# What do you and your spouse/SO do to keep sex fun and exciting? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 18, 2013, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074 "2013-04-18T22:22:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/21 "2013-04-19T13:54:44Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > I want a Liberator so bad. But I’m scared my daughter would find it and then what? It looks innocent enough but she’d ask what it was and what could I say? Those liberator type wedges are perfect for people with low back pain to prop their legs on during sleep. That would be my story and I’d stick to it! (I really did use one when recovering from back surgery) ---
**Author:** ![lost4life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c4cdca/32.png) [@lost4life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lost4life)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/22 "2013-04-19T14:02:48Z")
We use a large, vibrating egg. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/23 "2013-04-19T14:15:40Z")
> [@BoBettie](#): > > Those liberator type wedges are perfect for people with low back pain to prop their legs on during sleep. That would be my story and I’d stick to it! (I really did use one when recovering from back surgery) That’s a great idea! I am so getting one. Now to decide which one. ---
**Author:** ![AaronX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7bcc69/32.png) [@AaronX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AaronX)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/24 "2013-04-19T14:16:14Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > I want a Liberator so bad. But I’m scared my daughter would find it and then what? It looks innocent enough but she’d ask what it was and what could I say? I think the cube looks innocent enough (like an ottoman?). They’re all huge though, so very expensive to ship overseas. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/25 "2013-04-19T14:23:14Z")
A little old lady goes to the doctor and says, “Doctor, I am starting to worry about my husband. He can always orgasm once he is erect, but it is taking him much longer to get that way.” “And how old are you?” asks the doctor. “I’m eighty-three. My husband is eighty-four.” “And when did you first notice this problem?” asks the doctor. “Well, last night, and then again this morning!” Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/26 "2013-04-19T14:43:07Z")
During meteor showers we put a big blanket in the yard and watch the show. Although we don’t plan it to be sexy, it always winds up that way. Oh, and we have [skychairs](http://www.skychair.com/) on the front porch, side porch, and gazebo.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e47c2d/32.png) [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hershele_Ostropoler)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/27 "2013-04-19T16:03:10Z")
> [@lost4life](#): > > We use a large, vibrating egg. Ask a psychopath, you get that kind of an answer. ---
**Author:** ![ElvisL1ves](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5daacb/32.png) [@ElvisL1ves](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ElvisL1ves)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/28 "2013-04-19T16:26:25Z")
We’re both getting older and we know it. We just accept that it’s sometimes going to be as little as twice in a day, and sometimes for less than an hour. ---
**Author:** ![lost4life](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c4cdca/32.png) [@lost4life](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lost4life)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/29 "2013-04-19T16:31:28Z")
> [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](#): > > Ask a psychopath, you get that kind of an answer. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/30 "2013-04-19T20:10:56Z")
> [@lost4life](#): > > We use a large, vibrating egg. We did that once. All hell broke loose, though, when it hatched. Using a feather is erotic. Using the whole chicken is kinky. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/31 "2013-04-19T21:45:47Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Yes - I think **Qadgop** takes a daily dose of extra-strength Facetiousness. 🙂 Actually not. That number is about our average. I lust for her now just as much, if not more than I did when we first met. (And we were 15 when we first met.) The flesh may be weaker, but experience and innovation allow us to compensate for that. And boy do we innovate! We’ve had our issues over the years, but lack of passion has rarely been one of those issues. ---
**Author:** ![ToeJam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/dfb087/32.png) [@ToeJam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ToeJam)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/32 "2013-04-19T23:08:38Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > Actually not. That number is about our average. > > I lust for her now just as much, if not more than I did when we first met. (And we were 15 when we first met.) The flesh may be weaker, but experience and innovation allow us to compensate for that. And boy do we innovate! > > We’ve had our issues over the years, but lack of passion has rarely been one of those issues. You’re still one of my favorite and most inspirational Dopers, **QtM**! 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2013, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/33 "2013-04-19T23:19:58Z")
We just make it a very rare event. So in that case it has to be special and exciting, right? ---
**Author:** ![BrotherCadfael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@BrotherCadfael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrotherCadfael)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/34 "2013-04-20T00:29:34Z")
> [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](#): > > We just make it a very rare event. So in that case it has to be special and exciting, right? Well, by that standard our next time will probably be fatal… ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/35 "2013-04-20T02:06:48Z")
> [@Blackberry](#): > > I want a Liberator so bad. But I’m scared my daughter would find it and then what? It looks innocent enough but she’d ask what it was and what could I say? Amazon. Foam wedges. You’re welcome. ---
**Author:** ![Turek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/turek/32/18782_2.png) [@Turek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turek)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 10:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/36 "2013-04-20T10:28:20Z")
> [@lost4life](#): > > We use a large, vibrating egg. Wha??? I grill on mine all the time, and NEVER ONCE has it vibrated. ---
**Author:** ![AaronX](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7bcc69/32.png) [@AaronX](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AaronX)\ **Post date:** [April 20, 2013, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/37 "2013-04-20T15:26:21Z")
So I take it wedges are better than pillows? ---
**Author:** ![Leo\_Bloom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leo_bloom/32/10377_2.png) [@Leo\_Bloom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leo_Bloom)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2013, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/38 "2013-04-22T01:20:47Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > …We’ve had our issues over the years, but lack of passion has rarely been one of those issues. Perhaps you’re being reticent about the number of your “issues,” and you really are advancing from great make-up sex to the next great make-up sex. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2013, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/39 "2013-04-22T02:43:32Z")
There’s always [FetLife](https://fetlife.com/). ---
**Author:** ![ducati](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cc9497/32.png) [@ducati](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ducati)\ **Post date:** [April 22, 2013, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074/40 "2013-04-22T02:57:11Z")
We join other similarly minded people.:eek: YMMV. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-and-your-spouse-so-do-to-keep-sex-fun-and-exciting/656074.md?page=3)