# What are you shallow about?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [December 12, 2003, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537 "2003-12-12T05:38:38Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)
#### Post date: [December 12, 2003, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/21 "2003-12-12T19:59:41Z")
You dated Beck?
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### Author:  [@scout1222](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scout1222)
#### Post date: [December 12, 2003, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/22 "2003-12-12T20:10:44Z")
Understated, but brilliant, **lieu**!
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### Author:  [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)
#### Post date: [December 12, 2003, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/23 "2003-12-12T20:24:01Z")
If you are really shallow about something, by definition you are not aware of it and therefore cannot post it here. š
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### Author:  [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)
#### Post date: [December 12, 2003, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/24 "2003-12-12T20:41:36Z")
Is Beck a little bitty guy?
And, Malthus, that would be āignorantā, not āshallowā.
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### Author:  [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)
#### Post date: [December 12, 2003, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/25 "2003-12-12T21:02:40Z")
Naw. [He just likes to get crazy with the Cheeze Whiz.](http://trueromance10.tripod.com/loser.html)
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### Author:  [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)
#### Post date: [December 12, 2003, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/26 "2003-12-12T21:34:49Z")
Godā¦I feel like such a geezer. A Cheeze Whiz Geezer.
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### Author:  [@boofy\_bloke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/boofy_bloke)
#### Post date: [December 13, 2003, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/27 "2003-12-13T05:29:04Z")
I met a guy on the net, we traded pics, chatted by SMS (phone text), arranged to meetā¦ he sent me a text saying [slight paraphrase]I just walked past you. No. I have an image to uphold.[/slight paraphrase]
Thatās shallow!
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### Author:  [@anu-la1979](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anu-la1979)
#### Post date: [December 13, 2003, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/28 "2003-12-13T05:30:06Z")
I no longer date Indian men who have fewer degrees than I do-I could care less myself, but have instituted this blanket policy as a means of is self-protection from psychotic Indian parents pissed off that Iām too much of over-qualified for their Precious-Wecious who deserves someone more submissive and complacent. What that has to do with not going to graduate school is beyond me but I can only take so many heart-wrenching breakups where Iām summarily dismissed for someone from the Mother Country. So Iām a shallow degree snob, I guess.
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### Author:  [@skeptic\_ev](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/skeptic_ev)
#### Post date: [December 13, 2003, 5:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/29 "2003-12-13T05:48:26Z")
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> My interpretation of a shallow person is someone who is not being honest with either themselves or the rest of the world.
I would call that hypocritical or perhaps delusional, **wendyrules** , not shallow. If I knew someone who said, āI want a six-foot hunk who wears $5000 suits, owns three homes, and spoils me rotten,ā regardless of how _honest_ that person was being, I would most certainly consider her shallow.
Shallow just means superficial. If you are shallow, you are āconcerned only with what is obvious.ā (WordNet, Princeton University) So, yes, if you wonāt date guys under a certain height, that is, by definition, shallow.
That being said, most of us have shallow traits. (I, for instance, am rendered queasyāand not in a good wayāby the site of a super-hairy guy.) Itās a part of human nature thatās not particularly endearing, but most people keep it under control.
BTW, **CanvasShoes** , I donāt think the smoking/drinking thing is shallow at all. I would never date someone who didnāt care about his health or the health of others; nor would I date someone whose way of dealing with the world was crawling into a bottle.
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### Author:  [@Ryle\_Dup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ryle_Dup)
#### Post date: [December 13, 2003, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/30 "2003-12-13T06:01:23Z")
Honestly I donāt know, the only girl Iāve dated(dating) I met through the internet, fell in love with her before I knew what she looked like, and she turned out to be gorgeous. I donāt know if the loving her thing made her more pretty or not, but no matter, I think sheās beautiful.
Thereās nothing about her Iād really change, prettiest woman I know of. So Iām not sure what would be shallow to me.
I donāt really know what qualifiers I would have on other women, but I donāt think it matters to me anymore, Iād never reject someone for their looks. But, doesnāt matter anymore to me.
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### Author:  [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)
#### Post date: [December 13, 2003, 12:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/31 "2003-12-13T12:07:36Z")
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> \*Originally posted by Jervoise \*
> \*\* I donāt trust non-drinkers (except for ex-drinkers or those with health issues), or people who donāt know how to party hard.
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:eek: :eek: :eek:
Sorry to hijack, but um Whaaaa?
So, you LIKE men who steal money from your purse to buy beer? Men who get stupid and make mean cracks? Men who donāt come home until 4am, and when they do theyāre smelling of alchohol and even though theyāve ignored you all week long all the sudden itās ācāmere baby, how 'bout a littleā??
