# What do you do that your SO hates? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 28, 2002, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417 "2002-06-28T16:58:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2002, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/21 "2002-06-28T21:26:48Z")
> [@](#): > > Oh, and I tweak his nipples, and grab his butt, and tickle him. I poke my finger in his mouth when he yawns. And when he leans in close to my face, I lick his nose. LOL, I do all that stuff too. It drives him batty. Especially the nipple thing… Let’s see, what else do I do? I tend to tune people out—all people. So, I’ll be off in my own little world and he’ll be talking, and I’ll catch, “…can you believe that?” “Uh…can I believe what?” “I just talked for 10 mins and you didn’t hear a word I said!” “You were talking for _ten_ minutes? Dude, I didn’t hear a word.” That really, really makes him mad. Especially since I do it all the time…not on purpose, it just happens. ---
**Author:** ![Cervaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cervaise/32/16693_2.png) [@Cervaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cervaise)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2002, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/22 "2002-06-28T22:02:51Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Gundy \* > \*\*Oh, and the toothpaste cap. I never put it on all the way. That probably irks him more than anything else. \*\* My father the asshole divorced his second wife over this. At least, that’s what he _said._ That’s part of what makes him an asshole. ---
**Author:** ![Proudest\_Monkey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/proudest_monkey/32/13257_2.png) [@Proudest\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Proudest_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2002, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/23 "2002-06-28T22:52:37Z")
I write checks out of order. You see, we share a checkbook which has side-bound duplicate checks. Rather that carefully thumb through the dupes to the next fresh check, I just flip to where there is sure to be a fresh check and write it out. I figure all the checks will get written eventually, so what’s the diff if my $17.44 at Wally World is out of sequence? I mean, it’s not like I took another whole pad of checks and started writing them! Sheesh! Also, I never answer the phone. I let the machine pick up 90% of the time. If it’s someone I want to talk to (which is rarely the case) it’s easy to grab it. Believe it or not, these two minor little things make him crazy! You’d think I was stomping kittens or something! ---
**Author:** ![HerMajestyLorna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7cd45c/32.png) [@HerMajestyLorna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HerMajestyLorna)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2002, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/24 "2002-06-28T23:07:48Z")
I fall asleep during movies I don’t like, especially late at night. He claims he doesn’t understand how I can do that. Huh. I pronounce vitamin “VIT-a-min” not “VITE-a-min.” Drives him up the wall and around the corner. ---
**Author:** ![stofsky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dfb087/32.png) [@stofsky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stofsky)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2002, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/25 "2002-06-28T23:14:44Z")
Add me to the “pretty much by existing lately” crowd. But when she’s not attempting to show how long someone can live with a stick up the ass, I can pretty well be sure to annoy her by: tickling providing a purple nurple tweaking her nose wet willie mentioning that sex would be a good thing when we just did it a) last night b)last week c) last month What she does that annoys me (and I’m certainly in the right here): listens to CMT in bed while I’m trying to sleep, despite the fact that contemporary country music is the work of the devil puts on her headphones to listen to contemporary country, making me hear the tinny yodels of Jo Dee Messina or Garth “Chris Gaines” Brooks while I’m trying to sleep comes into my home office _while I’m working_ and tries to carry on a conversation about something of deep importance when I mention that sex would be a good thing, says that we just did it a) last night b) last week c) last month ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/26 "2002-06-29T00:14:26Z")
If I have goopy dishes, I’ll fill them with soapy water and let them soak in the sink before de-gooping them and putting them in the dishwasher - stuff like oatmeal or slightly dried spaghetti sauce or a particularly greasy baking dish. Why should I scrub when the soap and warm water will make the goop easier to remove?? He has fits over that. It’s not like I leave lights on all over the house or leave my shoes in the middle of the floor where an unsuspecting soul could trip over them. You’d think after 18 years, he’d chill out… ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/27 "2002-06-29T00:46:44Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally Posted by World Eater_ > **Mariocart with the fellas. Man she hates that.** Hell yeah, dude, I’m comin’ over!! I call Wario … ---
