I tried calmly explaining to her that a wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime thing and that I’m sure this was a tough choice for our mom to make, and her response was “Yeah, so he wins. surprise.”
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> I think I am quietly disengaging from the whole thing at this point. My mom and sister are just going to have to duke it out. I’m sort of glad I’m not involved this time but also sort of wishing that I had a family that didn’t have nuclear meltdowns every six months or so. (ARE there families like that?)

I wonder how that one worked out…

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