# What are things that are generally considered "sexy" that you find unsexy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 3, 2011, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324 "2011-08-03T14:54:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 11
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2011, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/201 "2011-08-05T20:37:27Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > And honey, ewww. Sticky mess. T’ch. Perhaps you’ve missed the point: “_Sticky_” means a LOT of attention to detail, making sure you don’t _make_ a mess. Lots and lots of attention to body parts that really like attention but all too often get short shrift. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/202 "2011-08-06T04:51:08Z")
> [@shiftless](#): > > I was racking my brain try to think of something that is universally unattractive. **WhyNot** nailed it. There are few things in the world that some woman can’t make attractive - the kiss face is one of them. What is the point of that face? _shrug_ I do it because it’s funny. ---
**Author:** ![VitrolicBump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a587f6/32.png) [@VitrolicBump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VitrolicBump)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/203 "2011-08-06T04:57:55Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > _shrug_ I do it because it’s funny. I do that too…and fishy face. In addition to making monkey sounds. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![VitrolicBump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a587f6/32.png) [@VitrolicBump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VitrolicBump)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/204 "2011-08-06T04:59:00Z")
> [@Tranquilis](#): > > T’ch. > Perhaps you’ve missed the point: “_Sticky_” means a LOT of attention to detail, making sure you don’t _make_ a mess. Lots and lots of attention to body parts that really like attention but all too often get short shrift. yes, and this is why I like it..mmmmm ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/205 "2011-08-06T05:01:14Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > Another thing I dislike is shaving ‘down there’. A light natural imperfection and hairiness is much nicer. I like my women to look like women, not CGI renderings. I’m sorry, but to all those who dislike shaved pubes, suck it up. Pubic hair DRASTICALLY reduces sensation and I’d rather get my jollies than provide your necessary hairy eye candy. What if I said I thought guys wearing three condoms were the only sexy way to be. You wouldn’t do it, would you. Loss of sensation just sucks. ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/206 "2011-08-06T05:05:21Z")
Just to reassure you, I would suck your bare pussy up. Because you are truly sexy. I am willing to look past your hair for silly conformity and convention Hairy or bald, I’d do it. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/207 "2011-08-06T05:13:09Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > I’m sorry, but to all those who dislike shaved pubes, suck it up. Pubic hair DRASTICALLY reduces sensation and I’d rather get my jollies than provide your necessary hairy eye candy. Sounds like you’re getting a limited range of stimulation types and, uh, approaches. I mean, there are plenty of things I can do with a woman where the presence or absence of hair can’t _possibly_ be a factor. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![VitrolicBump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a587f6/32.png) [@VitrolicBump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VitrolicBump)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/208 "2011-08-06T05:45:40Z")
Actually I agree with **Opal**. Having no hair down there (or limited) actually increases stimulation to the whole area and makes me happier (read:wetter and wilder) during sex. You can do whatever you think is stimulating but if I’m not shaved or something close, I’m not going to get enough stimulation in the ways I need. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/209 "2011-08-06T06:04:14Z")
I agree with others that looking at the camera in porn is a huge turn off. Another bad porn thing… there seems to be an extraordinary amount of gum chewing among the women. Perhaps to generate saliva for lube. Not my thing. And speaking of saliva… spitting in porn, I hate when they spit on each other’s bits for lubrication. Even drooling from a distance, though pretty gross in itself, is better than spitting. ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/210 "2011-08-06T06:25:45Z")
On the lesbian thing: I’ve come to the conclusion that there are two main ways that men appreciate porn, and that someone who appreciates one way is likely to be completely baffled by the other. Basically, some men will identify with someone in the scene, and some men will identify with themselves. If I see a porno with a man and a woman, my mental thought process is something like “OK, there’s me, another guy, and a woman here, and that other guy is monopolizing the chick.”. Which is unsatisfying to me. But a lesbian/bi scene is “OK, there’s me and two chicks here. They’re just getting warmed up with each other; as soon as they notice me, they’ll be all over me” (because if it’s fantasy anyway, I might as well consider them bi and fantasize that they’d prefer me to each other). To some other guy, though, it’d be just the reverse: In the man-woman scene, he’d be thinking “OK, I’m that guy there, and I’m with a hot chick. Cool.”, but in the lesbian scene, he’d be thinking “OK, there are two chicks here, but where am I? I’m not with the two chicks, boring.”. Oh, and another thing, that others have already touched on: Degradation in porn. The man telling the woman she’s a piece of shit, spitting in her face, and so on. There’s certainly enough porn out there like that, so I guess someone really likes it, but that someone isn’t me. Me, I like to see ladies who are _enjoying_ what they’re doing. Even if the actual sex acts are the same as in the degrading porn, the presentation makes a huge difference. This is actually another point in favor of lesbian porn, incidentally: The degradation stuff seems to be a lot less common (not unheard-of, but less common) than in straight porn. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2011, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/211 "2011-08-06T21:27:47Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > I find oral sex in porn boring. Me too. And I hate seeing someone cum on someone’s face. And then they lick it off. It makes me gag. > [@Krouget](#): > > I’d have to toss in trying to use food as a turn on. I just can’t say I’ve ever had food really enhance something that wasn’t already sexy. If anything, it’s only ended up making the situation cheesy (no pun) and/or messy. Eating food beforehand could theoretically be sexy, but food ON the body is REVOLTING. There is no way I’m licking food off of someone’s skin\*, nor anyone doing so to me. And the sight of chocolate on someone’s privates? Looks like they shit themselves. No thanks. Also extremely gross to look at: melted whipped cream. > [@BobLibDem](#): > > Thongs. No, underwear that disappears into your ass crack is more likely to wind up smelling like an outhouse than it is to turn me on. Mine don’t smell. I know I bring it up a lot, but I’m telling you: you can’t beat having a bidet. They will change your life. And you can get 'em for under a hundred bucks: [http://www.sanicare.com/Ace-Bidet-s/29.htm](http://www.sanicare.com/Ace-Bidet-s/29.htm). It’s like having a power washer for your ass. You’ve never felt so clean. \*I should add that I get grossed out watching people lick their own fingers, too, so my calibration may not be the norm here. ---
