# What are things that are generally considered "sexy" that you find unsexy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 3, 2011, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324 "2011-08-03T14:54:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![The\_Peyote\_Coyote](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5f8ce5/32.png) [@The\_Peyote\_Coyote](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Peyote_Coyote)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/61 "2011-08-03T20:56:49Z")
Thongs ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/62 "2011-08-03T21:00:14Z")
> [@spark240](#): > > Are you suggesting that there’s a backlash against tattooing and piercing, and that those people will reconsider their work? That tattoos and body piercings will fade away? There’s a backlash, to be sure, as there would be with any ascendant cultural trend, but I wouldn’t count on the rest. I think tattoos are here to stay, at least for the lifetime of anyone now living. (crosses fingers and hopes against hope this thread doesn’t derail…cuz I see it coming) ---
**Author:** ![kushiel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbce88/32.png) [@kushiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kushiel)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/63 "2011-08-03T21:20:54Z")
Bear hair. I mean, if I’m going through a bird’s nest to touch a guy’s pecs sort of thing. (As an aside, I googled ‘Gaston’ to link a pic to the Disney version, and it came up with a lot of pics of a nice boy modelling underwear that definitely does not have any chest hair). Jersey Shore fake bake. There’s tanned, and then there’s _tanned_. It just seems unnatural to me. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/64 "2011-08-03T21:23:28Z")
> [@StusBlues](#): > > The whole “schoolgirl uniform” thing has never done it for me. I don’t find men in uniforms sexy, either. Or most accents, which women are also supposed to go crazy over. They don’t do much for me other than annoy…at best I find them neutral. I’d say really muscle-bound guys too, but I’m fairly well convinced that they work out that much solely for their own pleasure, not because they have hopes of attracting women with that sort of build. ---
**Author:** ![dzeiger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/46a35a/32.png) [@dzeiger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dzeiger)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/65 "2011-08-03T21:34:00Z")
> [@Fear\_Itself](#): > > Another thing: > > I like getting blowjobs. I do not like watching other guys getting blowjobs. I do not get aroused watching men have orgasms. Yet 98% of porn has the obligatory blowjob. I keep going to [www.noblowjobs.com](http://www.noblowjobs.com) just in case someone decides to cater to my malfunction. I have no problems with blowjobs, but I have noticed a tendency–at least in photoshoots and the like–for the woman giving the blowjob to be constantly looking at the camera. If you’re going to give a blowjob on film, at least try and act like you’re interested in doing it. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/66 "2011-08-03T21:38:02Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > Men who have been stripped of body hair. Hey, if you naturally don’t have chest hair, fine, but I hate the shaved look where everything below the nose is completely hairless.\ Oh yeah, that’s another good one - men usually have chest hair. I don’t know when exactly someone decided that men aren’t allowed to have chest hair, but I don’t support it. > [@StusBlues](#): > > \ > Also the aforementioned implants. Gina Carano just straight-up isn’t attractive with those things.\ Ah, yes, the “bolt-on boobs” look. > [@Procrustus](#): > > \ > But… does _ **anyone** _ find high heels sexy? Well, on the right guy… ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/67 "2011-08-03T21:46:47Z")
I, too, have never understood the appeal of blowjobs in porn. I see women’s faces every day. I see a penis every time I use the bathroom. I look at porn because I want to see things I _don’t_ see every day. On high heels: They’re not precisely a turn-off for me, but they preclude a lot of things that are turn-ons. I like seeing beautiful women in beautiful natural settings, and you won’t find someone in high heels beside a wild stream halfway up a mountain. I also like women to be more physically active than is really practical in heels. Artificiality: Natural blond hair is nice. Natural brown hair is nice. Brown hair that’s been bleached blond, not as nice as either. Bonus negative points if it’s hairsprayed so heavily that it breaks if you bend it, though fortunately that’s much less common than it used to be. And they’ve yet to make breast implants that are actually shaped like breasts: Large or small is fine by me, but they shouldn’t look like someone sliced a cantaloupe in half and stuck it to her chest. And a big amen on the pouty-face. Whatever happened to the good old-fashioned smile? ---
