# What about things that are supposed to b sexy but are a complete turnoff?. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 25, 2001, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465 "2001-10-25T03:23:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![goonhead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ebca7d/32.png) [@goonhead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/goonhead)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/61 "2001-10-26T02:36:18Z")
Here’s some things I don’t find attractive: high-heeled shoes, platform shoes/boots (I love tall boots on women, but they have to be with a normal sized heel). tattoos excessive makeup 80’s hair (especially the hairsprayed bangs, thank goodness these went out of style along with mullets on men!) body piercings in odd places (ears and nose I don’t mind, elsewhere just seems creepy to me). ---
**Author:** ![Ace\_Face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/858c86/32.png) [@Ace\_Face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ace_Face)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/62 "2001-10-26T03:46:13Z")
- Fake tits - Almost all tattoos (I guess I don’t mind really small ones, if they’re in an inconspicuous place) - Big hair/too much jewelry/too much makeup/too much perfume - Most American porn videos, because they contain too much of the above (not that I’ve seen _that_ many…no, really). - Julia Roberts – her face looks like a mouse. - Beauty pageants - Blonde hair (well, I don’t dislike it, I just think it’s overrated) ---
**Author:** ![emorphien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b9bd4f/32.png) [@emorphien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/emorphien)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/63 "2001-10-26T04:25:22Z")
You’re modern model is pretty ugly if you ask me. Anorexic, not emotions (portrayed), always unhappy looking, and did I say anorexic? ---
**Author:** ![capacitor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e47774/32.png) [@capacitor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/capacitor)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/64 "2001-10-26T04:52:33Z")
Anorexia, Heroin-chic, Bored look, especially during sex scenes (where is Debi Diamond??) Frilly lingerie, especially without skirt play. High-heels, especially those unbalancing, sling-back ones. ---
**Author:** ![Eternal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ecb155/32.png) [@Eternal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eternal)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/65 "2001-10-26T06:04:52Z")
Sex. It’s dirty, noisy, and time consuming. What’s so sexy about that? ---
**Author:** ![Mersavets](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/aca169/32.png) [@Mersavets](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mersavets)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/66 "2001-10-26T06:48:43Z")
Piercings and tattoos. I always think they impart kind of a trashy or used look. Big hair and fake tits are also well up there. To me, heroin chic strives to look ghastly. It achieves this if that is its aim. Chewing gum and smoking. They just make me wish manners weren’t a thing of the past. Then I realise I’m only 27 and that I should snap out of my fuddy duddiness. ---
**Author:** ![mmmiiikkkeee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/edb3f5/32.png) [@mmmiiikkkeee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mmmiiikkkeee)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/67 "2001-10-26T08:24:57Z")
I’ll second plucked eyebrows. I have no idea why anyone would find that attractive, much less spend hours doing it. Peircings for the most part; I don’t think ones on the face are supposed to be sexy… but in case anyone thinks they might be, DON’T DO IT! The one I hate most is the ring through the bottom of the nose - ya look like a friggin’ farm animal!! Those tiney studs on the side of the nose might look ok, particularly on young east indian women dressed traditionally, but my mind has a habit of wondering how much snot has accumulated on the part inside the nose - yuck! Really curly hair (sorry to those who have it naturally) - I was going to ask out a girl in a class I’m taking who had nice straight hair, but this week she showed up with … that … hair style:eek:. Go ahead and whip me for being so shallow, but the attractiveness just disappeared ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Chanteuse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de053/32.png) [@Chanteuse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chanteuse)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/68 "2001-10-26T14:37:43Z")
A shirtless guy rubbing his own nipples. I really do NOT understand why this is supposed to be sexy. Male strippers–I like to see a guy dance, but the bump and grind just doesn’t do it for me. I like a little subtlety. Plus, I hate bikini undies and pecker pouches. ---
**Author:** ![Pucette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/278dde/32.png) [@Pucette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pucette)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/69 "2001-10-26T14:55:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Guinastasia \* > \*\*Chest hair. A wee tiny bit is okay, but I HATE the stupid rug look. Icky! \*\* Maybe this is my F.O.T.H. moment of the day, but could we please try to stay away from calling something that’s natural “stupid??” Ditto on the heavy muscled look for me. ---
**Author:** ![babydrln](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b38774/32.png) [@babydrln](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/babydrln)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/70 "2001-10-26T16:19:15Z")
I have nothing to add to the list at the moment, but I would like to say that I COMPLETELY LOVE this thread! It’s just nice to know that the whole world really DOESN’T revolve around the next episode of Baywatch after all! 🙂 I’ve always been just an ordinary girl and I’m old fashioned in some respects. When I was a teenager, I decided not to start wearing makeup for one reason: I was always afraid I’d start dating a guy who was really interested in me while wearing a face that wasn’t naturally mine. What if he saw me without it one day and freaked out because I wasn’t as attractive as he thought? (Oh, I wore it on special occasions such as the prom, but mostly just a little blush and light lipstick for the pictures.) Most of the young men I knew back then–including my older brother–were interested in one type of girl, and that type just wasn’t mine. It wasn’t that I was lazy and didn’t strive to be as attractive as possible to the opposite sex, but I just wasn’t Barbie and could never hope to be. I was in love with George Strait while they listened to Bon Jovi. I was boots and western duds while they loved loafers and sock ties. (Remember those?) I tried out the fashion fads of the time, but I felt so fake in them, and like many of you fellas have said in your posts, a guy can spot a fake from a mile away. I didn’t, and still don’t, have anything against different styles, but I really suffered in the date department for being different myself. Sometimes, I’d be hanging out with a few guy friends and they’d all turn their backs on me to “wolf whistle” at a Barbie. :mad: Talk about your supreme aggravation! Talk about your supreme confidence crusher! I did finally meet and marry the man of my dreams, but it was a rough go for me until then. My philosophy is that it takes all kinds to make the world go 'round. Sexiness–like beauty–REALLY IS in the eye of the beholder, and it’s really nice to know that women like me aren’t considered lower life forms by EVERY man out there after all. Keep those posts coming! I’m loving it! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/71 "2001-10-26T20:04:24Z")
