# What do you and your spouse/SO do to keep sex fun and exciting? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 18, 2013, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074 "2013-04-18T22:22:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Neo-Calredic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/96bed5/32.png) [@Neo-Calredic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neo-Calredic)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/1 "2013-04-18T22:22:15Z")
My wife and I have been together for about five years now, and our sex life is still awesome. However, I’m always up for ideas to make it **more** awesome. What do you and your spouse or SO do to keep things exciting? To get things rolling, here’s one of ours: Like many men, I have an… appreciation… for French maid outfits (I used to watch the movie Clue a lot as a kid, and I guess the sexy maid left an impression on me). Occasionally, my lovely wife will humor me and dress up as one, feather duster and all. If she really feels like giving me a treat, she’ll even do the accent. Those are fun nights. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lancia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lancia/32/17174_2.png) [@Lancia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lancia)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/2 "2013-04-18T22:44:08Z")
Mix a scoop of real coffee in with the decaf. ---
**Author:** ![Battle\_Pope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4bbf92/32.png) [@Battle\_Pope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Battle_Pope)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/3 "2013-04-18T22:56:51Z")
Try the “Rodeo”. Start off doggy style and when things are progressing say: “I’ve always wanted to do your mother/sister/best friend (pick which will ge the best reaction - /brother/father/grandmother are also options) like this”. Then try to hang on. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/4 "2013-04-18T23:04:45Z")
We’ve been together nearly 40 years, and find that being very open with each other about our interests and curiosities has been very helpful in keeping the spark alive. Of course we’re no spring chickens now. We’re lucky if we manage to make the sweet sweet whoopie more than 3 times a week. ---
**Author:** ![missred](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missred/32/14096_2.png) [@missred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missred)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/5 "2013-04-18T23:11:44Z")
Two fifty year olds in two households including three kids, three dogs and two cats? Run away from home for the weekend! 😃 Truly, sometimes, when the boys are with their mom, instructions are given to text if they need their dad for anything and we take off, usually not far, far away and not $$$ but somewhere without the distractions of either home. Then we break out the feather dusters, the peanut butter and chocolate sauce. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![The\_Second\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@The\_Second\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Second_Stone)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/6 "2013-04-18T23:30:17Z")
> [@Battle\_Pope](#): > > Try the “Rodeo”. > > Start off doggy style and when things are progressing say: “I’ve always wanted to do your mother/sister/best friend (pick which will ge the best reaction - /brother/father/grandmother are also options) like this”. > > Then try to hang on. 🙂 The line is “your little sister’s tits are a lot bigger and firmer” spoken with disappointment. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2013, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/7 "2013-04-18T23:46:33Z")
We occasionally try to have it before collapsing exhausted into motionlessness. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/8 "2013-04-19T00:17:41Z")
Oddly enough, the first decade or so of marriage we didn’t have much trouble keeping it fun and exciting. With advancing age there is still much anticipation, the trouble seems to be more having the energy to actually perform the act. So… in our case, adequate sleep seems to be a chief ingredient. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/9 "2013-04-19T00:25:46Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > We’ve been together nearly 40 years, and find that being very open with each other about our interests and curiosities has been very helpful in keeping the spark alive. > > Of course we’re no spring chickens now. We’re lucky if we manage to make the sweet sweet whoopie more than 3 times a week. That’s more than I’ve ever been able to do it. Am I missing a dietary supplement or something? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/10 "2013-04-19T01:46:03Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > That’s more than I’ve ever been able to do it. > > Am I missing a dietary supplement or something? Yes - I think **Qadgop** takes a daily dose of extra-strength Facetiousness. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/11 "2013-04-19T01:50:45Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > That’s more than I’ve ever been able to do it. > > Am I missing a dietary supplement or something? Everyone’s drives are different. When our schedules line up well, **Acid Lamp** and I can manage 1x/day, but when they’re out of alignment, it’s more like 3-4x/week if it’s not an insane week. We’ve been together for a little over a decade, and we mostly try to switch it up so there’s no “routine” session. We have no kids, so as long as we’re not entertaining guests, we’re pretty open about “hey, I’d like some sex” with each other whenever the urge arises. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/12 "2013-04-19T05:05:55Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > We’ve been together nearly 40 years, and find that being very open with each other about our interests and curiosities has been very helpful in keeping the spark alive. > > Of course we’re no spring chickens now. We’re lucky if we manage to make the sweet sweet whoopie more than 3 times a week. Just as long as she doesn’t complain about you getting yours at work! ---
**Author:** ![AaronX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7bcc69/32.png) [@AaronX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AaronX)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/13 "2013-04-19T08:28:24Z")
Any comments on bedroom furniture, ramps, Liberator, etc.? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 8:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/14 "2013-04-19T08:55:13Z")
We have a dungeon in the attic. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 9:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/15 "2013-04-19T09:04:49Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > We’ve been together nearly 40 years, and find that being very open with each other about our interests and curiosities has been very helpful in keeping the spark alive. > > Of course we’re no spring chickens now. We’re lucky if we manage to make the sweet sweet whoopie more than 3 times a week. I always imagined you to be slightly younger Qadgop (I have no idea why). I know what you mean about advancing age though- I’m flat out lasting more than an hour in a session these days. ---
**Author:** ![stui\_magpie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stui_magpie/32/11010_2.png) [@stui\_magpie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stui_magpie)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/16 "2013-04-19T09:56:14Z")
Talking dirty. I’ll call her on the phone when I’m interstate and talk to her while I’m having sex:D ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/17 "2013-04-19T13:23:26Z")
We’ve recently started masturbating when we’re apart during the day and texting each other a smileyface to let the other know that we’ve done it, which is our signal to the other to find an opportunity to return the favor within the hour. It can be quite a challenge; she’ll send me one on a day that I have back-to-back meetings and I have to find an opportunity to slip away for a few minutes to get to the men’s room. Or I’ll send her one when I’m at work and she’ll have to swing by the house to work one out before heading to her next errand/appointment. It’s fun. And I love knowing that sometimes she’s home, feeling horny and rubbing one out. Having written this out, I think I may have to text her a smileyface today. Other times one of us will just text the other a NSFW picture of ourselves, and the other will go take one and do the same, just as a way to say “I’m thinking of you”. Married almost 15 years. ---
**Author:** ![Prof.Pepperwinkle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/prof.pepperwinkle/32/13627_2.png) [@Prof.Pepperwinkle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Prof.Pepperwinkle)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/18 "2013-04-19T13:35:37Z")
Madame Pepperwinkle and I have been together 35 years. At the moment she’s recovering from a hysterectomy. We spent all of last year moving. I suspect that when she’s healed enough to resume relations, we won’t need any other impetus. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/19 "2013-04-19T13:40:41Z")
> [@AaronX](#): > > Any comments on bedroom furniture, ramps, Liberator, etc.? I want a Liberator so bad. But I’m scared my daughter would find it and then what? It looks innocent enough but she’d ask what it was and what could I say? ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 1:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/20 "2013-04-19T13:47:17Z")
It’s suposed to be “fun and exciting?” My lovely and long-suffering Wife and I have worked on the “awake and available” model for the past few years. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074.md?page=2)