**Author:** ![VitrolicBump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a587f6/32.png) [@VitrolicBump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VitrolicBump)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/68 "2011-08-03T21:53:21Z")
Reading some of the other posts here, I have to say I do NOT like tans unless you are naturally tanned. Do not bake yourself, please. I am white and am happy with it. I have seen more than enough women who look look like overcooked turkeys, their skin is so wrinkled and nasty. Ugh And my god, I’m glad some people have said a thong. I don’t think having a piece of material covering your ass-crack is attractive. Plus, most of them don’t fit right on most frames anyway…And can we say banana hammock? EWWWW Heels are sexy but only when at a moderate height. I generally like a kitten or a little taller heel. Don’t wear them all the time but like them. And pants that are so low I can see your ass/underwear (if you’re wearing them) no…bad. I don’t care if you think the pants are attractive, I don’t want to see your asscrack. (That goes for both men and women.) A big turnoff and when it happens to me, I end up tossing the pants and finding something that fits better. I have other turnoffs…but I think I’ll save them. lol ---
**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/69 "2011-08-03T21:54:57Z")
> [@](#): > > Does ANYONE find long nails and/or tattoos sexy?[URL=“[http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/editpost.php?do=editpost&p=14096980](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/editpost.php?do=editpost&p=14096980)”] I find SOME tattoos on SOME guys to be fascinating. The tattoo has to be very well done, though, and it has to fit the guy. I’ve wanted a tattoo myself, but my father made me promise not to get one when I was a very young teenager. He released me from this promise a couple of years ago, but I’m middle aged and saggy skinned now, and I just don’t think it would be a good look on me. Plus I have medical issues now. I tell you, though, I’m tempted to get my allergies listed on a tattoo. ---
**Author:** ![thelurkinghorror](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7c8e57/32.png) [@thelurkinghorror](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thelurkinghorror)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/70 "2011-08-03T22:04:38Z")
> [@VitrolicBump](#): > > Reading some of the other posts here, I have to say I do NOT like tans unless you are naturally tanned. Do not bake yourself, please. I am white and am happy with it. I have seen more than enough women who look look like overcooked turkeys, their skin is so wrinkled and nasty. Ugh Yep. Even worse is tan lines. The high contrast across boobs just makes them that much more unattractive. Re: tattoos, I don’t prefer them but some women/men can carry them well. However, they can only be ok on a woman on the limbs, or maybe shoulderblade. Tramp stamps aren’t nice. Stomach or breasts (or groin!) is insta-turnoff. ---
**Author:** ![VitrolicBump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a587f6/32.png) [@VitrolicBump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VitrolicBump)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/71 "2011-08-03T22:05:00Z")
> [@Lynn\_Bodoni](#): > > I find SOME tattoos on SOME guys to be fascinating. The tattoo has to be very well done, though, and it has to fit the guy. > > I’ve wanted a tattoo myself, but my father made me promise not to get one when I was a very young teenager. He released me from this promise a couple of years ago, but I’m middle aged and saggy skinned now, and I just don’t think it would be a good look on me. Plus I have medical issues now. I tell you, though, I’m tempted to get my allergies listed on a tattoo. Someone suggested I get a tattoo that says “Epileptic”. ( I have epilepsy :P) I don’t because that’s not the only thing. It would be majorly pointless. I would rather just have a usb or some sort of barcode on me…lol ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 10:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/72 "2011-08-03T22:28:58Z")
I find shaved pubes attractive, and find laughable the idea that someone with a shaved groin could be mistaken for a prepubescent. But I’m not here to hijack. I find tans in general to be gross. I find stripper shoes to be silly, but actual high heels are just fine. Even high heels with a bit of a platform… my SO regularly wears 5" heels, and walks just fine. And I think they are sexy on her. But stripper shoes? No thanks. ---
