# What do guys really look for in a girl??????? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 25, 2000, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526 "2000-09-25T23:49:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![BlackKnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eb8c5e/32.png) [@BlackKnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackKnight)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/61 "2000-09-28T00:52:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Stoidela \* > **…they’ll take #1 9 out of 10 times.** Gee, thank you for speaking for all males Stoidela. I guess I don’t have to speak for myself now. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Satan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Satan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Satan)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/62 "2000-09-28T02:06:39Z")
You know what I really like to see in a girl? Me. * * * Yer pal, Satan - Commissioner, [The Teeming Minions](http://football.fantasysports.yahoo.com/full/show?lid=39428&page=leaguehome) \*TIME ELAPSED SINCE I QUIT SMOKING: Five months, two weeks, five days, 6 minutes and 34 seconds. 6880 cigarettes not smoked, saving $860.02. Extra time with Drain Bead: 3 weeks, 2 days, 21 hours, 20 minutes. \***“I’m a big Genesis fan.”-David B. _(Amen, brother!)_** ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/63 "2000-09-28T02:39:37Z")
Black Knight, you are but one man. You are either among the 9 or the tenth. Why do you seem so offended? Men are pretty predictable as a group. You may not be. You aren’t all men, not even close. And Satan…something about that simple, amusing statement struck me as deeply erotic. Hmmm. ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/64 "2000-09-28T02:46:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by porcupine \* > \*\*Ok, where have you men that like argumentative, competitive women been all of my life? \*\* Texas! ---
**Author:** ![BlackKnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eb8c5e/32.png) [@BlackKnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackKnight)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/65 "2000-09-28T03:32:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Stoidela \* > **Black Knight, you are but one man. You are either among the 9 or the tenth. Why do you seem so offended?** Because I hate it when people say “98.99% of men think such-and-such” or “9 out of 10 men do something”. After all, I really doubt anyone asked all men what they thought, and then drew an informed conclusion from that data. Instead, it seems like an unwarranted sweeping generalization. I’m sorry if I took this a little too personally, but I think it perpetuates a stereotype that is unsupported by anything more than anecdotal evidence. I mean, it may very well be the case that 9 out of 10 men do/think whatever, but I honestly don’t think you’re a better judge of that than anyone else, including me. I don’t know all men (or even a large enough sample to be representative) and I doubt that you do either. That being said, I admit my earlier post was more sarcastic than it needed to be. I appologize. ---
**Author:** ![SanibelMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@SanibelMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanibelMan)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/66 "2000-09-28T03:37:41Z")
Glasses. I don’t know why, but glasses are a big turn-on for me. A pretty girl without glasses is pretty, sure; but a pretty girl with glasses (I’m assuming nice, somewhat stylish frames, not tea-cup sized lenses with pointy rims) is something else altogether. Guess I just like that image of intelligence it exudes. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/67 "2000-09-28T03:55:12Z")
Amberskye, why do you care what “guys” look for in a girl? There isn’t really an answer, of course, because gender dosen’t really define a person. Different people like different things, and if you start making assumptions about what a given _individual_ will like because of his gender you are going to walk around with a lot of false impressions. The fact is, guys vary enourmously,just like girls do. If you are interested in attracting a particular guy and are wondering what traits might attract him, you are wasting your time–look at him as a _person_, not “a guy”. Pay attention to each given individual, don’t spend your time wondering about broad general principles. If you just want to attract more guys over all, well, it’s your life but it seems like an awful waste of energy. Just be the individual (not the girl) you are, and the individual that is attracted to that set of charecteristics will be right for you. Also, remember that any attraction to the sort of generic traits listed here–sense of humor, nice ass, whatever–is based on something easily replicated. You meet hundreds of funny girls in a life time, and hundreds of pretty ones. Any relationship based on such generic traits is going to collapse in times of stress because why fight to be with someone that dosen’t have anything lots of other people have to offer? For a realtionship to work there has to be an element of uniqueness, or near-uniqueness to the attraction between the two people. It has to be based on a complex relationship between hundreds of charecteristics. I don’t mean to rant, but I hate it when people talk about the oppisite gender like it is this monolithic, mysterious entitiy. You will get a lot further if you worry about what Johnny is like, or what Suzie is like than worring about what “guys” or “girls” are like. ---
**Author:** ![OrcaChow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/e47c2d/32.png) [@OrcaChow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OrcaChow)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 6:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/68 "2000-09-28T06:12:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SanibelMan \* > \*\*Glasses. I don’t know why, but glasses are a big turn-on for me. A pretty girl without glasses is pretty, sure; but a pretty girl with glasses (I’m assuming nice, somewhat stylish frames, not tea-cup sized lenses with pointy rims) is something else altogether. Guess I just like that image of intelligence it exudes. \*\* Not to mention it’s one more item that is taken off when it comes time to getting down to bizness. I find a woman slowly removing her glasses–at least in that context–_incredibly_ sexy. ---
**Author:** ![Boris\_B](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/fbc32d/32.png) [@Boris\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boris_B)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 6:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/69 "2000-09-28T06:26:57Z")
**Manda JO** , I see your point, but I think you are misunderstanding the nature of the OP. I think it is more along the lines of a poll - Amber is asking each individual to discuss what he personally looks for, not so much to speculate on what males in general look for. ---
**Author:** ![ReservoirDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8edcca/32.png) [@ReservoirDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ReservoirDog)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/70 "2000-09-28T14:56:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by _~Amber-Skye~_ \* > \*\*Honestly, what do guys actually look for in a girl??? What sparks their interest??? Please answer this honestly:) \*\* I’m really just looking for someone who isn’t afraid of liberal use of punctuation. Hamadryad knows what it’s all about. > [@](#): > > _By Hamadryad_ > \*\*Like, wow!!! If I were a guy??? I think I’d like a girl who didn’t go out of her way to make sure she was doing everything for the sake of making sure a guy liked her!!! But that’s just my opinion!!! I’d want a girl with her own personality!!! And stuff!!! \*\* Oooh yeah, baby. Gimme some of those exclamation points. Oh yeah. That’s what I like. ---
**Author:** ![DougC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7feea3/32.png) [@DougC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DougC)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/71 "2000-09-28T16:38:52Z")
- - - And always remember to accessorize properly, ladies: _any_ girl driving a convertible Ferrari automatcally rates 2 points better. - MC ---
