And this is terrifying, knowing that no matter how hard you work to instill positive values, they could be the orchestrators of their own doom and there’s not a damn thing you can do about it.
I recently got into a discussion with a sanctimonious, childless college student who attributed every teen relationship failure to the kid’s parents. People without children, it seems to me, tend to way overestimate the power a parent has over their kid’s decisions.
I’m new at parenting, but what’s so crazy - making about it, for me, is that there are a billion things to worry about teaching your child. Even with my 14 month old, it’s like every second is imbued with a sense of responsibility for… everything to do with this kid’s development. Should I be feeding him a wider variety of foods? Should I be pushing him to use a spoon more? Should I let him select his clothing today? (I tried - he’s not there yet.) Is he getting enough social contact? Will he learn to share? Are we exposing him to enough novelty? Should I say the words for things or make him try it? (So far he has not said a single word, and I’m trying not to freak.) Am I responsive enough but not indulgent with his emotions?
And on, and on, and on, and on.
And that’s when you realize that you’re going to miss things. No matter how hard you try, you can’t forsee every challenge of every aspect of development. Parenting is literally an impossible task.
I’m sure when kids get older, it’s nice to not have diapers and toddlers destroying everything they touch, but I imagine this teaching responsibility gets infinitely more complex. And Og help us all with adolescence. It’s already the thing I worry about the most.