# We're both bi and we want to add another man in the mix **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 12, 2015, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411 "2015-11-12T21:48:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/21 "2015-11-13T02:58:21Z")
> [@LuluFysh](#): > > Although both of their mannerisms say it’s possible. What exactly does this mean? ---
**Author:** ![LuluFysh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LuluFysh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LuluFysh)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/22 "2015-11-13T03:03:49Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > What exactly does this mean? Like how they act towards each other and the things they say. Maybe mannerisms wasn’t the right word? O\_o ---
**Author:** ![Princhester](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Princhester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Princhester)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/23 "2015-11-13T04:26:47Z")
> [@LuluFysh](#): > > I just want to know who would make up something like this? Not saying anything about whether your question is or is not made up but there are plenty of people who have a particular fantasy or fetish and like to start threads about that subject so they can fap to the responses. They usually start that thread as their first post. They usually never post in any other threads. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/24 "2015-11-13T04:27:24Z")
> [@LuluFysh](#): > > Me 😃 lmao Great, do you skydive? ---
**Author:** ![LuluFysh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LuluFysh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LuluFysh)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/25 "2015-11-13T04:32:13Z")
> [@Princhester](#): > > Not saying anything about whether your question is or is not made up but there are plenty of people who have a particular fantasy or fetish and like to start threads about that subject so they can fap to the responses. They usually start that thread as their first post. They usually never post in any other threads. Ah well, not fapping. Drinking but not fapping. And if it must be known he said he’s not into it. Buuuuuut it’s ok, we’re all still good. ---
**Author:** ![LuluFysh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LuluFysh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LuluFysh)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/26 "2015-11-13T04:33:34Z")
> [@Penfeather](#): > > Great, do you skydive? Uh… FUCK YES. [SIZE=“2”]But not really no, I’ve never tried.[/SIZE] 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/27 "2015-11-13T05:17:04Z")
> [@LuluFysh](#): > > I just want to know who would make up something like this? I take it you’re new to the Internet? ---
**Author:** ![LuluFysh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LuluFysh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LuluFysh)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/28 "2015-11-13T05:22:09Z")
> [@Northern\_Piper](#): > > I take it you’re new to the Internet? Haha na I guess I just don’t explore much ---
**Author:** ![TheSpeculationElucidation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@TheSpeculationElucidation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheSpeculationElucidation)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/29 "2015-11-13T08:42:16Z")
I agree with what has already been said. If you guys have had 3somes, and they’re both aware of your feelings, communication should be all that is necessary to see what he is and isn’t open to. You don’t have to talk to him face to face, you could even text him so that he has time to think it over (Some people prefer written communication so they don’t feel pressured). Poly relationships are 110% built on communication IMHO. If he’s comfortable with being naked in a bed with your husband, he might surprise you with what else he’s comfortable with. Have they kissed or touched each other before? Other than joking around, have they expressed anything that might resemble intimacy? During your 3somes was the attention solely on you, or were they intimate towards each other? And will this be JUST a sex thing, or a solid relationship between the three of you? It’s good to figure out exactly where it’s going. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/30 "2015-11-13T12:33:50Z")
> [@LuluFysh](#): > > Ah well, not fapping. Drinking but not fapping. > And if it must be known he said he’s not into it. Buuuuuut it’s ok, we’re all still good. Aw, that’s too bad. I had a feeling this was going to be one of your top ten best first posts. ---
**Author:** ![Gyrate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gyrate/32/3588_2.png) [@Gyrate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gyrate)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 1:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/31 "2015-11-13T13:28:04Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > If you guys are having threesomes, shouldn’t you be at a point in your relationship(s) where you can just come right out and say it? This is a recurring theme on Dan Savage’s podcast: “Me and my partner/friends/entire book club are having 27 different kinds of kinky sex but I’m not sure if they’ll like a 28th - what should I do?”. This inevitably results in Dan shouting “USE YOUR WORDS!” at the caller/writer, pointing out how silly it is that people will engage in all sorts of sexual behaviors with someone and yet be too shy to talk to them about the sex they’re already having. (I’m not picking on the OP here - just observing that people are weird sometimes.) > [@LuluFysh](#): > > Drinking but not fapping. What is: “Stevie Smith’s rejected first draft”? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![LuluFysh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LuluFysh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LuluFysh)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/32 "2015-11-13T20:57:43Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Aw, that’s too bad. I had a feeling this was going to be one of your top ten best first posts. Yeah that would’ve been nice but you never know what could happen in the future. I kind of introduced my husband into anal play and now he’s in love with it. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/33 "2015-11-13T21:34:16Z")
Have you considered introducing him to vacuuming? Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![LuluFysh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LuluFysh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LuluFysh)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/34 "2015-11-13T21:49:04Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > Have you considered introducing him to vacuuming? > > Regards, > Shodan Lmfao ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/35 "2015-11-13T21:52:49Z")
> [@LuluFysh](#): > > Haha na I guess I just don’t explore much Sounds like there is little you haven’t explored :eek:😃 ---
**Author:** ![LuluFysh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LuluFysh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LuluFysh)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/36 "2015-11-13T21:56:45Z")
> [@Doctor\_Jackson](#): > > Sounds like there is little you haven’t explored :eek:😃 Lol in that aspect, true. XD well not everything ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/37 "2015-11-13T23:01:27Z")
My immediate thought upon reading the title: “welcome to the Dope”. mmm ---
**Author:** ![LuluFysh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LuluFysh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LuluFysh)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2015, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411/38 "2015-11-16T06:33:00Z")
> [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](#): > > My immediate thought upon reading the title: “welcome to the Dope”. > mmm Haha well I’m glad you enjoyed the post? I love sex and needed a little advice, so I could imagine other people do too… and with a title like I put, it’s intriguing. ;D [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-both-bi-and-we-want-to-add-another-man-in-the-mix/737411.md?page=1)