# What are things that are generally considered "sexy" that you find unsexy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 3, 2011, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324 "2011-08-03T14:54:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/121 "2011-08-04T12:49:52Z")
> [@moejoe](#): > > Mmm, I like a guy with a bit of a paunch. Why single me out? > [@WhyNot](#): > > …Or cleaning pine sap out of my wool cloak… Wool Cloak…is that what they’re calling it these days? mmm ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/122 "2011-08-04T13:18:25Z")
I’m not getting all of the hate for blowjobs. I’m the opposite, I love watching blowjob scenes, but am bored to tears with coitus. With porn, that is. IRL it’s pretty much the opposite. ---
**Author:** ![sjankis630](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7ea924/32.png) [@sjankis630](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sjankis630)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/123 "2011-08-04T13:20:59Z")
Women catfighting. Or any kind of fighting for that matter. Hated those Miller Lite commercials. Why not just have the women looking sexy? ---
**Author:** ![BobLibDem](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/boblibdem/32/3149_2.png) [@BobLibDem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobLibDem)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/124 "2011-08-04T13:50:41Z")
Bare legs and dresses. No, painted toenails do not conceal varicose veins and cellulite. If you can’t be arsed to put on a pair of pantyhose, go ahead and wear pants. Tattoos. You might as well wear a t shirt that says, “I’m a skank”. Large breasts. B cups are plenty of tit for me. Long ass fingernails. Yeah, like I want Edward Scissorhands to be playing with my genitals. Thongs. No, underwear that disappears into your ass crack is more likely to wind up smelling like an outhouse than it is to turn me on. Lipstick and false eyelashes. ---
**Author:** ![MegaBee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f0a364/32.png) [@MegaBee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MegaBee)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/125 "2011-08-04T13:58:25Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I love how all the “I want a real woman, not some 11 year old” pube comments are from old people. Is there anyone under 35 that prefers a big bush to shaved/trimmed? No. No there is not.\* Sorry, fogies, shaved pubes are The Future., the 70’s were a long time ago. There’s a big difference between shaved (which is what the people in this thread are disliking) and trimmed. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/126 "2011-08-04T14:09:08Z")
1. Shaved privates 2. Lace undies 3. Any kind of leather or latex or metallic bondage-themed stuff 4. Tattoos of any kind 5. Piercings other than standard earrings 6. “Updo” hairdos. > [@EvilTOJ](#): > > Sorry, fogies, shaved pubes are The Future., the 70’s were a long time ago. Fashion is cyclical. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/127 "2011-08-04T14:40:14Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > Yep. I like 'em as big as swimmers (most swimmers - [Michael Phelps](http://www.thenewsinn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/07/michael-phelps-picture.jpg) is a bit too hulking for my taste) or gymnasts, but that’s the maximum amount of muscleyness, thanks. I like skinny guys and “fluffy” bear shaped guys, but hulks turn me off. I like fluffy bears too! Fluffy bears, tall skinny string beans, or short, compact little men… but no hulks. And I don’t even mean bodybuilders. In that preview for _Crazy, Stupid Love_ the girl asks the guy to take his shirt off and says he looks photo-shopped… I guess he was supposed to be sexy? So not attractive. And ditto on the Brad Pitt thing. I never understood that. > [@StusBlues](#): > > Does ANYONE find long nails and/or tattoos sexy? Yes, I find tattoos incredibly sexy on the right man. ---
**Author:** ![Trom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@Trom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trom)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/128 "2011-08-04T14:41:16Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I love how all the “I want a real woman, not some 11 year old” pube comments are from old people. Is there anyone under 35 that prefers a big bush to shaved/trimmed? No. No there is not.\* Sorry, fogies, shaved pubes are The Future., the 70’s were a long time ago. And in that vein, I hate the bush. I want to taste the main event, not bother with an overabundance of garnish tickling my face and getting stuck in my teeth. > > … I’m 27 and also amused by this. And the hate for tattoos. I don’t think twice when I see someone my age with tattoos. My ex-girlfriend has a tattoo covering 1/3 of her back and a half-sleeve on one arm, yet she is quite successful professional and not a skank. I know many, many young professionals with tattoos - doctors, lawyers, people in finance, etc. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/129 "2011-08-04T14:45:43Z")
This one’s gonna get booed, but three-ways just aren’t something I find desirable. I like to concentrate on the woman I’m with–her textures, her responses–and let everything else fade into the background. When there are two women there, I find it difficult to lose myself in the moment–it’s more like I’m performing. I multi-task fairly well in some arenas, but making love is not one of them. One woman at a time for me. YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/130 "2011-08-04T15:05:27Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I love how all the “I want a real woman, not some 11 year old” pube comments are from old people. Is there anyone under 35 that prefers a big bush to shaved/trimmed? No. No there is not.\* I think there is a huge difference between shaved completely bald and tastefully trimmed. I tried the shaving route once and it was a horrible, horrible experience for all involved - especially me. Never again. But basic grooming - well, that just goes without saying. And yeah, I’m the polar opposite of a skank and I have a tattoo. It’s not anywhere sexy, I didn’t do it for aesthetic reasons and I don’t care what it looks like in 30 years. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/131 "2011-08-04T16:58:27Z")
> [@StusBlues](#): > > This one’s gonna get booed, but three-ways just aren’t something I find desirable. I like to concentrate on the woman I’m with–her textures, her responses–and let everything else fade into the background. When there are two women there, I find it difficult to lose myself in the moment–it’s more like I’m performing. > > I multi-task fairly well in some arenas, but making love is not one of them. One woman at a time for me. YMMV. No booing from me. I agree entirely. My experience with this was not satisfying. I also like to concentrate on one man and would want him to do so with me. We are probably in the minority here however, because many folks believe that more is better. It’s not, IMHO. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/132 "2011-08-04T17:05:05Z")
More to the point: We’d like the chance to form an opinion. In the absence of experience, I’ll defer to the contributors. ---
**Author:** ![VitrolicBump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a587f6/32.png) [@VitrolicBump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VitrolicBump)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/133 "2011-08-04T17:05:22Z")
I agree on the three-way. Ugh. I had one pleasurable experience due to being doted on by both the man and woman. Other than that, the next one was horrible and I said I would never do it again as I’m selfish and don’t want to share the other person. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/134 "2011-08-04T17:15:11Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > I think there is a huge difference between shaved completely bald and tastefully trimmed. I tried the shaving route once and it was a horrible, horrible experience for all involved - especially me. Never again. But basic grooming - well, that just goes without saying. But “basic grooming” is itself a cyclical fad. For my mother, “basic grooming” means lathering with soap and rinsing when she showers. Even trimming the hairs at the thigh crease would be bizarre to her generation. IME, men under, oh, 60, like one degree of “trim” more than they’ll request. “I like a full, unshaven bush” means, “There better not be any hairs hanging out of your bikini.” “I’d love it if you just cleaned up the edges” means, “I’d like to see it with at least an inch of bare skin between your thigh and your pubic hair.” “Just a landing strip,” means, “Bring on the Brazilian, baby!” 😃 As a woman, I like to be completely shaved of pubic hair because it feels nice when it’s all wet and slick, and a sudden breeze brings a whole new facet to the party. But I’m not so fond of the maintenance, and I’m willing to do what my partner likes. One of these days, I’ll be able to afford waxing (no, I’m NOT capable of waxing my own pubic hair, thanks!). On other women, hair or no hair is about 834th on my list of what I think is sexy or not. It just doesn’t register. ---
**Author:** ![VitrolicBump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a587f6/32.png) [@VitrolicBump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VitrolicBump)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/135 "2011-08-04T17:19:28Z")
Thank you, **WhyNot**. I find it way more sensitive if I shave completely every now and then. Plus, like you, I love the feeling of any wetness coming from me or the other person. As for the maintenance, I have extremely sensi skin and will break out in a lovely huge ingrown hair or two if not careful. I end up going without doing anything for a bit…or as needs change. Most of the time I have no need considering I’m not with anyone. lol ---
**Author:** ![Lukeinva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lukeinva/32/17872_2.png) [@Lukeinva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lukeinva)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/136 "2011-08-04T17:27:36Z")
> [@DWMarch](#): > > Bikinis. They do nothing! :dubious: :eek: :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/137 "2011-08-04T17:28:22Z")
I think people who really need their women friends to be shaved should pitch in and help _do_ it. I’m not even particularly interested in shaved women and I’ve done it. It seems to me that if you like the shaved look and feel, you really want to go for _perfection_, not just something that looks bare from across the room. It’s certainly easier for me to achieve that on her than it is for her on herself. ---
