# What do men want on a special night? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 27, 2003, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029 "2003-08-27T18:01:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/1 "2003-08-27T18:01:44Z")
It’s my bf’s birthday and I want to do something special for him. Tonight I am planning a cake, a bottle of wine, a sexy outfit (on me), candles, and a bj. What else should I do? It seems like all of this stuff is pretty standard. What would you men want most if your gf was planning a night at home? ---
**Author:** ![Bruce\_Daddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@Bruce\_Daddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bruce_Daddy)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/2 "2003-08-27T18:08:27Z")
The sexy outfit + bj is enough. Keep the change, too 😉 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Griffin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@The\_Griffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Griffin)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/3 "2003-08-27T18:12:27Z")
Sounds good, I’d be happy with that. ;j ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/4 "2003-08-27T18:13:59Z")
Substitute beer for wine. Preferably Newcastle or maybe Bass Ale. A definate “Go” on the sexy underware and BJ! Maybe bring a friend? 😃 * * * How is Rap like Porn? Both are better with the sound turned off. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/5 "2003-08-27T18:16:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by gatopescado \* > **Maybe bring a friend? 😃** Ding ding ding! We have a winner! ---
**Author:** ![Flang\_Dang](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a88e4f/32.png) [@Flang\_Dang](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flang_Dang)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/6 "2003-08-27T18:24:12Z")
That is indeed a great-sounding birthday–good effort and sentiment. Seeing as my birthday is coming up Monday, I hope for the same treatment from the new Mrs. Dang myself! I might add (and this is inferred anyway) that an atmosphere of peace and tranquility puts it over the top–no games, traps or criticisms as women are often prone to do. (i.e., “you said I ‘looked good’–not ‘great’ or ‘breathtaking’? What are you trying to say…you don’t find me attractive anymore?..”). ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/7 "2003-08-27T18:26:52Z")
I have a question. Is it typical for oral sex to be reserved for special occasions? ---
**Author:** ![Rocketeer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocketeer/32/4437_2.png) [@Rocketeer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rocketeer)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/8 "2003-08-27T18:32:47Z")
**Indygrrl’s** agenda sounds (really) good to me, but to make it absolutely perfect you should give him a power tool. Birthdays are always better with power tools. I’m thinking four-inch angle grinder or cordless drill. Probably the angle grinder. I never knew what tool happiness was until I got my grinder. ---
**Author:** ![Bruce\_Daddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@Bruce\_Daddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bruce_Daddy)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/9 "2003-08-27T18:53:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by JuanitaTech \* > \*\*I have a question. Is it typical for oral sex to be reserved for special occasions? \*\* No but the following probably is: Giver: Are you doing anything right now? Recipient: No. Giver: Fantastic. Take your pants off. \ Giver: :wiping mouth: What’s on TV? ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/10 "2003-08-27T18:54:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by JuanitaTech \* > \*\*I have a question. Is it typical for oral sex to be reserved for special occasions? \*\* No, not at all. I don’t do it every time we have sex, but I do it fairly often. I guess I wanted to give him one on his birthday because it seems like the thing to do.😃 ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/11 "2003-08-27T18:56:09Z")
A Back Rub! But maybe that’s just me… ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/12 "2003-08-27T19:02:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Flang Dang \* > \*\*I might add (and this is inferred anyway) that an atmosphere of peace and tranquility puts it over the top–no games, traps or criticisms as women are often prone to do. (i.e., “you said I ‘looked good’–not ‘great’ or ‘breathtaking’? What are you trying to say…you don’t find me attractive anymore?..”). \*\* I don’t play that type of bs. That’s scary. ---
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/13 "2003-08-27T19:21:35Z")
Oh! I want to tell you, bjs are great, they really are. I recommend them highly. BUT. Try giving him a pedicure before that. A long soak in a foot massager thingie, a really good rub especially between the toes, some exfoliating scrub (you can get all sorts of packets of foot stuff at Wal-Mart on the cheap), trim his nails and buff, pumice the heels- oh man. My man is a dirty biker guy caveman musician, and he LOVES this treatment. AND it gets him horny- I don’t know if it’s the hands on feet thing or what, but he just goes crazy for it. ---
**Author:** ![roadrunner70](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e19b73/32.png) [@roadrunner70](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/roadrunner70)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/14 "2003-08-27T19:30:11Z")
I’d videotape the BJ, put it on the web, and post a link to it here. I’ve heard guys _really_ love that kinda stuff. [sub]not him, of course, US…[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/15 "2003-08-27T19:40:31Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Zette \* > \*\*Try giving him a pedicure before that. A long soak in a foot massager thingie, a really good rub especially between the toes, some exfoliating scrub (you can get all sorts of packets of foot stuff at Wal-Mart on the cheap), trim his nails and buff, pumice the heels- oh man. My man is a dirty biker guy caveman musician, and he LOVES this treatment. \*\* I don’t do feet. I almost threw up just reading about it.😃 ---
**Author:** ![sirtonyh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ad7895/32.png) [@sirtonyh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sirtonyh)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/16 "2003-08-27T19:49:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by gatopescado \* > \*\* > Maybe bring a friend? 😃 > \*\* If one of you can turn into a pizza and the other into a 6 pack at midnight (after the good stuff is over with) you’ve hit a home run 😉 ---
**Author:** ![anewthought](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@anewthought](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anewthought)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/17 "2003-08-27T19:50:38Z")
What about dinner? On my birthday I know I what I usually like most is steak & lobster. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/18 "2003-08-27T20:10:11Z")
See? I’m not _always_ full of shit! I have something worthwhile to add sometimes! * * * Menage a trois: How to disappoint 2 women at once and have twice the cuddling! ---
**Author:** ![Bruce\_Daddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/85f322/32.png) [@Bruce\_Daddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bruce_Daddy)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/19 "2003-08-27T20:14:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Indygrrl \* > \*\*I don’t do feet. I almost threw up just reading about it.😃 \*\* Ditto. ---
**Author:** ![kniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c37758/32.png) [@kniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kniz)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2003, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029/20 "2003-08-27T20:20:59Z")
[ul]😃 [sup] **My birthday is in November.** [/sup][/ul] [sub]_ **Please excuse the above as the rantings of an old man reliving younger days.** _[/sub] [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-men-want-on-a-special-night/198029.md?page=2)