# What are the 3 important qualities that you seek in your partner? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 2, 2013, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616 "2013-04-02T11:36:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![FloatyGimpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/floatygimpy/32/7750_2.png) [@FloatyGimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FloatyGimpy)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/21 "2013-04-02T23:48:53Z")
Smart, funny, nice. ---
**Author:** ![colander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e8c25b/32.png) [@colander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/colander)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/22 "2013-04-03T01:10:23Z")
I’m going to have to say 1. Reverence for the Lord God Our Father 2. A firm resolve to conduct both family and business affairs in accordance with the commandments of the Holy Bible and the will of our Blessed Savior Jesus Christ 3. A cock the size of a fat toddler’s arm ---
**Author:** ![epbrown01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@epbrown01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/epbrown01)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/23 "2013-04-03T01:51:28Z")
> [@MegaBee](#): > > A big butt > A smile > Trustworthiness Bell Biv Devoe would disagree with the first two. 😉 Emotional Maturity Intelligence Fitness are mine. Being nice? Eh - it’s a good quality, but I’ve seen some nice people that leave a trail of destruction in their wake. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/24 "2013-04-03T02:08:51Z")
Kindness, chemistry sense of humor ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/25 "2013-04-03T04:18:26Z")
Physical attraction, foremost. There are any number of lovely people who I would never date because there’s no spark. Intelligence ensures they will interest and intellectually stimulate me. Kindness/conscientiousness, means I can grow to love and trust them. But there are so many small things both outside and within those big three that make me feel truly compatible with someone. ---
**Author:** ![Ms.Pumpkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a87d85/32.png) [@Ms.Pumpkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ms.Pumpkin)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/26 "2013-04-03T05:17:32Z")
1. compatible personality(such as a shared sense of humor, similar personal beliefs, mutual interests) 2. intelligence 3. appearance(doesn’t have to be the hottest guy in the room, I’m just not going to be attracted to someone I find funny-looking, or who has bad hygiene) ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/27 "2013-04-03T19:33:40Z")
> [@Loach](#): > > 1. To genuinely put my happiness ahead of her own. Making me happy makes her happy. Since I feel the same way about her, we both enjoy making each other happy. > > 2. The ability to work out problems without resorting to fighting and arguing. > > 3. Great blow jobs. Regarding #1: I fall on the opposite of this. I’d prefer that he understands that happiness comes from within and if he’s not happy with himself, there is nothing that I could do or not do that will MAKE him happy. Conversely, I don’t believe my happiness is wrapped around whichever guy I’m with. I’m happy without him – I was happy before I met him. I’m happy with him. I don’t like to put pressure on other people to force them to “make” me happy. They can’t; I can choose to be happy or I can choose to go find that which makes me happy, but I don’t see it as my partner’s job. Seeing as how your post implies you are with someone and I am single, perhaps I should reconsider this viewpoint. ---
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/28 "2013-04-03T19:57:47Z")
1. a dick that works 2. a brain that works 3. a heart that works ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/29 "2013-04-03T20:04:09Z")
> [@sahirrnee](#): > > 1. a dick that works > > 2. a brain that works > > 3. a heart that works “Why, Cowardly Lion! You’ve had a working dick all along!” ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/30 "2013-04-03T20:24:56Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > This sort of describes my Labrador retriever. > > She’s honest (no hidden agendas), has a wildly positive attitude and we both worship the dinner bowl, so our spiritual beliefs are compatible. And then there’s loyalty. > > I just wish she’d bathe more often. Sorry, but I’m already married… ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/31 "2013-04-03T21:27:41Z")
1. Shared Interests 2. Innumeracy ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2013, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/32 "2013-04-03T21:45:29Z")
Having lots of interests in life, as opposed to having hermit tendencies. Almost any interests are ok, because if we both have the same interests when we start out, we’ll never learn anything. We have to be able to laugh at each other and at ourselves, all the time. I hate to say it, but fiscal responsibility is important. I wish this didn’t matter so much to me, but financial insecurity makes me very anxious. I thank/blame my parents for that. Roddy ---
**Author:** ![Nerdessence](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/47e85d/32.png) [@Nerdessence](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nerdessence)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2013, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616/33 "2013-04-04T16:19:29Z")
1. Is socially awkward in some way 2. Has a bright, thinking mind 3. Loves cats, not kids [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-the-3-important-qualities-that-you-seek-in-your-partner/654616.md?page=1)