# What do you do when you're the last one? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 24, 2005, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427 "2005-01-24T16:56:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![hathaway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8e8cbc/32.png) [@hathaway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hathaway)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/41 "2005-01-27T04:17:20Z")
Yeah, I think I’m permasingle, too. Sometimes I worry that when I’m sixty or seventy and the pickings become even slimmer, I’m going to regret not trying to find someone sooner. I dunno. Mostly everyone in my social circle is paired up. My two single friends aren’t truly–one always has _a_ boyfriend, and the other has a fiancé who is studying abroad. It can be frustrating trying to make plans with one part of a couple because you have to hope both their schedules are agreeable. Sometimes someone automatically invites their spouse when you were hoping to just have a one-on-one visit. (I don’t dislike any of my friends spouses, but we are not friendly beyond light chitchat, and the dynamic changes. Sometimes I feel like I’m tagging along.) The one who is always entering into new relationships is hard to get a hold of because she’s frequently in that star-struck phase. Plus, I’m noticing a difference in lifestyle between me and my married friends because they’re buying houses and new cars and big screen tvs and vacations… and I don’t have much to say about those subjects. So what is “Left Behinds” and “Quirky Alones” and why are they bad things? Maybe a club is a good idea. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/42 "2005-01-27T04:43:38Z")
“Permasingularity.” Cooool. I’m all for that. The word, at least. Would be great on t-shirts or really big coffee mugs. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/43 "2005-01-27T04:57:02Z")
I love permasingularity! 😃 I do hearby solemnly swear not to blather about houses _or_ kids to my permafriends! ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/44 "2005-01-27T04:58:23Z")
**Hathaway** , IMHO, “Left Behind” might be confused with that series of Rapturist Christian books. “QuirkyAlone” is just too… too… cute and diminishing. QuirkyAlone takes the darkness and loneliness of being the Last One and reduces it to a picturesque piece of fluff that someone might trim and put in a scrapbook. And there _is_ a [QuirkyAlone website](http://quirkyalone.net/qa/index.php) too. A quick scan of the front page of the site does not reveal anything too bad; it’s a pity the name undermines it. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/45 "2005-01-27T05:20:38Z")
[Voilà!](http://www.cafepress.com/permasingular) It’s a beginning. Ideas welcome! 🙂 [sub]High-speed makes dealing with CaféPress so much _faster_! [/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/46 "2005-01-27T05:28:22Z")
Oh, they’re quite good. Maybe a definition to the word would work on shirts, too–whatever witty way we can come up with to define it. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/47 "2005-01-27T05:31:21Z")
Crud. Preview. Preview. _Preview!!!_ Here’s the URL: [http://www.cafepress.com/permasingular](http://www.cafepress.com/permasingular) (“permasingularity” wouldn’t fit as a store name) ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/48 "2005-01-27T05:33:44Z")
Thanks! 🙂 Let’s think on the definition. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 5:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/49 "2005-01-27T05:44:04Z")
> [@QueenTonya](#): > > I love how we can be just fine with being single, it’s everyone else that’s uncomfortable with it yet somehow they expect their discomfort to be our issue. We should try to work this in, I think, or maybe compare ourselves with things that are good by themselves. Or work the physics angle. Geeky always helps, IMO. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Babbington](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Mr.Babbington](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Babbington)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/50 "2005-01-27T05:49:48Z")
Is there room on the S.S. Permasingle? Or has it left port, and I am permasingle again? ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/51 "2005-01-27T05:54:57Z")
Welcome aboard, **Mr. Babbington**! \ :: fuuuuweeeee :: \ You will have to learn our language. Repeat after me: _Arrrrrrr!_ ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/52 "2005-01-27T06:04:58Z")
This eyepatch is hell on my depth perception. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Babbington](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Mr.Babbington](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Babbington)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 6:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/53 "2005-01-27T06:08:25Z")
It’s funny I found this tonight. I was brooding on my singledom earlier this evening. I used to be in a rather committed relationship and my best friend was the third wheel. Now he is in a rather committed relationship, and I am the third wheel. It’s funny how the wheel goes round. Here’s what I realized tonight: I actually don’t care. I am 27, single, and I don’t care. I’m not happy about it, but I’m not unhappy about it. At peace with it? Very probably. Anyway, **Sunspace** , thanks for the overly nautical welcome. ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/54 "2005-01-27T06:40:07Z")
> [@ArrMatey!](#): > > I guess this was more of me venting than asking for advice. I’m not sure there’s anything in specific that -can- be done. So… > Just venting, I guess. You could adopt the Buddhist philosophy that life is suffering and the only way to be happy is to free oneself from desire. It works for me. And when that doesn’t work, there’s always beer, corndogs, and expensive electronic gadgets. ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/55 "2005-01-27T14:27:57Z")
> [@Harimad-sol](#): > > This eyepatch is hell on my depth perception. Right then, I think we’ve found our symbol. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![ArrMatey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/arrmatey/32/3522_2.png) [@ArrMatey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ArrMatey)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/56 "2005-01-27T16:31:14Z")
I just have to say… Wow. I’m really impressed, and exceedingly happy! This is going really well, and I’m glad others have jumped on the bandwagon! As for the eyepatch being the symbol… I’m honored. Very very honored! Of course, my next question is, how can I help my fellow permasingularities? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/57 "2005-01-27T16:56:31Z")
> [@Queen Tonya](#): > > Right then, I think we’ve found our symbol. I sense a session with Illustrator and Photoshop coming up… 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![ArrMatey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/arrmatey/32/3522_2.png) [@ArrMatey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ArrMatey)\ **Post date:** [January 27, 2005, 8:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/58 "2005-01-27T20:07:41Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > I sense a session with Illustrator and Photoshop coming up… 🙂 _waits impatiently._ _bounces in his chair_ _waits more_ ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2005, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/59 "2005-01-28T00:04:09Z")
There’s some really bad joke about an eyepatch symbol…if we were looking for someone with both eyes, maybe…ack. Someone funnier come in and tell me what it is! :smack: ---
**Author:** ![hathaway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8e8cbc/32.png) [@hathaway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hathaway)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2005, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427/60 "2005-01-28T01:04:27Z")
> [@Sunspace](#): > > **Hathaway** , IMHO, “Left Behind” might be confused with that series of Rapturist Christian books. > > “QuirkyAlone” is just too… too… cute and diminishing. Thanks, Sunspace. Yeah, I thought I recognized “Left Behind” but in a different context. QuirkyAlone is an odd name… I don’t know why but it makes me think of a computer program… or the name of a robot in some bad 80s sci-fi movie. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-do-when-youre-the-last-one/286427.md?page=4)