# What Do You Find Attractive About Men? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 15, 2006, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560 "2006-10-15T19:53:25Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Sean\_Factotum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/50afbb/32.png) [@Sean\_Factotum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sean_Factotum)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/21 "2006-10-16T18:18:30Z")
[QUOTE=OneCentStamp] Um…how much is a ticket to…Spain, is it? 😉 [/QUOTE] I have it on good authority that you need to be a hypnotist to get anywhere with **Nava**. ---
**Author:** ![Auntbeast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Auntbeast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Auntbeast)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/22 "2006-10-16T18:32:08Z")
My husband breaks more than he fixes. I had 3 people on hot standby when he replaced the brakes on my car. He’s a lazy, pasty, bald, overweight computer geek. (The total is better than the parts, I promise) He wouldn’t know a feminine side if it bitch slapped him. But how he loves me. He is stupid about me in the most manly way you can imagine. I love when he’s a complete dork out of love. I also adore when he senses someone is paying a tad too much attention to his little lady and he gets territorial (by putting his arm around me, not by punching someone) In general though, I do love a nice ass. One has been provided for me at work to look at to my hearts content. I love nice, sturdy legs. Self-acceptance is key. I see false bravado all day long, I like a guy that knows what/who he is and is ok with it. I also like seeing a guy doing something that is out of character for him. I have a regular customer that is always very respectfully nice to me. Very pleasant fellow. He made a comment one day and I popped back a clever retort and his voice broke answering me. I’ve had a soft spot for him ever since. Ohh, carry a book. Read it even. I’ll notice, I swear! ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/23 "2006-10-16T18:48:34Z")
Ooh, men! I love their strong hands, broad backs and how different their skin feels from my own. I love the small of their backs and my nails against their shoulders and how they smile at you when you do something girlie that they don’t understand. I love calloused fingers against my soft skin and I love that most men I know are a fair bit darker than me (Mostly because I’m half glow worm) and seeing our arms or legs pressed together and the contrast between the two makes me swoon. I love how strong their arms are when they’re wrapped around your shoulders. I love wrestling with them when they don’t just let you win. I love when you leave them alone for a weekend and you come home to find paper plates and pizza boxes and you know the only time they opened the fridge in three days was to put beer in or take beer out. I love when they make decisions like it’s the easiest thing in the world when I’m neurotically waffling about which restaurant to go to or which movie to see. I love how they can go away for a weekend with one relatively small bag of stuff. I like waking up next to them and snuggling right into that area between the collar bone and shoulder. I love how unafraid they are to let you see them and touch them. Possible TMI: I lovelovelove that look in their eyes when you glance at their face while brushing your hair back from your face right before you go down on them. It completely melts me. Their cologne always smells so much better than our perfume too. Cool Water makes me loopy (in a good way). ---
**Author:** ![descamisado](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@descamisado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/descamisado)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/24 "2006-10-16T18:55:43Z")
[QUOTE=Sunspace] I thought that was the solution, not the problem? 😃 [/QUOTE] I would have phrased as this would definitely be one time that the destination is more important than the journey. ---
**Author:** ![Beware\_of\_Doug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/278dde/32.png) [@Beware\_of\_Doug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beware_of_Doug)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/25 "2006-10-16T19:17:48Z")
I’m disappointed in you, ladies. What you want in a man is not a multidimensional human being, but a [paper towel label](http://www.wackypackages2005.com/images/ANS3/brawny.jpg). But I am not giving up, thereby giving you the satisfaction of thinking, “That’ll show him, the pectorally underdeveloped, non-beer-drinking, non-wrestling, over-articulate little silverfish.” ---
**Author:** ![Squeaker\_Snow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/fbc32d/32.png) [@Squeaker\_Snow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Squeaker_Snow)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/26 "2006-10-16T20:16:18Z")
[QUOTE=MaxTheVool] (reads thread) (examines nerdy frame) (calculates how often found wearing a suit/tie) (considers lack of ability to fix cars) I am soooooooooooo screwed. [/QUOTE] Oh, Max! Nerds can be “hot” as well. In high school, the jocks never took a second look at me, but I dated the entire chess team! Hey, I even married a professor! There’s a whole series of “nerd” romance novels by Vicki Lewis Thompson where the nerds always end up with the beautiful woman. Don’t despair! Big muscles and the ability to fix things isn’t everything. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 8:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/27 "2006-10-16T20:30:54Z")
I actually prefer lean and lanky over muscle bound and hairy, so there’s hope… I just like men. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/28 "2006-10-16T20:37:25Z")
Bloody hell, if this thread is anything to go by, and the traditional" “manly man” thing is what the ladies want, then 90% of us doper males appear to be screwed. And not in the right way. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/29 "2006-10-16T20:45:48Z")
