# What are your thoughts RE: Fat people in tight clothes
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion
**Created:** [July 21, 2014, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646 "2014-07-21T04:59:01Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Qwisp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qwisp)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/41 "2014-07-21T20:23:55Z")
My mom is going to be 70 this year and is still worried about the way she looks. I’ve decided, the hell with that. I 've decided I’m going to wear what ever I want, you can suck it. I am a size twelve, probable what used to be a size 16 before vanity sizes. Heck may even get a bikini to wear in my next year. It will be the first time in 30 years I’ve owned one. I’m tired of not liking my body ,and being fat shamed. I’m weep for all the girls that will be ignored by society because they are not the ideal weight. I am a person with feelings and ideas, and things to talk about and I’m tired of being invisible because of my weight. So no I will not spare you the indignity of having to see me in tight clothes, because frankly I don’t care anymore what any of you think.
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### Author:  [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/42 "2014-07-21T20:47:06Z")
> [@Qwisp](#):
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> My mom is going to be 70 this year and is still worried about the way she looks. I’ve decided, the hell with that. I 've decided I’m going to wear what ever I want, you can suck it. I am a size twelve, probable what used to be a size 16 before vanity sizes. Heck may even get a bikini to wear in my next year. It will be the first time in 30 years I’ve owned one. I’m tired of not liking my body ,and being fat shamed. I’m weep for all the girls that will be ignored by society because they are not the ideal weight. I am a person with feelings and ideas, and things to talk about and I’m tired of being invisible because of my weight. So no I will not spare you the indignity of having to see me in tight clothes, because frankly I don’t care anymore what any of you think.
This pretty much sums up why I’m a fan of fat people dressing in form-fitting clothes. Feeling shame is a horrible way to go through life.
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### Author:  [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/43 "2014-07-21T21:02:52Z")
> [@Qwisp](#):
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> My mom is going to be 70 this year and is still worried about the way she looks. I’ve decided, the hell with that. I 've decided I’m going to wear what ever I want, you can suck it. I am a size twelve, probable what used to be a size 16 before vanity sizes. Heck may even get a bikini to wear in my next year. It will be the first time in 30 years I’ve owned one. I’m tired of not liking my body ,and being fat shamed. I’m weep for all the girls that will be ignored by society because they are not the ideal weight. I am a person with feelings and ideas, and things to talk about and I’m tired of being invisible because of my weight. So no I will not spare you the indignity of having to see me in tight clothes, because frankly I don’t care anymore what any of you think.
GO for it.
I have _never_ understood the whole fat-shaming thing the OP espouses. Nor do I care what other people wear or how they look; how shallow is that?
One of my best friends is also a nudist (as am I). She is extremely obese but feels very comfortable being completely naked in a non-judgemental setting and says that it has probably been the number-one reason she does not actually hate her body. She learned that once the clothing filter was removed people dealt with her on a much more honest basis.
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### Author:  [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/44 "2014-07-21T21:04:42Z")
> [@Krouget](#):
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> If it’s put together and presented well, it can be pulled off.
If you do, the result will be nudity.
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### Author:  [@JackieLikesVariety](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JackieLikesVariety)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/45 "2014-07-21T22:03:38Z")
good for you, Quisp!
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### Author:  [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/46 "2014-07-21T22:11:46Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#):
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> Is it? I was at REI yesterday looking for a jacket, and found rack after rack of nothing but S and XL or XXL. I suppose doubleplus-sized customers may not, ah, gravitate toward outdoor gear stores for their clothing purchases, but I’ve had similar experiences just trying to buy jeans in regular department stores. Discrimination against the mid-to-large, I tell you!
Try finding pants with a 58" waist in a department store. Or 3XL T-shirts so I can make sure my ass is covered. They don’t have those sizes at Wal-Mart or Target last time I looked. And no, I don’t have the time or inclination to drive around to specialty stores.
> [@kopek](#):
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> Missed this first time through. 2 through 5XL try a Harley shop if you’re male; worse comes to worse you can sometimes trim off the patch and their stuff wears as good as it looks. I got a jacket from the mid 80s that looks as good as ever. Ignore the “new” stuff and haunt the clearance racks. Find a HOG member and get his old atlas for when you travel. You will be a fashion hit in no time.
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> If you are female forget I even mentioned it. The MotherCompany thinks every woman out there is a tramp sized 2 or less.
I never considered a Harley shop. But then, I’ve never ridden a motorcycle in my life, so the notion never occurred to me. And I like just wearing casual clothes. T-shirt and jeans. I know my sizes and would rather just buy my clothes online and have Fed-Ex drop them off at my front door rather than run around looking for a specialty clothing shop.