**Author:** ![Essured](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Essured](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Essured)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/28 "2002-06-29T00:56:34Z")
One of my habits drives my SO up the wall. I’ll sometimes turn to him and say “don’t you think so ?” out of the blue. I have been thinking about something we’ve been discussing, perhaps a week ago, and come to a conclusion in my mind, and turn to him, obviously thinking he’s been following the discussion in my mind. I have no idea why I think he can read my mind, but he’s getting a lot better at guessing what subject I’m referring to. Drives him batshit, though. ---
**Author:** ![tolyri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7c8e57/32.png) [@tolyri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tolyri)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/29 "2002-06-29T02:50:31Z")
Three words that drive the hubby crazy… P M S ---
**Author:** ![Nocturne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/9fc348/32.png) [@Nocturne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nocturne)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/30 "2002-06-29T04:04:17Z")
I have a habit of answering questions with questions. Like this: SO: Where do you want to go eat? Me: Where do you think is good? SO: What do you think of that new Tom Cruise movie? Me: Why? It drives him nuts. Also, when I get tired of arguing or my argument is so illogical that I can’t defend it anymore, I tend to dismiss it with “whatever.” He also hates it when I don’t take care of myself. ---
**Author:** ![dragongirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b38774/32.png) [@dragongirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dragongirl)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/31 "2002-06-29T13:53:07Z")
_originally posted by tolyri_ > [@](#): > > Three words that drive the hubby crazy… > > P M S Ditto ---
**Author:** ![cagiva650](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cagiva650](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cagiva650)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/32 "2002-06-29T14:44:57Z")
Wasting the day by surfing the SDMB, he hammers cuts saws rakes fixes and generally putters and checks in to see me sitting like a spud in front of the 'puter. Drives him nuts. So what! I pick up his empties and the bottle caps and the dirty socks turned inside out and the cigarette buts out of my garden and do I complain NO! But Im gonna start! ---
**Author:** ![nahtanoj](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/71c47a/32.png) [@nahtanoj](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nahtanoj)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/33 "2002-06-29T16:39:44Z")
1. She hates it when I tickle her, especially her feet. 2. She is annoyed that I find little redeming value in dogs (I’d rather have a cat). 3. That I can be completely neutral on some topics: “You want to go out to dinner?” “Okay” “Where?” “I don’t know.” nahtanoj ---
**Author:** ![Cessandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@Cessandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cessandra)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/34 "2002-06-29T17:50:47Z")
What is with all of you tickling/nose-licking/goosing/nipple-pinchers??? If your SO is annoyed by it, why don’t you stop? Or at least make sure your breath isn’t yicky before you nose-lick? Please? (Can you tell whose DH is part of your club?) Me, I do the leg-shaking thing (can’t help it, it’s involuntary). When I’m upset, I do several things that annoy him, all of which I am working on. First, I don’t want to admit it. I’m pretty open on the internet, but IRL I hate to talk about my feelings and shit. ESPECIALLY to anyone I am mad at. This drives him up a wall and causes him to constantly ask if I am mad about something. Which drives me up a wall. Secondly, when we do fight, I start feeling frustrated like I can’t express myself, so I have a tendency to make a snide remark and walk away. Pisses him off to no end. Finally, he always ends up getting to a point where he is beyond his anger and wants to talk rationally. But I never get to that point unless I have had some time to myself (and usually by then I no longer want to admit there was a problem to begin with). So I just agree with whatever he says. Then later we end up fighting about it again and he gets mad because he thought we’d worked it out and come to an agreement. Yeah, I suck at conflict resolution. But I am getting better. ---
