# What are things that are generally considered "sexy" that you find unsexy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 3, 2011, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324 "2011-08-03T14:54:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![shel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@shel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shel)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/81 "2011-08-04T00:59:05Z")
I find poor language usage in either sex a complete turn off. It smacks of ignorance and stupidity, both of which I am forced to deal with on a near-constant basis and neither of which I can stand. As for looks, I’m not too picky, really. I’m all about the intelligence. shel ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/82 "2011-08-04T01:12:27Z")
> [@StusBlues](#): > > The whole “schoolgirl uniform” thing has never done it for me. Then again, I went to a rural public school, so there aren’t any coming-of-age associations linked to it for me. > > Also the aforementioned implants. Gina Carano just straight-up isn’t attractive with those things. > > Does ANYONE find long nails and/or tattoos sexy? Tattoos on a hot chick are definitely a turn on. Count 1 for the “yes” vote for finding tats a turn on. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/83 "2011-08-04T01:15:18Z")
> [@Unintentionally\_Blank](#): > > There’s a…butt shake movement some women do…that obviously works on some people, I don’t see it. It’s an active turn-off. If you are talking about that weird “motor ass” turbo-speed shake that was made popular by rap videos and the like, then I completely agree. Strange and NOT sexy. I get distracted and can’t look away when a woman/girl does this; how is it possible?? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![tomcar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7993a0/32.png) [@tomcar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomcar)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/84 "2011-08-04T01:25:16Z")
Fake, Fake, Fake! Fake Boobs, Nails, and Hair are all unappealing to me. I don’t like make up either. One thing you guys have to understand is that Lingerie is for the women not for men. Women like wearing it and being in it. Sure I like seeing a woman in it but it doesn’t exclusively turn me on. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/85 "2011-08-04T01:27:58Z")
Those white-tipped nails. I can’t wait for that whole thing to go away. Not a big fan of long nails anyway. They just look so dangerous in intimate situations and make a person nearly useless in every day situations. Tattoos. Another fad that can’t fade quick enough. The pouty-face. I enjoy porn, but it is rife with pouty faces. That’s why I prefer porn from the 90s like Private, and amateur porn. Give me a genuine smile any time. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/86 "2011-08-04T01:44:51Z")
> [@palacheck](#): > > Clothes on women. Seriously. > > Very few times have I thought that a specific piece of clothing made a woman sexy. Garters, lingerie in general, thongs, lace, bras, etc. etc. do little for me. > … > Why would you fetishize _clothing_? It’s not a fetish (well, not for me, and in most cases it isn’t) and it’s not _about_ the clothing, either. It’s about the woman; the lingerie or whatever is just presentation. IMO everything, anything, is more appealing in a harmonious context. The _right_ lingerie on a woman can be mind-blowing. By the same token, the right tattered old jeans, or whatever. It’s not the clothing making _her_ sexy; the sexiness is hers, and the right clothes just let you see it… just right. There’s a difference between clothing that accentuates and frames a woman’s own natural appeal, and clothing that masks her features, tries to make her look like something else. I’m talking only about the first. Also there’s a feedback effect. If I like her in skimpy thongs (shall we say), and she knows this, then putting on a thong makes her think about being sexy, about appealing to me. Then when I see her, _that idea_, and how she carries herself as a result, is sexy. And yadda yadda. ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/87 "2011-08-04T02:10:41Z")
I don’t think this was mentioned yet: \*\*fishnet \*\*stockings. Or \*any \*stockings, for that matter. mmm ---
**Author:** ![moejoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@moejoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moejoe)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/88 "2011-08-04T02:25:41Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > Big, muscly guys. Not into it. Give me a string bean any day, please. Mmm, I like a guy with a bit of a paunch. ---
**Author:** ![Namkcalb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c89c15/32.png) [@Namkcalb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Namkcalb)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/89 "2011-08-04T02:33:21Z")
Each woman has her own style which works best for her. Some woman benefit from lingerie if it helps emphasise her strengths and conceal her ‘weaknesses’. Some woman look awkward and embrassed in lingerie. Some women benefit from tattoos if it helps her achieve a certain ‘look’ whereas most women look best with uninked skin. Most woman look better, cleaner and sexier when they remove the hair around their genitalia, but if they are short, flat chested and youthful-looking, removing it would be torpedoing their only noticable indicator of puberty and thus their chances with anyone but Gary Glitter. :smack: The only thing we should all agree on is that duckfaces are as sexy as drying paint. ---
