# What do women want the most??? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 11, 2001, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499 "2001-03-11T02:53:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Evnglion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f04885/32.png) [@Evnglion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evnglion)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/1 "2001-03-11T02:53:59Z")
I want to hear everyone’ tips on what women want…from the guys and the girls. I have always thought that girls want as much attention as possible, but I find that more and more girls are either one way or the other, so I am not sure. ---
**Author:** ![CnoteChris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/278dde/32.png) [@CnoteChris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CnoteChris)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/2 "2001-03-11T02:56:15Z")
What the other women already have. ---
**Author:** ![suziek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8491ac/32.png) [@suziek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/suziek)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/3 "2001-03-11T03:20:27Z")
In a potential husband, a women wants a man who loves her, thinks she is beautiful and intelligent and fascinating, respects her and treats her as an equal, never looks at other women (and that includes even thinking about other women), loves children (and animals), knows that sex is spiritual as well as physical (most of the time); a man who is capable of protecting her, and makes a good living so she can stay home and not have to leave their babies if she chooses not to. Other than husband material, a young girl wants a sexy stud that looks good in leather pants and can ride a motorcycle with elan; who makes her his total world; and who makes her girlfriends green with envy and pisses off her parents. ---
**Author:** ![Occam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Occam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Occam)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/4 "2001-03-11T03:23:55Z")
Who cares? ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/5 "2001-03-11T03:55:00Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by suziek \* > \*\*In a potential husband, a women wants a man who loves her, thinks she is beautiful and intelligent and fascinating, respects her and treats her as an equal, never looks at other women (and that includes even thinking about other women), loves children (and animals), knows that sex is spiritual as well as physical (most of the time); a man who is capable of protecting her, and makes a good living so she can stay home and not have to leave their babies if she chooses not to. > > Other than husband material, a young girl wants a sexy stud that looks good in leather pants and can ride a motorcycle with elan; who makes her his total world; and who makes her girlfriends green with envy and pisses off her parents.\*\* They only decide they want the former after they’ve been impregnated 2 or 3 times by the latter. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/6 "2001-03-11T04:19:07Z")
I want a man who posts his threads in the right forums. ---
**Author:** ![andygirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@andygirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andygirl)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/7 "2001-03-11T04:21:31Z")
I want to not come in to a thread right after someone has said what I was going to say. Hmph, Green Bean. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Peregrine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a6a055/32.png) [@Peregrine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peregrine)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/8 "2001-03-11T04:36:57Z")
Control, connections, comfort, continuity. It only seems complicated because women often settle for vicarious control, having been told in every way that they must not presume to regard themselves as powerful. So a woman may seek power over others through her man (that’s why he has to be strong), and (possibly very subtle) power of her own over him (that’s why he has to be vulnerable). The rest is details. No cites here because I’m just making this up out of my own head. See you in IMHO? ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/9 "2001-03-11T04:46:08Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Peregrine \* > \*\*Control, connections, comfort, continuity. > \*\* What do women want the MOST. Chocolate. Take a poll. ---
**Author:** ![Gunslinger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/4491bb/32.png) [@Gunslinger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gunslinger)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/10 "2001-03-11T05:14:55Z")
Me. ::ducks and runs:: ---
**Author:** ![Catenary](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e36b37/32.png) [@Catenary](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Catenary)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/11 "2001-03-11T06:09:08Z")
In my particular case, dead. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/12 "2001-03-11T14:06:10Z")
No, gun, I’m over you. Er, almost. Really though, I think a nice big-eyed golden retriever/maltese/basset hound/mixed breed/[insert canine breed] is best, though. Sorry guys…unless you have floppy ears and puppy dog eyes, you just don’t measure up. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/13 "2001-03-11T15:41:22Z")
“I want a man who posts his threads in the right forums.” Brilliant, GB. I might add “I guy who knows how to search”. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/14 "2001-03-11T16:27:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Evnglion \* > \*\*I want to hear everyone’ tips on what women want…from the guys and the girls. I have always thought that girls want as much attention as possible, but I find that more and more girls are either one way or the other, so I am not sure. \*\* On the most fundamental level, as classes go, women generally want men they perceive to be good genetic mate material based on their individual ideas of genetic fitness. As seziek noted, for many women this perception often changes a bit over time from “admired, hot stud” to “attentive, monagamous, good provider/soulmate”. The extent to which the desired men in the first category can or cannot make the transition to the second and the extent to which women have to deal with not “having it all” have has launched a thousand self help books for women. The aforesaid is a generalization and as such there are large numbers of women for whom these transition categories will not apply. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/15 "2001-03-11T16:40:17Z")
J.B. Handelsman, in one of his crtoons, claimed it was “Having their backs rubbed.” My experience suggests a sight variation: “Women want to have their feet rubbed” I don’t know why, but it’s true. Chocolate is a very close second. Sex is a lot farther down the list. ---
**Author:** ![GilaB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@GilaB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GilaB)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/16 "2001-03-11T18:34:49Z")
Except perhaps those of us who are ticklish. ---
**Author:** ![manhattan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/manhattan/32/7_2.png) [@manhattan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/manhattan)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/17 "2001-03-11T22:11:13Z")
Apparently women want a forum moderator who doesn’t miss a thread for two days. Sadly, I am woefully inadequate in this area, too. Off to IMHO, way too late. ---
**Author:** ![Totoro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Totoro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Totoro)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 10:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/18 "2001-03-11T22:59:45Z")
To get into my pants. ---
**Author:** ![ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c77e96/32.png) [@ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChoosyChipsAndCeilingWhacks)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/19 "2001-03-11T23:13:49Z")
I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but this is a ridiculous question. It’s impossible to generalize the desires of the entire female population. What women want varies along the same continuum as what men want. There is no answer to this question. -L ---
**Author:** ![Braindoggy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b2d939/32.png) [@Braindoggy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Braindoggy)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2001, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499/20 "2001-03-11T23:37:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*\*There is no answer to this question. \*\* I must disagree. Women want to always be agreed with and to never be proven ‘wrong’. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-women-want-the-most/57499.md?page=2)