# What are things that are generally considered "sexy" that you find unsexy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 3, 2011, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324 "2011-08-03T14:54:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 12
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/221 "2011-08-07T18:52:07Z")
You know who else tends to have naturally bare pubic areas? Women past menopause. Why is it always a barely veiled accusation of pedophilia when someone says they prefer shaved? Why isn’t it assumed that they’re secretly into cougars? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/222 "2011-08-07T18:54:29Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > You know who else tends to have naturally bare pubic areas? Women past menopause. What ever gave you that idea? ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/223 "2011-08-07T19:46:09Z")
> [@Fear\_Itself](#): > > What ever gave you that idea? Caring for a lot of women in the hospital. And my mom told me (the plus side, she says, is that she doesn’t need to shave her legs anymore.) Pubic hair thins after menopause, and by the time they’re into “elderly”, there’s often nothing left. Which, I admit, makes diaper changes easier. Either it’s hormonal or there’s a huge underground Granny Brazilian market I was previously unaware of. ---
**Author:** ![DooWahDiddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e9bcb4/32.png) [@DooWahDiddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DooWahDiddy)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/224 "2011-08-07T19:46:26Z")
> [@Mijin](#): > > When I’m watching a porno and they’re talking about “oh look at that amazing pussy” I honestly have no idea what they’re talking about. You see, when a man and a woman love each other very much… ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2011, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/225 "2011-08-07T20:27:47Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > It’s porn. The younger generation has been given an unnatural and distorted idea of what a woman is supposed to look like. I started trimming and then shaving when I was 16 years old, right after I started having sex. I had never seen a porn. I have from time to time grown it out for various reasons and every time I hated it. Couldn’t feel anything, felt dirty, etc, hated the way it looked. ---
**Author:** ![Norse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/a9adbd/32.png) [@Norse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Norse)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 7:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/226 "2011-08-08T07:02:19Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > […] > food ON the body is REVOLTING. There is no way I’m licking food off of someone’s skin\* > […] > > \*I should add that I get grossed out watching people lick their own fingers, too, so my calibration may not be the norm here. 😕 This, I really don’t understand. What’s your position on deep kisses and oral then? Because I really can’t see that licking someone’s skin could be worse than licking said someone’s, uh, “privates” or the inside of his/her mouth… ---
**Author:** ![And\_his\_buzzer\_goes](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/and_his_buzzer_goes/32/377_2.png) [@And\_his\_buzzer\_goes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/And_his_buzzer_goes)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 12:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/227 "2011-08-08T12:05:55Z")
I find women with long hair, while not really unsexy, just bland. A shortish haircut looks feisty and a lot fresher. It’s a lot more practical too. Oh yes and spitting is really disgusting, I don’t care in what situation. If you need to lubricate, do it with some decency. Dirty talk is an instant turn-off and makes me go : “uhm, what ?!”. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/228 "2011-08-08T14:49:52Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > I started trimming and then shaving when I was 16 years old, right after I started having sex. I had never seen a porn. I have from time to time grown it out for various reasons and every time I hated it. Couldn’t feel anything, felt dirty, etc, hated the way it looked. This is exactly the kind of weird patholigization I’m talking about. Women who don’t shave their beavers are “dirty” to you? FYI, it isn’t dirty. It’s NORMAL. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/229 "2011-08-08T15:27:29Z")
And smelly. It may be normal, but you can still not like it. Ditto shaving legs and arms (and face for the guyz) ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/230 "2011-08-08T15:45:02Z")
