# What are things that are generally considered "unsexy" that you find sexy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 9, 2011, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008 "2011-08-09T00:10:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2011, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/101 "2011-08-12T20:06:49Z")
> [@HeyHomie](#): > > At the risk of grossing everybody right the hell out, let me just state that there is a category of porn that is, for me, a comlete turn-on. For the rest of the world, it’s the exact opposite. > > Now porn, like anything, can be taken to the extreme, and in this category of porn there are, of course, millions of examples of it being taken too far. But when it’s done with subtlety and “taste” (as much as one can have “taste” in porn), it’s HAWT. Fisting? Scat? ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2011, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/102 "2011-08-12T20:09:13Z")
> [@HeyHomie](#): > > At the risk of grossing everybody right the hell out, let me just state that there is a category of porn that is, for me, a comlete turn-on. For the rest of the world, it’s the exact opposite. > > Now porn, like anything, can be taken to the extreme, and in this category of porn there are, of course, millions of examples of it being taken too far. But when it’s done with subtlety and “taste” (as much as one can have “taste” in porn), it’s HAWT. > > Also nerdy chicks. :o Who else is dyin’ to know but afraid to ask? ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2011, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/103 "2011-08-12T20:11:43Z")
> [@Dogzilla](#): > > Who else is dyin’ to know but afraid to ask? I fear nothing. Well, that’s a lie. I fear little on the Dope, though. What’s the genre, **HeyHomie**? Answer quickly, or I will threaten you again. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2011, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/104 "2011-08-12T20:43:49Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > Fisting? Scat? Bestiality? ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2011, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/105 "2011-08-12T21:25:10Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > Bestiality? Because, per **HeyHomie** , when it’s “done with subtlety and taste, it’s HAWT”??? Where’s that brain bleach when you need it? ---
**Author:** ![Heart\_of\_Dorkness](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/4bbf92/32.png) [@Heart\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heart_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2011, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/106 "2011-08-12T21:29:37Z")
Scat was my first thought, too. C’mon, **HeyHomie** , fess up. ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/107 "2011-08-13T00:58:11Z")
Oh jeez. Well it’s not scat - but it’s in the same ballpark. I don’t like watching smearing & eating and such, but I _do_ find the… _going_ a turn-on. And now I’m totally embarassed. :o If you need me, I’ll be… somewhere else. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/108 "2011-08-13T01:28:45Z")
> [@HeyHomie](#): > > Oh jeez. > > Well it’s not scat - but it’s in the same ballpark. I don’t like watching smearing & eating and such, but I _do_ find the… _going_ a turn-on. > > And now I’m totally embarassed. :o > > If you need me, I’ll be… somewhere else. Let me guess…behind a small peep hole in a women’s restroom? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/109 "2011-08-13T01:49:58Z")
> [@HeyHomie](#): > > Oh jeez. > > Well it’s not scat - but it’s in the same ballpark. I don’t like watching smearing & eating and such, but I _do_ find the… _going_ a turn-on. > > And now I’m totally embarassed. :o > > If you need me, I’ll be… somewhere else. Let me guess…behind a small peep hole in a women’s restroom? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/110 "2011-08-13T03:44:49Z")
Now for something different. Hopefully, Hymie’s revelation has not killed the thread. My dark secret, the right kind of bruising on a man really turns me on. I don’t want him black and blue, just one on the shoulder or chest and a fading one on the face that lets me know he’s not a delicate little mama’s boy, but somebody who can take care of himself. ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 12:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/111 "2011-08-13T12:51:13Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > My dark secret, the right kind of bruising on a man really turns me on. I don’t want him black and blue, just one on the shoulder or chest and a fading one on the face that lets me know he’s not a delicate little mama’s boy, but somebody who can take care of himself. Mrs. Homie says my scars are sexy. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/112 "2011-08-13T16:42:08Z")