**Author:** ![delphica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e9a140/32.png) [@delphica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/delphica)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/35 "2002-06-29T18:32:54Z")
Oddly enough, he gets annoyed when he fails to read my mind. Clearly, this is his failing, not mine, right? 😉 (I’m kidding about the failing part, I realize that is in fact totally annoying.) One of the most blessed things about him is that he really _doesn’t_ get that annoyed about hardly anything. He tolerates me letting the cat call him “Daddy,” even in front of his friends (this I think makes him a candidate for sainthood), with a minimum of eye-rolling. But a few months ago, Petsmart had an adorable commercial that showed a couple taking a bubble bath, with their little dog in the tub. The first time we saw that commecial, I looked over to him with a big grin on my face, and in turn, he shot me the LOOK OF DEATH. Oh, the biggest thing – he gets very annoyed when I do stuff on the computer that doesn’t match the way he does stuff. He has some elaborate system about where different sorts of files are supposed to go, and frankly, I just let all the chips fall where they may. This does chap his ass mightily. ---
**Author:** ![DAVEW0071](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e19b73/32.png) [@DAVEW0071](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DAVEW0071)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/36 "2002-06-29T18:55:04Z")
I mutter. When I’m mildly POd about something, that is. I don’t shout and rail on and on, because that’s inappropriate, but I don’t suffer in silence either. I mutter sarcastic things under my breath, but loud enough so she knows I’m muttering sarcastic things under my breath, even if she can’t make out the words. Another thing I do, and I really have to control this, is inappropriate touching. Not the nose-licking type of things that people have mentioned in this thread (and why do you people _do_ that? It’s deliberately annoying, provocative behavior. I’d be inclined to hate it, too). I mean, sometimes, I just want to hold my wife’s breasts or squeeze her butt or something, but she says it makes her feel like a piece of meat. This doesn’t happen during foreplay, mind you, but sometimes, just when we’re talking in the kitchen or something, she just is so pretty and desirable, and I just want to touch her. Not fair to her, though, it’s her body. Anyway, she hates it. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/37 "2002-06-29T21:44:50Z")
1. I do not chew my food enough to satisfy my wife. 2. When I drink, I have a habit of meeting the lower rim if the drinking vessel with my tongue rather than my lower lip. I can’t help it. 3. I use a fresh towel every day 4. I use too much margarine on my sandwiches 5. I forget to push back the chair under the dining room table. 6. Now and then I challenge the legitimacy of my wife’s spending. ---
**Author:** ![cagiva650](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@cagiva650](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cagiva650)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/38 "2002-06-29T21:45:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DAVEW0071 \* > \*\*Another thing I do, and I really have to control this, is inappropriate touching… > > I mean, sometimes, I just want to hold my wife’s breasts or squeeze her butt or something, but she says it makes her feel like a piece of meat. This doesn’t happen during foreplay, mind you, but sometimes, just when we’re talking in the kitchen or something, she just is so pretty and desirable, and I just want to touch her. Not fair to her, though, it’s her body. Anyway, she hates it. \*\* That gives me the heeby jeeby’s too, a hand out of the blue cupping my bunlet or following the seam of my crotch and I’m already in a snit about this and that and then a sly touch I’ll back hand him one of these days. ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2002, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/39 "2002-06-29T23:49:08Z")
Well, it used to be smoking, but I quit almost two years ago. ---
**Author:** ![Iteki\_actually](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b2d939/32.png) [@Iteki\_actually](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Iteki_actually)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2002, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417/40 "2002-06-30T00:17:17Z")
oooh! What the heck? I have a load of sock-puppets that I dont rememeber making… and they have more posts than me!! I do the leg twitching thing like Zev to screams of “Balance yourself goddammit!”, like FairyChatMom I have a “system” of leaving dishes to “soak”… Not appreciated… I too am guilty of provocative poking/licking (read that as you will), where I will poke and tickle and bite just to irritate. However, I think such poking and tickling is more than allowed considering my SO seems to have soul mates here too… She is a great one for sticking her finger in my mouth when I yawn, I dont think I have yawned properly in about 7 years, I have this total pavlovian reaction that prevents me now. Delphica, I too loose my nut over the fact that SO does not use the puter in the same way I do. Worst of all is that she decides to save docs on my puter, and just anywhere! Last but not least, Breezy has a buddy here too, once the date is gone on the food, its in the bin, if it even makes it that long! I am very flexible in these matters however and resort to almost lying in order to keep food in the fridge “The salsa? Nooo we only opened that a week ago”… I find this thread reassuring, other people are just as odd as we are. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-that-your-so-hates/116417.md?page=3)