**Author:** ![2nd\_Law](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/2/f475e1/32.png) [@2nd\_Law](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/2nd_Law)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/72 "2000-09-28T17:05:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by MC \* > \*\* - - - And always remember to accessorize properly, ladies: _any_ girl driving a convertible Ferrari automatcally rates 2 points better. - MC \*\* Well, as long as it doesn’t clash with her shoes. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/73 "2000-09-28T17:57:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by _~Amber-Skye~_ \* > \*\*Honestly, what do guys actually look for in a girl??? What sparks their interest??? Please answer this honestly:) \*\* Well, after reading most of the responses in the thread so far, I think that there’s one point which might need a little clarification. There’s different types of “looking for a girl”. There’s looking for a girl to be in a serious relationship with, there’s looking for a girl to hit on in a bar, there’s looking for a girl for sex, there’s looking for a girl for sex that you won’t tell your friends about, there’s looking for a girl to be in a non-serious relationship with, etc… you get the idea. The criteria applied in each situation can be drastically different, depending on which one you’re in. For example, if I’m going to go hit on a girl in a bar, or am otherwise trying to impress my friends, I’m likely to pick the most physically attractive one in the group. For me, that’d be red hair, big boobs, blue eyes, & pale skin. No real consideration of personality there. Then again, I’m not aiming for that in those situations. It’s strictly about how she looks. I tend to think people who go into bars/clubs etc… _looking_ to meet serious relationship partners there are setting themselves up for failure. I’m not saying you can’t meet them there, but instead that the level of deception & game playing doesn’t lend itself to finding the real gems who are out there. If I’m looking for a real relationship- then I’m a REAL stickler about personality. Looks don’t count for much. I’m more interested in intelligence,humor, confidence, fun, and a mischievous streak. Somebody who’ll take a chance & do something wild to have fun. That’s a big one. Un-confident, buttoned-down, dull people aren’t people I want to spend time around. They’re no fun at all! ---
**Author:** ![mk9kahr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f04885/32.png) [@mk9kahr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mk9kahr)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/74 "2000-09-28T18:55:27Z")
What I look for: -Blonde (never really figured out why) -Intelligent -funny -expressive -mentally tough -adaptive -Good looks -not hung up on an “ex” What I usually get -Blonde -lots of “baggage” -introverted -mentally fragile -set in their ways. -Good looking -hung up on an “ex” ::sigh:: ---
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/75 "2000-09-28T19:21:45Z")
**mk9kahr** , Maybe you need to start dating brunettes or redheads. ---
**Author:** ![London\_Calling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@London\_Calling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/London_Calling)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/76 "2000-09-28T19:35:11Z")
**on** a girl… Jodhpurs… :eek:… 🙂 and riding boots. What can I tell ya ---
**Author:** ![GreenEyes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f9ae1b/32.png) [@GreenEyes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreenEyes)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/77 "2000-09-28T23:07:10Z")
Oh please… what most men go for if they admit it or not is: Someone they think is super beautiful. Someone they can show off in front of their friends. Someone not as smart as they THINK they themselves are. Someone who will not question them. Someone who will not argue with them. Someone not after their money.\ Someone who will put out on the first or second date. ---
**Author:** ![Sangria](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/87869e/32.png) [@Sangria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sangria)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2000, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/78 "2000-09-29T02:50:48Z")
They want skin to be bare where it usually isn’t. In winter you can get them hot removing a glove. ---
**Author:** ![BlackKnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eb8c5e/32.png) [@BlackKnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlackKnight)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2000, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/79 "2000-09-29T02:55:41Z")
> [@](#): > > **Girls just wanna have fun. 🙂** And stereotype men, apparantly. ---
**Author:** ![Philster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/13edae/32.png) [@Philster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Philster)\ **Post date:** [September 29, 2000, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526/80 "2000-09-29T04:02:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by glee \* > \*\*Stoidela, > > You postulated that 9 out of 10 men prefer > > ‘a painfully young, thin, big-breasted sluts that enjoy housework, cooking and sports and have no interest at all in “communicating”’ > > over > > ‘a 35 year old woman with a flabby ass and a bit of a gut, but beautiful eyes and a confident sexuality, along with brains, a sense of humor, and opinions’. > > It’s true (as I said earlier) that in a disco, almost all men will go for physical attractiveness. > > I can agree that many men would find option 1 above attractive. There may well be some of us chaps (not me!) who would marry her, invite friends round and just treat her as a doormat (depressing thought). > But I do hope that the intelligent ones would go for number 2. > > Errrmm (clears throat nervously) number 2’s not you,is it? > > _this post may well prove that men don’t understand women_ \*\* Try to avoid the phrase, “…in a disco…”, because it instantly disqualifies you from determining such things as what men desire in women. In a disco? I don’t even want to hear the excuse that it is still appropriate to use such a term in your homeland. Leave the discussions about beauty to the folks from the States. Skeevey Benny Hill Broads ain’t gonna cut it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-guys-really-look-for-in-a-girl/34526.md?page=5)