I just regret growing up 15 or 20 years too early for this ‘nerds are hot’ thing. It would have made my college years very different. ---
**Author:** ![Carlyjay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Carlyjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carlyjay)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/30 "2006-10-16T21:20:16Z")
1. They’re funny. In my opinion, men are usually _much_ funnier than most women. I love it when they make me laugh. 2. Their love of video games. Some people may find it annoying, but I find it adorable. 3. Their deep and passionate nostalgia for Transformers, Thundercats and G.I. Joe. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/31 "2006-10-16T22:45:55Z")
[QUOTE=jjimm] Bloody hell, if this thread is anything to go by, and the traditional" “manly man” thing is what the ladies want, then 90% of us doper males appear to be screwed. And not in the right way. [/QUOTE] Not true, mate. Read the thread again… ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/32 "2006-10-16T23:27:19Z")
If you ask me what I like about men, the manly thing does come to mind. It’s present in my fantasies, it visually attracts me, and it used to be a requirement when I was younger. Only big, muscular, testosterony and brawny would do for me. But now, at 38, I’ve come to realize that I don’t want a “type”, I like to experiment. A scrawny little feller is good too- I can fit my body with theirs in a way I can’t with a large guy, the sex is usually better- the point is, it’s aaallll good. The only muscle I _require_ to be overdeveloped is your brain. Oh wait, that’s not a muscle. You skinny little non-car-fixing nerds- don’t despair, we want you, too. ---
**Author:** ![Squeaker\_Snow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/fbc32d/32.png) [@Squeaker\_Snow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Squeaker_Snow)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2006, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/33 "2006-10-17T00:35:33Z")
[QUOTE=Alice The Goon] If you ask me what I like about men, the manly thing does come to mind. It’s present in my fantasies, it visually attracts me, and it used to be a requirement when I was younger. Only big, muscular, testosterony and brawny would do for me. But now, at 38, I’ve come to realize that I don’t want a “type”, I like to experiment. A scrawny little feller is good too- I can fit my body with theirs in a way I can’t with a large guy, the sex is usually better- the point is, it’s aaallll good. The only muscle I _require_ to be overdeveloped is your brain. Oh wait, that’s not a muscle. You skinny little non-car-fixing nerds- don’t despair, we want you, too. [/QUOTE] Oh, Alice, I agree. Smart is sexy and funny is sexy. You know who I think is “hot” and wouldn’t match up to the “muscular, he-man, fixing-things guy” stereotype? Al Franken. I venture to guess that he is more in line with what some of these guys think of as “the typical Doper male.” If I was single and he were single, he could pat my knee anytime. ---
**Author:** ![Tabula\_Rasa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a9adbd/32.png) [@Tabula\_Rasa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tabula_Rasa)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2006, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/34 "2006-10-17T00:43:04Z")
The nerd hot talk (yes, that’s from West Wing) is the best – the referencing and cross-referencing and appearing to wander and bringing the conversation right back around as a tribute wrapped up in a joke. Tabby ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2006, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/35 "2006-10-17T02:43:10Z")
[QUOTE=Carlyjay] 1. They’re funny. In my opinion, men are usually _much_ funnier than most women. I love it when they make me laugh. 2. Their love of video games. Some people may find it annoying, but I find it adorable. 3. Their deep and passionate nostalgia for Transformers, Thundercats and G.I. Joe. [/QUOTE] Um. You sound like a gal that appreciates the stereotypical Doper guy. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2006, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/36 "2006-10-17T05:37:32Z")
Damn this thread! Damn it to hell! I’ll be in my bunk. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2006, 12:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/37 "2006-10-17T12:05:37Z")
[QUOTE=Sean Factotum] I have it on good authority that you need to be a hypnotist to get anywhere with **Nava**. [/QUOTE] Nah, that’s only to get me to be a good gal. Getting me to be a bad gal is a lot easier. ---
**Author:** ![Carlyjay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Carlyjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carlyjay)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2006, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/38 "2006-10-17T13:39:21Z")
[QUOTE=Least Original User Name Ever] Um. You sound like a gal that appreciates the stereotypical Doper guy. [/QUOTE] The Dope does indeed seem to be a haven for that sort. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Theodore\_Striker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@Theodore\_Striker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Theodore_Striker)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2006, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/39 "2006-10-17T17:30:44Z")
I may be classified as a perv, but what **malkavia** said in her spoiler was just absolutely sexy. ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2006, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560/40 "2006-10-17T19:22:20Z")
Mmmm. Strong arms, big hands, a bit of stubble, muscular chests… You know what? Screw that. Find me a total and utter geek with a great sense of humour, and a big dose of kindness and patience. (It helps if he looks like Jensen Ackles or James McAvoy though.) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-attractive-about-men/376560.md?page=3)