# What do you and your Signifcant Other talk about? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 23, 2014, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035 "2014-12-23T16:52:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 2:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/21 "2014-12-24T14:06:26Z")
> [@scootergirl](#): > > Work (we work together, but in different departments), :smack: Us too, I don’t know how I forgot that one. I’d also like to mention the times when he is talking to me about something and I am thinking about my hair, or Narnia, or kitten tails. ---
**Author:** ![carlotta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/898d66/32.png) [@carlotta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carlotta)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/22 "2014-12-24T14:35:01Z")
everybody in this thread makes it sound like it is so easy. Talking about anything and everything really makes me and my husband feel connected, but sometimes it is hard to get going (inevitable when two introverts marry?). I have found that gossiping is by far the best way to get a really good conversation going, one that takes us to discussing larger philosophical interests, the nature of our own relationship, pirates, true love… We actually don’t share too much overlap in social groups and the family and friends we do have in common are too emotionally healthy to provide much fodder so I’ve found that shared TV shows, reality or fiction, with large casts serve this purpose quite well. Once we get going, we can go anywhere… actual topics have included whether an infinite universe necessarily includes space turtles, whether there is therapy in heaven (if there is a heaven), and if comparing the Star Wars trilogy to the Grinch story makes it acceptable to hang a Darth Vader ornament on our Christmas tree. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/23 "2014-12-24T15:14:54Z")
Allow me to rephrase the question - what do you and your really good friends talk about? My wife is my best friend, we talk about things really close friends talk about. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/24 "2014-12-24T15:19:41Z")
A large part of our conversation is about running the Taekwondo school. The rest of the time, nothing is off-topic. ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/25 "2014-12-24T15:25:03Z")
> [@Eliahna](#): > > Operating systems because we’re on opposite sides of the Linux/Windows debate and we enjoy a good old argument about the comparative merits of our pet OS vs the other. Mixed marriages are really tough. I’d suggest you start counseling immediately, and don’t have any kids until this is resolved. ---
**Author:** ![CGav8r](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/34f0e0/32.png) [@CGav8r](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CGav8r)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/26 "2014-12-24T15:36:20Z")
Our kids and how much we love them and how much they are driving us insane (it’s us against them, that much we agree on), our three dogs, fixing up our hovel, what’s up in popular culture, did you see this funny thing on the interwebs, etc. I’m an introvert, she’s an extrovert so it works out. ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/27 "2014-12-24T16:22:18Z")
> [@Doctor\_Jackson](#): > > Allow me to rephrase the question - what do you and your really good friends talk about? My wife is my best friend, we talk about things really close friends talk about. This x1000. We’re best friends so I can say pretty much anything and she’ll listen or react or just laughingly cal me stupid (it was probably a joke anyway) and then move on. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/28 "2014-12-24T17:39:42Z")
We mostly talk about what we’re currently doing or feeling. Sometimes we discuss the future or world events, as we stumbled across them online. Music on the radio, feelings, that game we’re both playing, the game he’s playing, the Howard Stern radio show we’re listening to, what we’re looking for in a future house, should we smoke later. That kind of thing. Sometimes we don’t talk at all. It’s nice when you can comfortably share a silence. ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/29 "2014-12-24T17:56:51Z")
Things in our past that cemented our relationship and made our lives unique, and are now leitmotifs. No matter how dire it seemed then, it’s always good for a laugh later on, and then is when we love each other the most. Also, psychology, philosophy, politics, history, current events. And personal life issues that will have to resolved some day, if they don’t just go away when left alone. Never money, there is enough of that and we are like-minded. We’ve learned which topics to avoid. ---
**Author:** ![somepumpkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7feea3/32.png) [@somepumpkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/somepumpkin)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/30 "2014-12-24T19:41:43Z")
My wife talks about all kinds of stuff. Me, I mostly just listen. It can take resignation sometimes to just let the rambling roll-on, but she’s a wonderful woman so the patience is easy to come by. Also, I really don’t like to talk much and so it’s a nice balance. She’s a great date to have at the dinner party 🙂 To better answer your question, though; I guess we talk about [del]everything[/del] current events and planning our week/month. We don’t live together, so there are often some logistics we need iron-out. We like to laugh and to make each other laugh, so there are always wise cracks and sarcasm in the air. And that’s more what we’re going for, I guess. It’s mostly just silly banter to keep the conversation light and flowing. AKA “flirting”. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2014, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/31 "2014-12-24T21:45:26Z")