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### Author:  [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/47 "2014-07-21T22:17:55Z")
> [@Roderick\_Femm](#):
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> You have to love all these assumptions:
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> 1. Fat people shouldn’t try to hide the fact that they’re fat by wearing loose-fitting clothing. Or maybe they are wearing what makes them comfortable, and they don’t care what you think.
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> 2. Most fat people are poor - or maybe people who make sweeping generalizations like this have no idea what is or is not true about fat people.
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> 3. Most fat people are gaining weight - or maybe again you are making a completely invalid and unsupported generalization.
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> And yet if they do, you sneer at them for trying to hide their fat. There’s just no winning with you, is there. What you really mean, is that people shouldn’t be fat in public.
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> Your post makes me wish we were in the pit, because if I were to post what I think about you here it would get me a warning.
I made an observation and expressed it. No doubt you have surprising cites that will demonstrate that I am wrong. Such as the decline in the obesity rate, and the positive correlation between body fat and personal worth. Of course, you can win with me. Just demonstrate that I am wrong with something more tangible than a contrasting opinion and a personal attack and a WAG about what I “really mean”…
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### Author:  [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/48 "2014-07-21T22:24:29Z")
> [@Timetrvlr](#):
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> We see it every day, everywhere; fat people wearing the tightest clothes they can stretch and get into. Is this a game to see who has the most rolls? I understand being fat and unable to lose that extra 50 pounds, I have that problem but I sure don’t show it off, I try to hide it by wearing large, loose clothing. Am I out to lunch on this?
Did someone say lunch?
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### Author:  [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/49 "2014-07-21T22:37:12Z")
> [@Johanna](#):
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> If that’s the case, I’d sure hate to see Worst Korea.
Best Korea is a [meme](http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/events/justin-bieber-to-north-korea) for North Korea. North Korea, by the way, had a [TV show](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Let%27s_trim_our_hair_in_accordance_with_the_socialist_lifestyle) to shame people into getting haircuts.
People in Seoul dress like Westerners, at least if my Google image search is accurate.
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### Author:  [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/50 "2014-07-21T22:58:08Z")
To be fair, those pants and shirts were baggy when they bought them two years ago.
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### Author:  [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/51 "2014-07-21T23:10:56Z")
> [@jtur88](#):
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> I made an observation and expressed it. No doubt you have surprising cites that will demonstrate that I am wrong. Such as the decline in the obesity rate, and the positive correlation between body fat and personal worth. Of course, you can win with me. Just demonstrate that I am wrong with something more tangible than a contrasting opinion and a personal attack and a WAG about what I “really mean”…
You expressed assumptions (and expressed them as if they were facts) that I challenged, so if we are going to ask for cites then it’s on you first. If you had said as much as “it seems to me” then I wouldn’t have bothered responding, as everyone would already understand that these were over-reaching observations based on your limited experience (and some extrapolation, otherwise I have no idea what you are using for evidence that most fat people are gaining weight).
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### Author:  [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)
#### Post date: [July 21, 2014, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/52 "2014-07-21T23:37:53Z")
[Fat guy in a little coat](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ohz8_IafGwE)
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### Author:  [@MrsTime](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrsTime)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2014, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/53 "2014-07-22T01:29:06Z")
I too am fat, and could well afford to lose 50 lbs. However I wear my clothes one size too big, and never wear t-shirts! My tops are mainly cotton and yes I have to iron several of them. I had a nasty surgery a few years ago that cut me from just under the boobs to the belly button, it cut the nerves so I very definitely have a roll. I wouldn’t show that to anyone . No one guesses how much I weigh including my doctor who responded to my statement about being fat “You aren’t fat” he said to me. Then I am almost 75 years old, I was always very thin until I was well into my 50’s. I still wore my clothes one size too big, because then as now I simply can’t stand anything tight around my waist. I try to hide the fat not show it off.
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### Author:  [@MrsTime](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrsTime)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2014, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/54 "2014-07-22T01:43:37Z")
Oh and I buy most of my 2X clothes from Walmart, so I’m not paying a lot.
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### Author:  [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2014, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/55 "2014-07-22T03:49:24Z")
> [@cochrane](#):
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> .
> I never considered a Harley shop. But then, I’ve never ridden a motorcycle in my life, so the notion never occurred to me. And I like just wearing casual clothes. T-shirt and jeans. I know my sizes and would rather just buy my clothes online and have Fed-Ex drop them off at my front door rather than run around looking for a specialty clothing shop.