**Author:** ![VitrolicBump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a587f6/32.png) [@VitrolicBump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VitrolicBump)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/138 "2011-08-04T17:34:20Z")
> [@spark240](#): > > I think people who really need their women friends to be shaved should pitch in and help _do_ it. I’m not even particularly interested in shaved women and I’ve done it. It seems to me that if you like the shaved look and feel, you really want to go for _perfection_, not just something that looks bare from across the room. It’s certainly easier for me to achieve that on her than it is for her on herself. I don’t know if I would trust someone to shave a tender area such as that…I mean, I’ve cut myself and it hurts like a bitch! ---
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/139 "2011-08-04T17:37:25Z")
> [@spark240](#): > > I don’t think the idea there, generally speaking, is that anyone is going to be _mistaken_ for a prepubescent. It’s that hairlessness is _suggestive_ of that, and many people don’t find that a sexy suggestion. Quite right. Obviously, by the time I get to the point where the ‘shaved or not shaved’ question is answered, I know quite well I’m with an adult. But the _suggestion_ of prepubescence is still rather repellant. > [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I love how all the “I want a real woman, not some 11 year old” pube comments are from old people. Is there anyone under 35 that prefers a big bush to shaved/trimmed? No. No there is not.\* Sorry, fogies, shaved pubes are The Future., the 70’s were a long time ago. And in that vein, I hate the bush. I want to taste the main event, not bother with an overabundance of garnish tickling my face and getting stuck in my teeth. If it’s getting stuck in your teeth, you’re doing it wrong. 😛 Ageism won’t help you, either - I didn’t hear anyone arguing for wildly uncontrolled out-of-control hair. As I said - Trimmed and neat is good. A landing strip or a bit of well-crafted topiary is just fine. _Bald_ is not, though. And you can’t have been checking your pr0n carefully, lately - hair _is_ coming back - in neatly controlled ways. 🙂 OTOH, I’m totally with you on the bad pr0n soundtracks. They suck, and not in a good way, either. > [@jamiemcgarry](#): > > If you are talking about that weird “motor ass” turbo-speed shake that was made popular by rap videos and the like, then I completely agree. Strange and NOT sexy. I get distracted and can’t look away when a woman/girl does this; how is it possible?? 😕 Agreed, entirely! Save I can, and _do_, look away. Why the hell is she trying to flail me with her buttocks? In what possible way is that sexy? Come to think of it, I feel the same way about the ‘titty flail’ move, also. Lady, I don’t need to be beaten by your breasts, and besides, it looks like it’s hurting the hell out of _you_, too. Hosiery is cool, most certainly including suspenders (NOT Garters - those hold your sleeves out of the ink or hold up ONE stocking, nor braces either - _Those_ hold up your pants!). But I never did get the point of fishnets. Nor of cat suits. Those both leave me cold. Lesbians, I get. Sex and fun, with no guys littering up the field of view. In fact, I dislike most pr0n involving men at all (most _especially_ including that with BJs and ‘money shots’!) - I want to see _women_ and _only_ women, thank you kindly. Sex outdoors just needs a little attention to details and the right attitude. Sex in a pool, in the ocean, or on a beach, though? _Naaaah._ A little too ‘ouchy’ for me. Bondage is more in the mind than in the physicality. The props are there to bring the mind to the scene. It’s all about trust, power transfer, surrender, and the thrill of toying with the loss of control and delayed gratification. It’s most certainly not for everyone! Nothing wrong with being vanilla, if that’s what you like, but this is one area where the rainbow of exotic flavors is nearly unlimited. Needless to say, I enjoy this area, and it’s the one area where I don’t mind men being present in my pr0n. 3-somes are an iffy point. They can require a bit of thought, if you wish to avoid one (or more!) of the parties coming away unhappy with the event. That’s a bit too much like work for me, most days. _Some_ times it works out well, but IME, only when some ground rules are laid out first. Which makes it not really ‘sexy.’ Fun, certainly, but not ‘sexy.’ ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [August 4, 2011, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324/140 "2011-08-04T17:40:18Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > I think there is a huge difference between shaved completely bald and tastefully trimmed. I tried the shaving route once and it was a horrible, horrible experience for all involved - especially me. Never again. But basic grooming - well, that just goes without saying. I don’t necessarily love the bushy _ **look** _, but the bush keeps the erm… personal aroma, which drives me crazy like a visceral instinctual reaction. Joe [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-sexy-that-you-find-unsexy/591324.md?page=8)