**Author:** ![punch\_line\_loser](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8e7dd6/32.png) [@punch\_line\_loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/punch_line_loser)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/90 "2011-08-04T02:47:39Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > Big boobs. I know I’m in the minority on this, but give me IBTs any day. Amen! Also lesbians. For the life of me I just don’t get it. ---
**Author:** ![Namkcalb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c89c15/32.png) [@Namkcalb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Namkcalb)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/91 "2011-08-04T02:51:12Z")
> [@punch\_line\_loser](#): > > Also lesbians. For the life of me I just don’t get it. If you are a gay woman, you’ll understand. ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/92 "2011-08-04T02:52:55Z")
> [@Namkcalb](#): > > Some women benefit from tattoos if it helps her achieve a certain ‘look’ . . . Well, for me at least that “look” they’re achieving is . . . not a polite term. ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/93 "2011-08-04T02:53:33Z")
> [@spark240](#): > > Are you suggesting that there’s a backlash against tattooing and piercing, and that those people will reconsider their work? That tattoos and body piercings will fade away? There’s a backlash, to be sure, as there would be with any ascendant cultural trend, but I wouldn’t count on the rest. I think tattoos are here to stay, at least for the lifetime of anyone now living. Nope. Just saying all these folks with tats and piercings today with smooth taut skin won’t have that look 30 years from now. ---
**Author:** ![punch\_line\_loser](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8e7dd6/32.png) [@punch\_line\_loser](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/punch_line_loser)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/94 "2011-08-04T02:54:34Z")
> [@Namkcalb](#): > > If you are a gay woman, you’ll understand. Sorry, I should have been more clear. I don’t get why straight dudes are so turned on by lesbians. I can definitely see why it would get a lesbian woman going, though. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/95 "2011-08-04T02:56:31Z")
> [@Duckster](#): > > Nope. Just saying all these folks with tats and piercings today with smooth taut skin won’t have that look 30 years from now. Ah. Well, I expect you’re right, for most of them anyway. But very few of us, inked or not, will have our “look” in thirty years. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/96 "2011-08-04T02:57:39Z")
Garter belts have never done a thing for me. I’m also turned off by fake boobs and shaved snatches - that whole porno look basically. I like a natural look. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/97 "2011-08-04T03:02:33Z")
That ubiquitous hair-do that women tend to get when they hit around 35 or so, I call it the “Hairstylist’s Hairstyle” because it seems like every damn woman hair stylist has some version of this “do”. The best way I can describe it is short everywhere, with the front bangs and middle of the hair cut straight at about a couple inches length. Then the hair in the back of the head is all ruffled and curled up, but still short. Sometimes it’s not exactly curly, but just wavy and bouncy but always shorter in the back and “done up” in some fashion. Blecchh…No thanks. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![F.U.Shakespeare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aca169/32.png) [@F.U.Shakespeare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F.U.Shakespeare)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/98 "2011-08-04T03:03:25Z")
It used to be a common meme that an angry woman was more attractive. I never got that. Maybe it made sense when women were more pressured to act aloof and repressed? I second the bafflement for the attraction so many straight males have for a pair of lesbians. As a straight male, my reaction is: move on pal, no need for you here. ---
**Author:** ![Namkcalb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c89c15/32.png) [@Namkcalb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Namkcalb)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/99 "2011-08-04T03:07:40Z")
> [@punch\_line\_loser](#): > > Sorry, I should have been more clear. I don’t get why straight dudes are so turned on by lesbians. I can definitely see why it would get a lesbian woman going, though. Yeah, that whole thing really confuses me too ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/100 "2011-08-04T03:10:11Z")
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