Youāve got me WAAAAAAY curious here, why are ānon-drinkersā the not to be trusted ones?
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### Author:  [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)
#### Post date: [December 13, 2003, 12:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/32 "2003-12-13T12:11:50Z")
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> \*Originally posted by skeptic\_ev \*
> \*\*BTW, **CanvasShoes** , I donāt think the smoking/drinking thing is shallow at all. I would never date someone who didnāt care about his health or the health of others; nor would I date someone whose way of dealing with the world was crawling into a bottle. \*\*
Youād be surprised how often Iāve been accused by drinkers/smokers, or men who do _both_ of not only being shallow, or a snob, but that Iām ātrying to tell them what to doā. š
In other words, they viewed my preferences as trying to say that they ācouldnātā drink, smoke, do drugs, and so on. No, you can drink, smoke and blow crack to your little old hearts content, but you probably will narrow your dating field that way.
[Divine as the Sea Witch]āLifeās just full of tough choices, IDNāt itā???[/Divine as Ursula]
God dating sucks. š
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### Author:  [@UselessGit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UselessGit)
#### Post date: [December 13, 2003, 12:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/33 "2003-12-13T12:54:40Z")
Iām fairly shallow when it comes to looks, Iāve nothing against people who arenāt stunners but I just canāt look past the looks when it comes to romantic notions. I also have an immense disliking of dumb women and I tend to think good looking women are stupid before talking to them. Iām usually right, though. Oh, and Iām afraid to handle skinny girls, afraid I might break somethingā¦
I could never date a girl that I thought was seriously lacking in intellect, pretty sad considering that I have no education from the age of 16 and am, by all normal standards, a drop-out/failureā¦
Soā¦ shallow, dim AND pretentious, beat thatā¦
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### Author:  [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)
#### Post date: [December 28, 2003, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/34 "2003-12-28T21:07:32Z")
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> \*Originally posted by jesleigh \*
> \*\*But, I have noticed something. I can not date a guy that is shorter than me. I know it is shallow, but I just canāt do it. \*\*
Very, very interesting. Notice how the flames arenāt flying.
However, if some poor guy admitted to not liking fat women, this thread would be on its second or third page, at least, with a spinoff in the Pit.
As for me ā¦ yeah, Iāll admit to the weight thing. If she seems larger than me, I just canāt find myself attracted to her, no matter how wodnerful her personality. Baby fat is fine, but self-identified BBWs ā¦ well, things just seem out-of-whack. I should be the one that has a greater physical presence, not her.
That, and gummy smiles too.
elmwood (all 5ā 10" of me, and waiting for the inevitable Pitting. ā¹ )
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### Author:  [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)
#### Post date: [December 28, 2003, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/35 "2003-12-28T21:26:05Z")
Way down deep
in very inmost inner me
my heart of hearts
the depth of my soul
Iām really quite shallow.
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That being said, whenever some friend or family member accuses me of being shallow in something, I respond that itās not shallow. Itās my preference. My taste. Trying to make everyone ascribe to _your_ ideals, to me, THATāS what shallow.
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### Author:  [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)
#### Post date: [December 28, 2003, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/36 "2003-12-28T21:28:35Z")
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> \*Originally posted by CanvasShoes \*
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> God dating sucks. \*\*
Try dating mortals.
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### Author:  [@geewhiz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/geewhiz)
#### Post date: [December 28, 2003, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/37 "2003-12-28T21:50:06Z")
1. Donāt date hard partiers or drinkers.
2. Will not date a non atheletic guy or one who is below what I consider a 7 on a scale of 1 to10
3. If he doesnāt read books he better have some other redeeming quality.
4. I wonāt date boys but real men (responsible, educated, stable)
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### Author:  [@geewhiz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/geewhiz)
#### Post date: [December 28, 2003, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/38 "2003-12-28T21:50:06Z")
1. Donāt date hard partiers or drinkers.
2. Will not date a non atheletic guy or one who is below what I consider a 7 on a scale of 1 to10
3. If he doesnāt read books he better have some other redeeming quality.
4. I wonāt date boys but real men (responsible, educated, stable)
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### Author:  [@geewhiz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/geewhiz)
#### Post date: [December 28, 2003, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/39 "2003-12-28T21:55:44Z")
Oh and another thing, I do date alot.
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### Author:  [@\_ceQueen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_ceQueen)
#### Post date: [December 28, 2003, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-you-shallow-about/218537/40 "2003-12-28T22:03:16Z")
Astrology.
I wonāt date Scorpios, Tauruses and probably Cancers.
Sorry.
Or maybe, itās a āyouāll thank me later.ā
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