**Author:** ![etv78](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d78d45/32.png) [@etv78](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/etv78)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/212 "2011-08-07T00:54:40Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I love how all the “I want a real woman, not some 11 year old” pube comments are from old people. Is there anyone under 35 that prefers a big bush to shaved/trimmed? No. No there is not.\* Sorry, fogies, shaved pubes are The Future., the 70’s were a long time ago. And in that vein, I hate the bush. I want to taste the main event, not bother with an overabundance of garnish tickling my face and getting stuck in my teeth. > > I hate porn sounds and audio. I can’t watch any professional porn because the whole “oh yea. oh yea. oohhhh yea. I’m going to describe in small words exactly what you see on the screen. oh yea. ohhh yea?! oh yea. ohhh yeaaaa. .” > > \*I just know at least one of you wiseacres will try to prove me wrong. You are an aberration. This aberration is 33! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/213 "2011-08-07T02:25:52Z")
the more pubic hair, the less enthusiastic I am. I like ladies to be bare, partly its a visual thing, but mostly its because I like giving oral, a lot, but I detest fighting through the bush to get to the picnic. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/214 "2011-08-07T04:35:17Z")
[ul] Of the things that I haven’t seen mentioned: [li]High heels and bikinis. It’s worse than high heels and naked, as at least that makes sense. (You might have taken off your clothes before taking off your shoes.)[/li][li]Toe cleavage. I don’t find feet unattractive, but the cleavage just breaks the line and looks stupid.[/li][li]super skinny women. This one is actually similar to overly muscled guys, which guys tend to think are attractive, but women don’t. Men nearly universally pick less skinny women as attractive, while women think tend to pick the skinniest woman as better.[/li][li]Overly confident women. Sure, being able to take care of yourself is great. And of course needy is a turn off. But if you come off like you aren’t afraid of anything, you just don’t seem real. Overly aggressive, and you become scary. And please don’t act cocky or spoiled.[/li][li]Piercings: I know these have already been mentioned, but I wanted to add that, while they can look okay in small amounts when done well, they often just look like you have odd acne or something.[/li][li]MySpace angles/really high contrast: Enough said.[/li][/ul] ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/215 "2011-08-07T05:59:49Z")
> [@An\_Arky](#): > > … > White girls getting railed by big black guys. There seems to be some demand for this…I don’t really get it. I am not prejudiced and don’t care whether it’s interracial or not, but I don’t like making a “thing” out of it. > … It’s not just for black dudes… I have known a few girls who think it’s hot. They have this fantasy of getting drilled by a big black dick. I personally am not a woman who is into that, but I can see why they would be into that. Escapism… the fantasy they will probably never have. (Those girls had probably never been with any type of guy other than the skinny white boys we went to school with.) ---
**Author:** ![Namkcalb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c89c15/32.png) [@Namkcalb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Namkcalb)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 8:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/216 "2011-08-07T08:09:22Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > [ul] > [li]High heels and bikinis. It’s worse than high heels and naked, as at least that makes sense. (You might have taken off your clothes before taking off your shoes.)[/li][/ul] It’s worse when you think about it Where do bikinis get worn? The beach What’s the worse thing to walk in stiletos on? Sand Where do you find sand? The beach ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 10:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/217 "2011-08-07T10:26:29Z")
Add me to the long fingernails and high heals crowd. Neither appeals to me although of the two long nails is less appealing. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/218 "2011-08-07T15:21:07Z")
> [@Tranquilis](#): > > Most ‘super sexy’ lingere fails, too. The more ‘sexy’ it tries to be, most often the more it fails. Same. I like some lingerie that she might plausibly use for sleeping or lounging without any thought of gettin’ it on, but “Sexy time” costumes usually just look silly. Reasonably “classy” kit gets a pass, but the cheesy stuff is unpardonable. If you’re getting your lingerie in the context of a Tupperware-style MLM “party,” don’t be cross when I bust a gut laughing. If you’re over the age of nine, your underwear shouldn’t glow in the dark, and fun fur doesn’t work there at any age. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/219 "2011-08-07T17:46:52Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I love how all the “I want a real woman, not some 11 year old” pube comments are from old people. Is there anyone under 35 that prefers a big bush to shaved/trimmed? No. No there is not.\* Sorry, fogies, shaved pubes are The Future. It’s porn. The younger generation has been given an unnatural and distorted idea of what a woman is supposed to look like. They think that a woman stuffed with fake balloons and shaved to look like an 8 year old is some kind of erotic ideal. It’s sad, very sad. ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/220 "2011-08-07T17:52:08Z")
This is going to sound quite adolescent, but…vaginas. When I’m watching a porno and they’re talking about “oh look at that amazing pussy” I honestly have no idea what they’re talking about. And it becomes a turn off when they actually start doing close ups or getting the girl to hold it open. Don’t get me wrong I know my way around down there but the visual appearance of a vag doesn’t do anything for me. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=10) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=12)