# What are things that are generally considered "sexy" that you find unsexy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 3, 2011, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324 "2011-08-03T14:54:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/101 "2011-08-04T03:11:26Z")
> [@Namkcalb](#): > > Yeah, that whole thing really confuses me too I am aroused by women in the throes of passion. If one is good, two is twice as good. Plus, no chance of blowjobs. ---
**Author:** ![typoink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecb155/32.png) [@typoink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/typoink)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/102 "2011-08-04T03:14:18Z")
> [@Namkcalb](#): > > Yeah, that whole thing really confuses me too Really? It’s pretty easy to explain: Many straight guys find naked women sexy. Lesbian porn has more naked women. Some guys also dislike seeing naked guys. It’s usually not my cup of tea, but I don’t think there’s anything tricky going on here. The “but lesbians don’t WANT you!” argument is silly, since a) porn stars generally don’t want you anyways, b) most on-screen lesbians aren’t really lesbians, and c) many people like the voyeuristic element of watching and aren’t fantastizing about participating. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Love](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Dr.Love](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Love)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/103 "2011-08-04T03:18:56Z")
> [@F.U.Shakespeare](#): > > It used to be a common meme that an angry woman was more attractive. I never got that. Maybe it made sense when women were more pressured to act aloof and repressed? I think the idea is that angry women passionately try to get what they want, rather than being passive. On another note, expanding on what **typoink** said, I think it’s pretty silly to apply logic to attraction at all. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/104 "2011-08-04T03:31:53Z")
Moving away from physical appearances: Sex in a pool/hot tub. Water does not make a good lubricant, sorry. Foreplay in the water? Bring it on, sailor. But let’s head to dry land before the main event starts. Sex on the beach/in a field/in the forest. Let’s just say that bugs are not conducive to good lovin’. Or sand in sensitive spots. Or cleaning pine sap out of my wool cloak… ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/105 "2011-08-04T03:39:14Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > Moving away from physical appearances: > > Sex in a pool/hot tub. Water does not make a good lubricant, sorry. Foreplay in the water? Bring it on, sailor. But let’s head to dry land before the main event starts. > > Sex on the beach/in a field/in the forest. Let’s just say that bugs are not conducive to good lovin’. Or sand in sensitive spots. Or cleaning pine sap out of my wool cloak… Totally agree with both of these 100%. ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/106 "2011-08-04T03:40:57Z")
I can get behind or under sex in the bush/es. ---
**Author:** ![DWMarch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dwmarch/32/1010_2.png) [@DWMarch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DWMarch)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/107 "2011-08-04T03:56:51Z")
Tight jeans, especially those really low-rise ones. Blech. Take a look at some old Wings episodes in which Crystal Bernard is wearing high-waisted, perfected fitted “mom” jeans. She looks fantastic, way better than any modern hoochie in those little tiny hip-huggers that don’t even come up past the pelvic bone. Bikinis. They do nothing! Schoolgirl outfits! If I ever rule the internet, I’m banning new schoolgirl outfit porn for 25,000 years! As a fetishist myself, I understand and appreciate the ubiquity of this fetish. But when every single Japanese cutie is dressed in a schoolgirl outfit and wouldn’t touch leather to save her life, it pisses me off to no end whatsoever! Also, schoolgirl uniforms give me a pedophilia vibe. Leather catsuits. I like leather but if you have a gal in a leather catsuit, you can’t do anything with her unless you peel it three-quarters of the way off, at which point it has lost all sex appeal. Nun porn. How anyone finds this sexy is beyond me and yet it seems like it’s everywhere. Ok, I get the idea that you want to corrupt the innocent, see what’s really going on under that long habit, etc. But the idea that every nun is a horny, freaky slut is stupid and offensive to me and I’m not even religious! Dominatrixes. They wear a lot of leather and should appeal to me. However, being whipped, humiliated and having my nutsack stepped on by some woman who thinks I’m a worm… doesn’t. Strange how that goes. Bondage. What’s the point of tying someone up and molesting them? It’s not sexy at all. I like porn where the woman can really get into it and it’s impossible for that to happen if she’s bound hand and foot and stuck in a harness! Also, most bondage is very anti-climactic, in that the guy will find a woman, drag her down to his dungeon, tie her up and… leave her there. Pointless and annoying. Nurse outfits. Naughty nurses do not arouse me, even if their costumes are leather, latex, etc. Combining sex and food. Gross! Porn scenarios that try to seem real when they’re obviously staged. There’s one site called “Can he score?” Pretty pointless if he can’t, no? Or “real sex lives of porn stars” because porn stars are always in porn mode and never get tired of having cum shot all over them. It’s like professional wrestling- stop trying to tell me it isn’t scripted! There’s a great concept called “dogging” in which a woman will orally service any man who happens to show up at some dodgy car park in England. And of course, this woman is such a slut she’s willing to suck any dick anyone cares to point at her, without worrying that said dicks might be havens for venereal disease. Or could it be that these “random” dicks have actually been carefully screened beforehand? One infected performer could shut your entire production company down but let’s just go out there and see which flavor of VD we can catch today! ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/108 "2011-08-04T04:00:38Z")
Man, yo guys are so whitbread! ---
