# Were you a bully? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 6, 2015, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-you-a-bully/721814 "2015-06-06T21:09:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![yo\_han\_go](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yo_han_go/32/130_2.png) [@yo\_han\_go](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yo_han_go)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2015, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-you-a-bully/721814/1 "2015-06-06T21:09:13Z")
Couple of years ago, someone from the my former elementary school class organized a 20y anniversary meeting. About half showed up. Nice bunch. They got fat, bald, etc. Me still relatively fit. Beer to 6 beers, got a word after word. And one of the girls (now prominent wife) pointed out that I was a bully victim. Bully victim from a man just down the table. … I was. He was larger, bigger, sitting on my face, spitting in my face, tearing up my homeworks and choking me just for the fun and so (10-14 yo’s). Although he was not the only one. Had another one, which wanted just to tell him new joke everyday I passed the bridge from school to home. He is gym teacher nowadays. Back to the anniversary meeting. Being passive personality, I said nothing, even if all were staring at me. Then stare went going around the table concentrating on the bully… Comments issue … “Yep” "Yep, you were the Bully. “You were good to me, but you were ass to him!” “Yep” “Yep” “Bully, hmm, yes.” “Yep, let’s drink to it.” Bullies comment “Me? NO! Really?” " Yep, yep, yes, ya, sure, you were mean to him …" “No Really?” Bottom point. Bullies just don’t know they are bullies. Or am I mistaken? ---
**Author:** ![Small\_Hen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ad7895/32.png) [@Small\_Hen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Small_Hen)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2015, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/were-you-a-bully/721814/2 "2015-06-06T22:02:35Z")
Well, he was hardly going to admit it in front of everyone. I bullied one kid, verbally, when we were between the ages of about 6 and 9. Probably the worst thing I ever did. If I saw him again, I’d apologize and tell him that I’m very ashamed of how I treated him. I would not ask for, nor expect, nor want any sort of forgiveness. I don’t deserve it. I was bullied myself in high school. I would not forgive them for what they did to me. But I would like for them to apologize. I like to believe that people get better. I really do.