# What do all of your ex's new SOs have in common? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 20, 2007, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847 "2007-05-20T21:03:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2007, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/41 "2007-05-21T19:36:46Z")
[QUOTE=Malacandra] Is that what they call the “livejournal head tilt”? 😛 [/QUOTE] Nope, that’d be called Fat Girl Angle, but thanks for asking. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2007, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/42 "2007-05-21T19:46:06Z")
[QUOTE=DiosaBellissima] Nope, that’d be called Fat Girl Angle, but thanks for asking. [/QUOTE] You’re welcome. I believe there’s roughly one (1) photo of me anywhere on teh intarwebs that shows anything but my face, and that’s about how it’s staying. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2007, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/43 "2007-05-21T19:56:08Z")
[QUOTE=Misnomer] That’s happened with two of my exes (I even got invited to one of the weddings), but those are the only two guys I know about. I have no idea what/who the rest of 'em are doing. [/QUOTE] Ditto. I like to think that after me, they joined monasteries, seeking a life of contemplation, but I’ll never know. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2007, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/44 "2007-05-21T20:18:15Z")
[last hijack, I swear!] Thanks for the explanation, **Litoris** , even though it’s none of my business. I know this will sound _shocking_, but I have been accused of painting with a broad brush on these boards before, so I appreciate the reality-check.[/lh, Is!] ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2007, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/45 "2007-05-21T20:56:05Z")
[QUOTE=Litoris] Would you stop being friends with a person who had a mental illness? Nah, I didn’t think so. A person can be a good person with mental illnesses and abuse issues really are akin to illness. Meh…YMMV [/QUOTE] There’s a wee tad of a difference between being sick in one’s own head, and making someone else pay the price of that sickness when one’s sufficiently self-aware to realize what one’s doing. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2007, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/46 "2007-05-21T21:31:41Z")
All of them know what the 9th cirle of Hell is like. ---
**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2007, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/47 "2007-05-21T23:37:12Z")
[QUOTE=Malacandra] I believe there’s roughly one (1) photo of me anywhere on teh intarwebs that shows anything but my face, and that’s about how it’s staying. 😃 [/QUOTE] GOATSE!?! :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/48 "2007-05-22T00:58:10Z")
My ex-wife has only had a few relationships that were anything more than a bar pickup for sex (which upset her… she would meet the guy, they’d get along, she’d take them home and have sex with them, and they wouldn’t call back… “why are guys so evil!!!”). Of them, all of them have been… larger guys, who resemble more the high school junkie ex-boyfriend more than me. I guess she’s looking for some macho guy now. None of them have lasted, however, which should be a sign to her, but she doesn’t seem to get it. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/49 "2007-05-22T15:19:07Z")
[QUOTE=vetbridge] GOATSE!?! :eek: [/QUOTE] No, informed opinion is pretty unanimous that I am, in fact, a tight-ass. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/50 "2007-05-22T15:30:28Z")
[QUOTE=VCO3] They’re all about as “mainstream,” WASPy, and boring as possible, compared to me, who’s the arty/creative/weirdo type. [/QUOTE] Similarly, his girlfriends and now his wife - from what I can gather - are all uber-traditional Indian girls, where I was (and am) pretty darn non-traditional. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/51 "2007-05-22T15:36:38Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] Similarly, his girlfriends and now his wife - from what I can gather - are all uber-traditional Indian girls, where I was (and am) pretty darn non-traditional. [/QUOTE] There’s only one ex I keep in touch with, and both of the girls he’s dated after me have been really traditional “Korean” girls who are considered feminine and demure and lots of other things that I’m not. The one thing that these girls do have in common with me is appearance: all three of us are small, of slight stature, and look younger than our actual age. I’m guessing that my ex expected me to be the girly type based on my looks and was sadly deceived. He seems happy enough now. ---
**Author:** ![plnnr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@plnnr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/plnnr)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/52 "2007-05-22T16:16:28Z")
My ex-wife’s husband and I are about as different as you could possibly be. We look nothing alike, have completely different careers, are not interested in the same types of things (as far as I can tell), and but for the fact that we have a relationship with my ex-wife, we’d never meet in million years. The fact that both she and I are immeasurably happier now than we were during our marriage is a great outcome for all concerned, but I just wish it hadn’t taken 14 years of my life. ---