This thread is a breath of fresh air. It’s good to know there’s someone out there for those of us who are… less conventionally attractive. I too, find short men attractive. I like ‘em tiny, I guess. And they seem to like me too. My husband is 5’7’’ and 135 pounds. It’s funny, all the women my husband was interested in before me were very similar in body shape - short, muscular, 15-20 pounds overweight, incredibly busty with wide hips. Apparently that’s like his thing. Whereas in my experience tall, skinny men do not find me attractive. It makes me wonder if certain body types are attracted to certain other body types. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/113 "2011-08-13T17:49:51Z")
**What are things that are generally considered “unsexy” that you find sexy?** Women bodybuilders. I realize that most people find them freaky, but I think they’re exceptionally sexy (if not necessarily “pretty”). ---
**Author:** ![Icerigger](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/icerigger/32/432_2.png) [@Icerigger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icerigger)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/114 "2011-08-13T20:29:27Z")
I find a woman on a swing to be incredibly sexy. ---
**Author:** ![Troppus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a587f6/32.png) [@Troppus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Troppus)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2011, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/115 "2011-08-13T21:51:23Z")
> [@HeyHomie](#): > > Oh jeez. > > Well it’s not scat - but it’s in the same ballpark. I don’t like watching smearing & eating and such, but I _do_ find the… _going_ a turn-on. > > And now I’m totally embarassed. :o > > If you need me, I’ll be… somewhere else. Pah ha ha **HeyHomie** Those initial erotic thoughts and experiments stick with us, no? …my health-nut parents wouldn’t allow junkfood in my home as a kid. But the neighbor brothers (10 and 12) always had candy, and would ask to see 4 year old me pee in exchange for sugary contraband. I’ve always figured that satisfying their innocent curiosity about girl parts \*in that particular manner \*followed them to adulthood. Didn’t affect me in the least, cause my mind was on the sweets, but I suspect those two fellas reflect on the bartering differently. ---
**Author:** ![chorpler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chorpler/32/2888_2.png) [@chorpler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chorpler)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/116 "2011-08-14T01:30:56Z")
I can’t believe **handsomeharry** stole my “acne scars” answer. I think I posted about that in another thread a few months ago. (ETA: Oh, and chicken pox scars. My wife has a couple of those.) Oh, and on another subject… > [@peter1](#): > > I don’t like really big breasts. A nice handfull is perfect and the thought of them and other parts being tied and, in the process, being subjected to just a little bit of pain makes the juices flow. > > … > > I love the smell and taste of a womans body, particularly when she is under duress. This is referring to **consensual** pain and duress, right? ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/117 "2011-08-14T01:35:23Z")
> [@chorpler](#): > > This is referring to **consensual** pain and duress, right? I rather hope **peter1** doesn’t answer that question; doing so could easily derail the thread. Back on topic: I like women wearing long, flowing skirts that show no skin whatsoever (so long as they still hint at a lithe body underneath). ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/118 "2011-08-14T05:18:21Z")
> [@beowulff](#): > > **What are things that are generally considered “unsexy” that you find sexy?** > > Women bodybuilders. > I realize that most people find them freaky, but I think they’re exceptionally sexy (if not necessarily “pretty”). Are you talking about the extreme steroid enhanced class of body builders (with the 5% body fat and the deep voices and male facial development), or natural body-building? Cause most natural body-builders are very conventionally attractive, and even more so in the off-season where they allow their body fat into a more normal range. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/119 "2011-08-14T05:20:49Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > Are you talking about the extreme steroid enhanced class of body builders (with the 5% body fat and the deep voices and male facial development), or natural body-building? Cause most natural body-builders are very conventionally attractive, and even more so in the off-season where they allow their body fat into a more normal range. I agree with this 100%; this is an _extremely_ important distinction to make. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2011, 6:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008/120 "2011-08-14T06:32:21Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Guys are supposed to have hairy chests Bullshit. Men are “supposed” to have whatever they have. You may prefer hairy chests, and you may find it silly or unattractive when men remove what body hair they do have, but that does not make it okay to insult the billions of men out there who have hairless chests. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-things-that-are-generally-considered-unsexy-that-you-find-sexy/592008.md?page=7)