**Author:** ![River\_Hippie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/river_hippie/32/26_2.png) [@River\_Hippie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/River_Hippie)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/73 "2011-08-03T22:35:47Z")
Long straight hair on women. I grew up in an area with some religious sects in which the women have long straight hair often with a little white cap on the top, no makeup or jewelry, long skirts, boring shoes. That’s cool, not knocking them, it’s just not a look that I find attractive. When I see women with real long straight hair that’s the vibe I get even if the rest of thier look doesn’t match up. I love extra short hair on women that can pull it off as long as it looks like she’s going for style as opposed to utility. Tattoos are very sexy to me if they are: (a) in the right places (for my tastes) (b) subject matter I find attractive © well done That rules out a lot of tattoos. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/74 "2011-08-03T22:46:24Z")
> [@Tristan](#): > > I find shaved pubes attractive, and find laughable the idea that someone with a shaved groin could be mistaken for a prepubescent. I don’t think the idea there, generally speaking, is that anyone is going to be _mistaken_ for a prepubescent. It’s that hairlessness is _suggestive_ of that, and many people don’t find that a sexy suggestion. ---
**Author:** ![GoodOmens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d26b3c/32.png) [@GoodOmens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GoodOmens)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/75 "2011-08-03T22:56:20Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Smoking. I know a lot of people admit it’s unhealthy but still find it sexy…I just think it’s silly. I’m not sure if it’s still generally thought of as sexy anymore, but I’m in full agreement. To badly misquote Bloom County, it makes you smell like Humphrey Bogart, who’s been dead for 50 years. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/76 "2011-08-03T22:56:28Z")
Lingerie. I just don’t care. ---
**Author:** ![lazybratsche](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ba8739/32.png) [@lazybratsche](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lazybratsche)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/77 "2011-08-03T23:03:56Z")
Another vote for lingerie. My wife, when we were first dating, tried a few times to wear something sexy. I think my strongest reaction was something along the lines of “that’s nice I guess, I suppose it’s flattering, but it’s in the way…” ---
**Author:** ![palacheck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a88e57/32.png) [@palacheck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/palacheck)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/78 "2011-08-03T23:49:56Z")
Clothes on women. Seriously. Very few times have I thought that a specific piece of clothing made a woman sexy. Garters, lingerie in general, thongs, lace, bras, etc. etc. do little for me. I would rather a woman wear granny panties and go topless than wear some expensive matching lace Victoria’s Secret get-up any day of the week. Why would you fetishize _clothing_? For example, that whole foot fetish subset that masturbates to the kind of SHOES(?!) the women are wearing just boggle the mind. But that’s an extreme example. I feel like an alien sometimes. About 85% of the time I’m completely baffled by the weird sexual fixations of (many) men. Women too I suppose, but I have less insight into their sexual weirdness. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [August 3, 2011, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/79 "2011-08-03T23:56:48Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Big boobs. I know I’m in the minority on this, but give me IBTs any day. Me too. And fake boobs are the worst. ---
**Author:** ![runcible\_spoon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9fc29f/32.png) [@runcible\_spoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/runcible_spoon)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/80 "2011-08-04T00:43:26Z")
> [@palacheck](#): > > Clothes on women. Seriously. > > Very few times have I thought that a specific piece of clothing made a woman sexy. Garters, lingerie in general, thongs, lace, bras, etc. etc. do little for me. I would rather a woman wear granny panties and go topless than wear some expensive matching lace Victoria’s Secret get-up any day of the week. > > Why would you fetishize _clothing_? For example, that whole foot fetish subset that masturbates to the kind of SHOES(?!) the women are wearing just boggle the mind. But that’s an extreme example. > > I feel like an alien sometimes. About 85% of the time I’m completely baffled by the weird sexual fixations of (many) men. Women too I suppose, but I have less insight into their sexual weirdness. Just to take the opposite position… naked women. Clothed women are far, far sexier to me than naked. For one thing, most people look kind of silly naked - they sag, they flop, there are fat rolls and so on, even if they’re pretty skinny. Basically, unless you’ve got small enough breasts to not sag, and very, very little bodyfat, not to mention great skin… you’re way sexier in clothing. Good clothing, anyways. On that note, large breasts. Yeah, they look decent with a ridiculous amount of bra support, but once they’re naked, they’re floppy and flabby. No thank you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=5)