**Author:** ![cowgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8c91f0/32.png) [@cowgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cowgirl)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/53 "2007-05-22T18:46:55Z")
[QUOTE=ZipperJJ] Hmm…I think my ex’s new girls all seemed to be more needy than me. I have always been convinced that’s my downfall. I’m not needy enough. I also have a near-perfect record of being dumped and the guy getting married right away to “new girl.” So I guess they all have in common the fact that they married someone I was recently dating. [/QUOTE] Seconded, and seconded. The first guy I dated that was like this knew I didn’t want to get married, and he did. So he met a girl who wanted to get married and dumped me. And then he dumped her and married someone else. Then she realized that she was way too young to be married and dumped him and ran off to Thailand. And then he got married again. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/54 "2007-05-22T22:50:22Z")
They’ve all been Japanese. American women hate me. I have some clues but overall it’s a mystery… ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/55 "2007-05-22T22:56:23Z")
1st ex – no girlfriend since 2nd ex – curvy, rather like myself 2.5th ex – curvy like myself 3rd ex – no girlfriend since I’m seeing a bit of a pattern there… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2007, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/56 "2007-05-22T23:26:40Z")
[QUOTE=Angua] 2.5th ex – curvy like myself [/QUOTE] Sorry for the personal question, but how in blue blazes do you have a 2.5th ex? ---
**Author:** ![bbs2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e495f1/32.png) [@bbs2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bbs2k)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/57 "2007-05-23T01:52:50Z")
[QUOTE=Autolycus] Sorry for the personal question, but how in blue blazes do you have a 2.5th ex? [/QUOTE] She was obviously an amputee. She probably couldn’t sing very well either. How do I know this? Becase she couldn’t hold a note or carry a tune. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2007, 8:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/58 "2007-05-23T08:24:27Z")
[QUOTE=Autolycus] Sorry for the personal question, but how in blue blazes do you have a 2.5th ex? [/QUOTE] Well, we sort of dated, but nothing was ever official, so neither of us really count it as a proper relationship (we’re both very good friends, both before and after our brief fling together). Hence 2.5th. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2007, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/59 "2007-05-25T15:26:52Z")
[QUOTE=Litoris] With my daughter’s father, all of his SO’s since me were seriously screwed up drug addicts, strippers and anorexics. Of course, he was/maybe still is abusive. He is a great guy and one of my best friends, but he has major issues and that equates really screwed up relationships. The thing that they all have in common is that they all _let_ him beat up on them. I didn’t. They’re all also what I would call “dirts.” The kind of girls that only wear skintight blue jeans, tshirts and have the ever-present whaletail. Nothing at all like I – I tend to dress up most of the time in public (hell, I have been known to wear handmade silk saris just because). With my **VIE** (Very Important Ex – the love of my life, as it were) all the girls he has been with since me have been very mainstream, conservative and not very bright. They seem to bee golddigger types. The girl he is with now (from what I know of her) actually seems very much like me – except that she is very conservative. I like her quite a bit and she is very cute (his other SO’s were usually ok-ish, but the kind of women you just _knew_ were high-maintenance). I hope she’s the one for him, I like her… [/QUOTE] So it’s cool that he beats up women, as long as they’re sluts that don’t dress well and have problems. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Potato\_Pancakes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/65b543/32.png) [@Potato\_Pancakes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Potato_Pancakes)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2007, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847/60 "2007-05-25T21:46:41Z")
They were all friggin’ friends with each other. When I broke up with my first girlfriend I started dating her best friend afterwards. Two years later, me and girl #2 break up and I date her _other_ friend for a little while. I’d like to think that they have a support group where they get together to talk trash about me. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-all-of-your-exs-new-sos-have-in-common/404847.md?page=4)