Couldn’t tell ya. I stopped listening a long time ago. ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2014, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/32 "2014-12-25T03:49:57Z")
Our conversation falls into two general categories: Stuff that are things, and things that are stuff. We talk about bills, the sprog, what we’re going to do this weekend (or not do), the price of gas, the economics of the price of gas, and the 1969 Miracle Mets, among other topics. It just depends on what we feel like talking about. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2014, 9:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/33 "2014-12-25T09:16:43Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > Mixed marriages are really tough. I’d suggest you start counseling immediately, and don’t have any kids until this is resolved. Too late! We’ve had the kids and now we’re each fighting to indoctrinate them in the one true faith. It’s a disaster. ---
**Author:** ![diggerwam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/919ad9/32.png) [@diggerwam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/diggerwam)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2014, 12:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/34 "2014-12-25T12:26:07Z")
Been married 22 years and never had a lack of things to talk about. There are quiet moments, but those don’t bother me. My wife is my bestie so we just talk, past, present, future, TV/movies, family. Personally, I think that’s exactly what you want for someone who you plan to grow old with. ---
**Author:** ![gwendee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/35a633/32.png) [@gwendee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gwendee)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2014, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/35 "2014-12-26T03:10:49Z")
My husband and I talked a lot about politics, and he’d keep me abreast of current events. We watched quite a few true crime shows together which led us to talk more than I imagine most couples do about how we’d murder each other and cover it up. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2014, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/36 "2014-12-26T03:29:40Z")
We talk in lists: things we need to do & when we need to do them. We speak of things that we must not forget and of the times when we must not forget them. Often, there is much nodding at the lecture. ---
**Author:** ![Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tastes_of_chocolate/32/3232_2.png) [@Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tastes_of_Chocolate)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2014, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/37 "2014-12-26T09:37:03Z")
Let’s see. Today (Christmas) we talked about: The joys of wrapping paper with guide lines on the back How much better tropical fruit is in tropical locations If the kitchen cupboards need rearranging. Our friends and family Past Christmases How cool the fires in the John Wayne movie “Hellfighters” look. Lots of other stuff in that movie. Whee - after Hellfighters, there are more John Wayne movies. Whatever cool but stupid things were happening on Mythbusters that moment. How many vanilla beans should I use in a liter of bourbon, to make vanilla extract. What was the best way to prepare a standing rib roast. And I’m sure a bunch of other small stuff. Or in short: Life, the Universe and Everything. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2014, 3:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/38 "2014-12-26T15:06:43Z")
> [@Gatopescado](#): > > Couldn’t tell ya. I stopped listening a long time ago. Ah, yes, the true key to a happy marriage! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/22080_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2014, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/39 "2014-12-26T15:14:49Z")
We’re engineers - our conversations can be really unique. We may discuss design issues or ideas, or science-y stuff (that’s the technical term) that we read about or see on TV, as well as TV shows, movies, Netflix series, travel plans, things we’ve done, things we’d like to do, family stuff, the weather, our pets, our finances, world events, and, I dunno - what’cha got? When it’s just the 2 of us, I’d say the technical conversations are more frequent than idle chit-chat. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2014, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035/40 "2014-12-26T16:13:06Z")
> [@Quasimodal](#): > > I’m in the reflection phase after finishing a relationship. Makes me wonder…what do most couples talk about when they are just hanging out? We talked mostly about fitness…health problems…and family drama. How about you? Books we’re reading, shows we’re watching, why they don’t post any unrevealed Jeopardy! clues online the next day, what’s for dinner, what we ought to take to a party next week, household chores that need to be done, whether one of us will be able to accompany/help the other with xyz, what happened at work today, whether I should have him cremated when he dies or taxidermied in a nice suit and holding a tray (so my next husband always has a place to set his drink), why the cat dreams of murder all day, why the dog wants a pony…and yeah, health problems and family drama. We’ve had kind of a lot of those last two things this year, so we’ve spent a lot of time on both those subjects. A _lot_ of time, to the point we’re both sick to the teeth of talking about them, but continuing to live with them requires a certain amount of continued conversation. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-signifcant-other-talk-about/708035.md?page=3)