> [@Unintentionally\_Blank](#): > > And smelly. It may be normal, but you can still not like it. Ditto shaving legs and arms (and face for the guyz) And I’ve heard plenty of guys say they shave their face because they feel sweaty and sticky and itchy in the summer with a beard. Doesn’t mean they think guys with beards are dirty, just that they, personally, feel cleaner clean shaven. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/231 "2011-08-08T15:46:53Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > This is exactly the kind of weird patholigization I’m talking about. Women who don’t shave their beavers are “dirty” to you? FYI, it isn’t dirty. It’s NORMAL. Not everything is about you, dude. She said _she_ feels dirty when she doesn’t shave. I seriously doubt she gives a fuck about your wife or whoever you’re being outraged on behalf of. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/232 "2011-08-08T15:54:19Z")
**OpalCat** expressed a preference. **Dio** expanded it to include ‘all women that don’t shave’, **WhyNot** is lumping in the Boys with Beards in the winter. Sheesh, folks do what they do for LOTS of reasons. Around here, they need to run it past legal before they state that preference, otherwise, they’ll be villified by one sex, and condemned to a life of psychotherapy by the other…(with a little dose of paedophilia thrown in) You folks take yourselves WAY to seriously. Some folks like it natural, others like it short-cropped, others like it bare. Having tried all three, bare _feels good_ but is a bitch for upkeep and ingrown hairs suck. Wild tangly is HOT, SWEATY, SMELLY, and harder to clean up after a wank (if I must be crude). I’m currently experimenting with a #1 clipper as the Beard trimmer has a whole, unused, cutter I’m not otherwise using. Shall I take the rap for, I dunno, pyromania? Reader of trashy novels? User of offbrand toothpaste? ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/233 "2011-08-08T15:59:03Z")
> [@Unintentionally\_Blank](#): > > Shall I take the rap for, I dunno, pyromania? Reader of trashy novels? User of offbrand toothpaste? I bet your toilet paper is hanging the wrong way and you leave your shoes on in the house. Or perhaps you take them off. :dubious: 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/234 "2011-08-08T16:00:22Z")
> [@Unintentionally\_Blank](#): > > And smelly. Cite? ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/235 "2011-08-08T16:01:28Z")
Data point on the pubic hair thing: in the past couple of years, I’ve had a couple of relationships. One was with a woman a bit older than I am (early forties). The other was with a woman a bit younger than I am (mid-twenties). The older lady was proudly trimmed to a glisten. The younger let it grow. I don’t think she even trimmed, though her hair was ‘naturally’ on the short side. Someone really should do a poll on this… ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/236 "2011-08-08T16:02:14Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Not everything is about you, dude. She said _she_ feels dirty when she doesn’t shave. I seriously doubt she gives a fuck about your wife or whoever you’re being outraged on behalf of. I didn’t say I was outraged about anything, nor did I say or imply anything about myself. though I’m sure Opal appreciates your chivalrous defense of her shaved snatch. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/237 "2011-08-08T16:04:39Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > Cite? Okay, lets keep your kinks out of this. 😃 Do your armpits get wet and smelly? (mine do) That pretty much happens EVERYWHERE there’s hair…guess where bacteria like to hang out? Also keep in mind some people sweat more than others. Some people SHOWER more than others. And yes, some people SMELL more than others. And I’m not going to debate this to the point my hygiene is a target. Winning this random Internet Debate is not high on my list of things to accomplish today. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/238 "2011-08-08T16:11:35Z")
It just seems to be a very common trope these days that women who don’t shave their beavers are “dirty,” and that something that used to be nothing but a porn kink is now (because of the prevalence of porn) perceived as some kind of necessary part of hygiene. That’s nonsense. If people enjoy the kink, fine, but it’s got nothing to do with hygiene (and it doesn’t eliminate odor). ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/239 "2011-08-08T16:25:35Z")
Is shaving your pits a kink? Cutting your hair? You’re using the logical fallacy that because shaving has ONE reason (Porn stars do it so you can see more) that that is the ONLY reason people do it. We might as well be debating why people don’t wear hats more often. People shave because (amongst other things) it FEEEEEELS BETTTER. Really. More nerve endings are in contact with more stuff. You should try it. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2011, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/240 "2011-08-08T16:30:20Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > I didn’t say I was outraged about anything, nor did I say or imply anything about myself. though I’m sure Opal appreciates your chivalrous defense of her shaved snatch. I think it only counts as chivalry when there’s nothing in it for you. Or me, rather. 🆒 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=11) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=13)