# Well now Time Magazine.. that's umm... some cover! **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [May 10, 2012, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536 "2012-05-10T18:29:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![genXmalcontent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8baadc/32.png) [@genXmalcontent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/genXmalcontent)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/101 "2012-05-15T02:44:35Z")
> [@Sattua](#): > > Well, that\* is \*how Dr. Sears presents it. Well Dr Sears should get out of his little privileged bubble more. My mom would have loved to have nursed me. She couldn’t. She barely produced any breast milk. Was she a terrible mother? Not at all. She was and is an awesome mother. I pit my bond with her against the bond of any breast fed person on this planet! ---
**Author:** ![Unauthorized\_Cinnamon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/bc8723/32.png) [@Unauthorized\_Cinnamon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unauthorized_Cinnamon)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/102 "2012-05-15T17:28:18Z")
I believe that Sears has a skewed perception of what family life is like for most people, and he certainly advocates for practices like breastfeeding, bed sharing, and baby wearing, occasionally going so far as to present misleading citations to “scientifically” support his beliefs. However, I don’t think he actually says that moms who don’t do X, Y, or Z are bad mothers. In fact, my recollection of his original statement coining the term Attachment Parenting is that he says something like it’s all about being responsive to your baby. Has he gotten more into the “AP checklist camp” since, and can a reader infer from his writing that he thinks mothers ought to do X, Y, and Z? Sure. But I think he’s just like every other parenting “expert.” If you read their books taking everything they say as gospel, you’re making a mistake. I didn’t believe Sears when he implied that I shouldn’t even try to regulate my kid’s night-nursing until she was 2, just like I didn’t believe Marc Weissbluth when he said that my child would be a lifelong insomniac unless I dropped her in a crib and let her cry for hours. ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/103 "2012-05-15T20:44:05Z")
> [@genXmalcontent](#): > > I am baffled that the title of this article hasn’t gotten more backlash. “Are You Mom Enough?” As if mothers not practicing this are somehow crappy and worthless scum. But then again, truth in images and words don’t sell magazines, do they? While the title was chosen to be provacative as much as the picture, I don’t think _Time_ was actually advocating that position. They were describing the Attachment Parenting paradigm, and the position advocated by Dr. Sears. ---
**Author:** ![well\_he\_s\_back](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/3ab097/32.png) [@well\_he\_s\_back](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/well_he_s_back)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/104 "2012-05-15T20:52:03Z")
My daughter (an unwed mother at 19; baby now 17 months and doing great) was really offended by that cover title, “Mom Enough” She tried breastfeeding - it didn’t work. (Worked really well for me. I should have been a wet nurse.) Anyway, she’s doing a great job in a very rough situation, on her own. Kept baby out of day care for first year. That baby is so happy and well adjusted, so far. I would hate for any other mother or doctor to judge her. ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/105 "2012-05-15T20:54:27Z")
> [@Irishman](#): > > While the title was chosen to be provacative as much as the picture, I don’t think _Time_ was actually advocating that position. They were describing the Attachment Parenting paradigm, and the position advocated by Dr. Sears. Did you read the article or is that just a guess? ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/106 "2012-05-15T21:29:47Z")
I read the online material from the OP, that described the photographer’s decisions and intent. I did not read the article. ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/107 "2012-05-15T21:32:40Z")
OK. I read that summary too and didn’t see anything in it about how attachment parenting = “are you mom enough?” (I haven’t read the actual article either.) ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/108 "2012-05-15T22:15:03Z")
> [@well\_he\_s\_back](#): > > She tried breastfeeding - it didn’t work. It made me ill. I was bottle fed. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/109 "2012-05-15T23:00:46Z")
> [@MsWhatsit](#): > > OK. I read that summary too and didn’t see anything in it about how attachment parenting = “are you mom enough?” (I haven’t read the actual article either.) The cover picture has the article title, subtitle: > [@](#): > > Are You MOM ENOUGH? Why attachment parenting drives some mothers to extremes – and how Dr. Bill Sears became their guru I take that as a summary of what the article will be about. Describing their actions as “extremes” suggests the article is going to not be advocatory, but descriptive. ---
**Author:** ![Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malleus_incus_stapes/32/3293_2.png) [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malleus_Incus_Stapes)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2012, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/110 "2012-05-15T23:49:23Z")
> [@Spoke](#): > > [Tiger mom](http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/web03/2012/5/10/14/enhanced-buzz-19322-1336676028-2.jpg)! I really really really really want to know the context of that picture. ---
**Author:** ![Kimstu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ecd19e/32.png) [@Kimstu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimstu)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2012, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536/111 "2012-05-16T01:11:51Z")
> [@Malleus\_Incus\_Stapes](#): > > I really really really really want to know the context of that picture. [Woman Breastfeeds Tiger Cubs](http://www.breastfeeding.com/reading_room/kittens.html) > [@](#): > > A Burmese woman is breastfeeding two tiger cubs at a zoo in Rangoon after they were removed from their aggressive mother. Hla Htay, 40, who has three children, the youngest seven months old, offered her services after the Bengal tiger cubs’ mother, Noah, killed the third member of her litter. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/well-now-time-magazine-thats-umm-some-cover/621536.md?page=5)