# What bodily functions / traits would be a deal-breaker on a date? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 12, 2010, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868 "2010-12-12T06:50:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Don\_Draper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b2d939/32.png) [@Don\_Draper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_Draper)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/1 "2010-12-12T06:50:06Z")
Let’s say your on a first date with someone who in general is your ideal - s/he is the physical type that you find most appealiing, s/he has an interesting job and lively social life (and likes to do things you like as well), and you’re initial conversation (online or on the phone) quickly goes from uncomfortable first-date small talk to a deep conversation. Everything seems right about this person, until you meet them in person and … Perhaps this person has strong bad breath - not just coffee breath, but very strong rotting bad breath. Or the person breaks wind, several times, and it’s both noisy & pungent. Or the person has a pronounced tuft of nose-hair jutting from a nostril. Or s/he has a slightly unpleasant odor to them. Or they have a very visible cold sore on their lip. Or even if the person has a really loud, horse-like whinnying laugh - or snorts loudly at the end of every laugh. What do you think you might be able to put up with long enough to give this person maybe a second chance, and what would be a flat-out deal-breaker? What if, after a brief coffee date, this person says they like you and want to see you again. What do you do then? ---
**Author:** ![Cubsfan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Cubsfan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cubsfan)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/2 "2010-12-12T07:12:29Z")
If she has fat ankles or ugly feet it’s off. I have a foot fetish and there is no way around it. ---
**Author:** ![Khaki\_Campbell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de053/32.png) [@Khaki\_Campbell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khaki_Campbell)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 7:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/3 "2010-12-12T07:22:43Z")
The rotten breath would be a dealbreaker. It’d mean no kiss during sex - and even simpler than that, no first kiss ever (so no sex, incidentally). ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/4 "2010-12-12T13:47:42Z")
Chewing with his mouth open and/or talking with his mouth full. ---
**Author:** ![KinkiNipponTourist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e9bcb4/32.png) [@KinkiNipponTourist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KinkiNipponTourist)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/5 "2010-12-12T14:16:16Z")
BO (either that really acrid sweaty BO or just strong non-sweat body odor), bad breath and that horrible horrible slurp/sucking sound some folks make when they chew. I’m out the door, man. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/6 "2010-12-12T20:09:04Z")
> [@Don\_Draper](#): > > Perhaps this person has strong bad breath - not just coffee breath, but very strong rotting bad breath. > > Or the person breaks wind, several times, and it’s both noisy & pungent. > > Or the person has a pronounced tuft of nose-hair jutting from a nostril. > > Or s/he has a slightly unpleasant odor to them. > > Or they have a very visible cold sore on their lip. > > Or even if the person has a really loud, horse-like whinnying laugh - or snorts loudly at the end of every laugh. > > What do you think you might be able to put up with long enough to give this person maybe a second chance, and what would be a flat-out deal-breaker? > > What if, after a brief coffee date, this person says they like you and want to see you again. What do you do then? All of those things would be deal-breakers. I won’t put up with much. ---
**Author:** ![RandMcnally](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/b782af/32.png) [@RandMcnally](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RandMcnally)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/7 "2010-12-12T20:18:56Z")
Yeah, any of those would be out. ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/8 "2010-12-12T20:22:31Z")
> [@](#): > > What if, after a brief coffee date, this person says they like you and want to see you again. What do you do then? Immediately drop a load in my pants. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/9 "2010-12-12T20:36:09Z")
Anyone can accidentally fart. I popped one on a date once. It caught me by surprise when I leaned over. B.O. or bad breath is plain lazy, bad manners. If they can’t bother to shower, brush their teeth & gargle before a date then I would be very offended. That’s just rude. It says a lot about how much they don’t care. A fever blister or zit isn’t their fault. I can over look that. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/10 "2010-12-12T20:54:19Z")
Yes, bad hygiene would be a deal breaker. As for behavior, if they mocked religious believers in general, that would be a deal breaker. ---
**Author:** ![MsWhatsit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb8c5e/32.png) [@MsWhatsit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsWhatsit)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/11 "2010-12-12T20:56:32Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > Chewing with his mouth open and/or talking with his mouth full. What she said. Chewing with your mouth open is my #1 most-hated personal habit ever. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/12 "2010-12-12T21:04:07Z")
If she can out-fart me, we’re talking true love folks. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2010, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/13 "2010-12-12T23:58:12Z")
Yep, most of those you listed would be a problem, but the #1 deal breaker for me is if he has long fingernails. Never. gonna. go. out. with. him. again. Oh, I feel sick just thinking about it. ---
**Author:** ![Pushkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ee59a6/32.png) [@Pushkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pushkin)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2010, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/14 "2010-12-13T00:12:03Z")
Not like I’m going to be dating anyone anytime soon, but when I see a lady walking up the street, flicking her hands at the end of each swing of the arm, so as to poke the eye of imaginary kids walking past, it’s all over baby 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2010, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/15 "2010-12-13T00:21:36Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > All of those things would be deal-breakers. I won’t put up with much. Would all be deal-breakers for me, too, but I don’t think that’s asking for much. Is it too much to want someone to be pleasant? Don’t smell bad, stop farting, groom, for christ’s sake, and don’t have a heinous snort-cackle. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2010, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/16 "2010-12-13T00:52:01Z")
Sharp knees. ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2010, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/17 "2010-12-13T02:39:58Z")
I once had a coffee date with a guy I had been chatting with from Craigslist who’s two front teeth were at opposing 45 degree angles to the rest of his mouth with a gap large enough to drive a train through. And a tongue stud. If he hadn’t had the stud I might have gone out with him again. I mean, really? You want to call attention to your mouth? Plus, after ate, he was covered with crumbs. No, thank you. ---
**Author:** ![gallows\_fodder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8c91f0/32.png) [@gallows\_fodder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gallows_fodder)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2010, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/18 "2010-12-13T03:18:50Z")
All those things, plus if he spits in public. I’d rather he pick his nose and eat it in front of me than spit on the sidewalk, where other people and hapless animals can now step in his phlegm. #1 most disgusting habit. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2010, 11:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/19 "2010-12-13T11:13:17Z")
‘Alien’ style chest bursting at the dinner table might be a deal breaker for me. At least it would definitely make me think twice about a second date. ---
**Author:** ![VanillaGorilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f9ae1b/32.png) [@VanillaGorilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VanillaGorilla)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2010, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868/20 "2010-12-13T12:27:28Z")
> [@Isamu](#): > > ‘Alien’ style chest bursting at the dinner table might be a deal breaker for me. At least it would definitely make me think twice about a second date. Oh, and I guess you are absolutely perfect yourself? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-bodily-functions-traits-would-be-a-deal-breaker-on-a-date/563868.md?page=2)