Women wearing high heels with swimwear. Just looks out of place, not sexy. ---
**Author:** ![Podkayne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@Podkayne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Podkayne)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/72 "2001-10-26T20:35:06Z")
Well, shoot. Here I thought **KneadToKnow** was a baker. My votes: 1. Gold chains. Veeerrry few men can pull off _one_ modest gold chain. There isn’t a man alive who looks good in more than one, or in a really thick one. The less man-jewelry, the better. 2. Hair product. I’m suspicous of men who devote too much time to preening. 3. Speedos. A little mystery, PLEASE. Unless you’re swimming competitively, put some trunks on. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/73 "2001-10-26T20:42:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Pucette \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Guinastasia \* > > \*\*Chest hair. A wee tiny bit is okay, but I HATE the stupid rug look. Icky! \*\* > > Maybe this is my F.O.T.H. moment of the day, but could we please try to stay away from calling something that’s natural “stupid??”\*\* On behalf of women everywhere who love rug-covered men, I say “Thank You.” ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/74 "2001-10-26T21:12:26Z")
Over-the-top exhortation. I’m remembering one very attractive girl that I was _really_ happy to have the opportunity to get close to. When we finally got down to it, she starts in with “Oh, yeah! Yeah! Do me! _Do me!_” (Which I’m guessing she picked up from a porn film or something.) I laughed, which caused her to go into a prolonged sulk. I didn’t talk my way out of it very well: “Sorry, but it’s _funny_.” Didn’t see her again. Corny _lingerie_ is a turn off, too. I remember one particular polyster teddy with _glow-in-the-dark_ stars all over it. “Worked” in only one way: Provoked an instinctive “Take that horrible thing _off_. Now.” ---
**Author:** ![Bob\_Scene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19adc/32.png) [@Bob\_Scene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bob_Scene)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/75 "2001-10-26T21:30:59Z")
One thing I see in most internet porn that really grosses me out is **bald pussy!** I’ve found that in order to see pictures of women with what I consider a normal amount of pubic hair, I have to go to some “Natural 'N Hairy” newsgroup or whatever, like _ **I’m** _ the one with the fetish! ---
**Author:** ![KarlGrenze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dbc845/32.png) [@KarlGrenze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KarlGrenze)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/76 "2001-10-26T21:39:23Z")
1. Big muscles/body type- Normal muscles and weight are ok. Like someone posted before, the idea of being with someone that can crush me with one hand is not appealing. 2. Too much hair/too little hair- Some hair chest is good, but not so much that I can’t see the skin beneath. Also, I don’t like men who shave every single hair they have. For me, if they have less hair than I do(and I don’t shave that often, at least my legs) they have too little hair. Maybe some jealousy or intimidating in seeing a man with less bodily hair than me. ---
**Author:** ![Tony\_Montana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/278dde/32.png) [@Tony\_Montana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tony_Montana)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 10:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/77 "2001-10-26T22:20:28Z")
IMHO a if a very sexy,_natural_ (no boob job,etc),woman is wearing something less than flattering. I can see past it to the sexiness. In other words,if she’s sexy,it doesn’t matter what she’s wearing,it wont turn me off.It’s bad attitude,outlook and the way she treats others thats a turn-off. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/78 "2001-10-26T22:52:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by neuseance \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Guinastasia \* > > \*\*No, I’m not 12. Try 23. But it just reminds me of those disco lounge lizards with the polyester shirts unbuttoned, the gold medallions and the leissure suits. > > > > _shudder_ \*\* > > Yipes! Sorry. Wasn’t insulting you, but rather men who shave their chest hair. **They** look like 12-year-olds. > Many sorries! \*\* Ooops! My bad-that’s my fault. ANyhoo, I agree, it’s not stupid. But it just brings up images of that centerfold of Burt Reynolds. ICK ICK ICK!!! _runs screaming out of the thread_ ---
**Author:** ![king\_of\_spain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/7cd45c/32.png) [@king\_of\_spain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/king_of_spain)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/79 "2001-10-26T23:02:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by matt\_mcl \* > \*\* have no interest in sleeping with someone who looks like they could break me in two. I just find them frightening. > > Give me a cute, bespectacled wimp any day of the week. \*\* Wow. And here I’d been thinking I was weird. Seriously, I cannot think of anything that’s more of a turn-off than a guy who’s twice my size. Intimidation!=sexy. Now, lean and muscular can be good, but I’ll take a wussy computer geek over a bodybuilder any day of the week. I like 'em skinny. And another vote on the Pamela Anderson thing. I’d just been chalking it up to me not understanding guys. Feminist principles aside, I really, honestly think she’s one of the least attractive women I’ve ever seen. ---
**Author:** ![Drastic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Drastic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drastic)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2001, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465/80 "2001-10-26T23:18:28Z")
> [@](#): > > Women wearing high heels with swimwear. Just looks out of place, not sexy. Similarly, women wearing evening gowns with scuba flippers. That may have just been a dream, though. I’m pretty certain all mine have been taken. Noticeable makeup, long nails, large breasts of the implanted variety, high heels, the general Plastic Vat-Grown Pamela Anderson look, and silly lacyfrilly frederick’s secret “sexy” lingerie. The runway-model bored look, along with any attempt at an alluring pout, which is an oxymoron if I ever did see one. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-about-things-that-are-supposed-to-b-sexy-but-are-a-complete-turnoff/89465.md?page=5)