**Author:** ![Serenata67](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/serenata67/32/10646_2.png) [@Serenata67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serenata67)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/109 "2011-08-04T05:50:55Z")
Men who are too manscaped. I like some chest hair… it’s manly. But then again, I don’t like flossing when I give head. Women with fake nails. I like a real woman. Curves, messy hair, no make-up… and no shellacked red talons. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/110 "2011-08-04T05:52:02Z")
Ah, well. Some of us (with short rises and short torsos) find that most ‘low-rise’ jeans come very close to our waist, and a ‘high rise’ is practically up to our boobs. [This](http://cn1.kaboodle.com/hi/img/b/0/0/5a/2/AAAAC2Zm7uEAAAAAAFogqw.jpg?v=1246969396000) is what I look like in a high rise - I think we can all agree that’s not sexy. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 6:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/111 "2011-08-04T06:20:37Z")
Women playfully wearing men’s clothing, particularly fedora-type hats and neckties. Women smoking Lots of cleavage ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/112 "2011-08-04T06:44:42Z")
Guys that are overly muscular. I like men that are in good shape and most definitely those with good muscle tone can be quite sexy, but this [Webshots - Desktop Wallpaper and Screen Savers](http://good-times.webshots.com/album/526913294sZygEy) …no thank you. It’s too much and doesn’t appeal to me in the least. I like tattoos as long as someone isn’t covered in them. On women – really long painted nails look absolutely unnatural to me and I have no idea what most men see in big boobs. When I lost 40 lbs last year most of mine went with the weight loss. I would like to lose another 10 lbs just to shrink down even more. If I was a lesbian I would not be attracted to women with big boobs. ---
**Author:** ![Norse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/a9adbd/32.png) [@Norse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Norse)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/113 "2011-08-04T06:50:56Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > does _ **anyone** _ find high heels sexy? I do. If the heels aren’t too high _and the woman can walk in heels_. And if they come off when the clothes come off. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 7:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/114 "2011-08-04T07:35:30Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > Nails no. Tattoos. sure. Not all of them, but I like a lot of them. > > But… does _ **anyone** _ find high heels sexy? > [@Norse](#): > > I do. If the heels aren’t too high _and the woman can walk in heels_. And if they come off when the clothes come off. Friendly advice, Ladyfriend: Here’s the deal: if you can’t walk properly in those heels… DON’T. If you look like your knees are bending and buckling as you try to walk …DON’T. Or like someone has shoved you really hard from the back so you are lurching forward…DON’T. Stick to flats. Maybe not as pretty, but you’ll look less like a camel and may be comfortable, too. This is how I feel about high heels. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 7:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/115 "2011-08-04T07:51:21Z")
Well. The post doesn’t ask what IS sexy, but I want to say this…restrained desire. The yearning is exquisite. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 8:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/116 "2011-08-04T08:14:53Z")
Getting into the spirit of this…Biggest Turn-off: shaved pubes. I’ve never encountered any but if I did, I would: 1. puke 2. laugh my ass off 3. ask the gentleman to leave, as the night would be over I guess I’m like George Lopez…when I make love I want it to be wet & wild; hairs plastered to sticky thighs. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/117 "2011-08-04T08:22:13Z")
> [@Duckster](#): > > Could we use the Wayback Machine and move ahead, say 30 years, and have all those folks with tats and body piercings today, get a glimpse of what we are seeing develop right now? As I posted on another thread, 30 yrs ago got a heart on my boob ala Janis Joplin. Now it looks like a chili pepper. Think forward peeps. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/118 "2011-08-04T09:37:00Z")
Guys with manicured eyebrows. I’ve always been attracted to guys with dark, heavy eyebrows, and it makes me sad, what some guys have done in the name of fashion. I’d rather see a monobrow; at least it’s natural-looking. And guys who are muscle-bound. I like skinny guys, very lean but defined muscles, single-digit bodyfat. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 12:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/119 "2011-08-04T12:07:23Z")
I love how all the “I want a real woman, not some 11 year old” pube comments are from old people. Is there anyone under 35 that prefers a big bush to shaved/trimmed? No. No there is not.\* Sorry, fogies, shaved pubes are The Future., the 70’s were a long time ago. And in that vein, I hate the bush. I want to taste the main event, not bother with an overabundance of garnish tickling my face and getting stuck in my teeth. I hate porn sounds and audio. I can’t watch any professional porn because the whole “oh yea. oh yea. oohhhh yea. I’m going to describe in small words exactly what you see on the screen. oh yea. ohhh yea?! oh yea. ohhh yeaaaa. .” \*I just know at least one of you wiseacres will try to prove me wrong. You are an aberration. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 12:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/120 "2011-08-04T12:35:21Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Guys with manicured eyebrows. I’ve always been attracted to guys with dark, heavy eyebrows, and it makes me sad, what some guys have done in the name of fashion. I’d rather see a monobrow; at least it’s natural-looking. For some of us, it’s not a monobrow situation, it a half dozen wiry 6 inch long eyebrows that had much more enthusiasm than their brethren. It’s not attractive, esp when compounded with the hair coming out my ears. ETA: Waiting expectantly for the person that says: “I find Ear hair teh sexxay” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=7)