Shops love (seriously – I’m not trying to joke at all) people who just come in for the clothes. The clothing and branding is what really bailed the company out after Willie G and friends bought it from AMF. There are even shops out there that don’t sell any motorcycles at all – aren’t allowed to even. They are just another form of LL Bean or American Eagle. They just realize their usual visitor may be under 6 foot and close to 300 lbs or more.
See what’s being offered online or through eBay. It’s good stuff as it is ---- great stuff when you can find it cheap.
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### Author:  [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eyebrows_0f_Doom)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2014, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/56 "2014-07-22T04:11:07Z")
> [@Emtar\_KronJonDerSohn](#):
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> Why do people get so touchy when someone mentions they prefer to see others wear well fitting clothes in accordance with accepted social norms?
Because this is the SDMB where social norms are scorned and people will fight to the death for their right to wear sweats to a wedding.
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### Author:  [@dougie\_monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dougie_monty)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2014, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/57 "2014-07-22T05:36:18Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#):
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> Hurr! You totally should have told her because I bet in her mind she was thinking “I would look really _awesome_ in a bikini and I bet _dougie\_monty_ would find me sexy and give me kisses!” Totally.
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> There’s a difference between “tight/ form fitting clothes” and “poorly fitting because I grew out of them” clothes. You cannot buy a pair of very large women’s bottoms in a style that is not form-fitting at any sort of fashion store (Lane Bryant, Torrid, Avenue). You can buy some flowing skirts or flared jeans but above the flares those jeans are going to be skin tight. “Jeggings” and “skinny jeans” are in now, and whether they look good on women of size or not, they are being marketed to us. Because they are what is in for everyone else.
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> I got no problem with fat women wearing skin-tight clothes. I get in a bathing suit every day and go out in public [to swim] and I don’t care because people think I’m fat and disgusting whether I am wearing a flowing mumu or baggy jeans or a clingy camisole. Just because my shorts cling to my ass because The Fashion Industry has decided this is what we do now honestly does not make anyone think any more highly of me. Well hopefully since I have this great Tighter Tummy Technology holding in my gut 2cm more than usual, you think I’m slightly less gross. But really when you go home and type on your message board about the ugly fat broad you saw today you are going to do it whether or not you saw me in a tight shirt or a bathing suit or a 5XL plain brown tee.
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> Now, dudes who wear too-tight pants with their guts and butts hanging out? Not nice. Women who GIVE themselves muffin-top because they want to get one more month out of those shorts? Sad for you, sweetie. Someone at the beach who should have looked in the mirror before deciding the suit fit, a little scary.
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> But people who wear clean, form-fitting clothes because it makes them feel good, whatever their size? Good to go.
In fact she had a sharp tongue and we did not get along. She was in the Thespians. She and I had a friend in common–another Thespian–the lovely girl I have mentioned numerous times on the SDMB.
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### Author:  [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2014, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/58 "2014-07-22T14:35:25Z")
The spandex is a real problem. If I buy a 1 or 2x shirt and io has 10% spandex now it is clingy. I don’t want to wear baggy clotheds but I have never liked clothes clinging tightly time. Plus I think sometimes people just make up sizes. I clearly remember buying a beautiful 2x shirt online and trying it on and it was like an XL at best…but I wear a 1x jacket and it is a bit loose and baggy on me. Everything must be tried on first and it makes no sense to me why large people clothes must be cingy.
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### Author:  [@AnaMen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnaMen)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2014, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/59 "2014-07-22T15:06:03Z")
I’ve never been even remotely overweight, yet people feel compelled to analyze and critique my sartorial choices too. My clothes are “too big,” inappropriate for my gender, and I don’t wear the “correct” undergarments. I just do not get what it is like to be the kind of person who thinks it is any of their business what others are wearing. If random people’s clothes offend you, you’re the one with a real problem. I can slip into a new outfit any time, but being a busybody is harder to cure.
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### Author:  [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)
#### Post date: [July 22, 2014, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-are-your-thoughts-re-fat-people-in-tight-clothes/693646/60 "2014-07-22T15:08:48Z")
> [@monstro](#):
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> This pretty much sums up why I’m a fan of fat people dressing in form-fitting clothes. Feeling shame is a horrible way to go through life.
I agree. I didn’t make it to [_age redacted_] so I could conceal my true self behind a shame zipper when I go out in public. Like it or not, you guys are gonna see my nutsack.
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