# What do you find sexy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 22, 2001, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754 "2001-06-22T07:42:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![\_Uigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/e9a140/32.png) [@\_Uigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Uigi)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2001, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/41 "2001-06-26T22:55:57Z")
classy and uncomplicated attire, clean and shiny (natural color) hair, flat tummy (six-packs aren’t needed), nice tan (NO blackened or lobster color) sleek feet (no brogan sized hooves), lower back fuzz (well, so?!?), white colored parts, small-ish to medium breast, good body tone (no butt baggage), natural grace (“taught” is as fake as it looks), nice aroma (even if sweaty), minimal make-up (no Tammy Fayes), plum colored parts, sense of humor, and?.. (a zillion other things I can’t bring to mind at the moment) and?.. . . . oh! . . . . . . . . . . . female! ---
**Author:** ![Strainger](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/strainger/32/244_2.png) [@Strainger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Strainger)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2001, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/42 "2001-06-27T16:13:46Z")
**BunnyGirl** > [@](#): > > Doing the dishes once in a while without my requesting it is very wonderful. Whoo! Score! [sub]Although I didn’t get them all done. :([/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Sengkelat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@Sengkelat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sengkelat)\ **Post date:** [June 27, 2001, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/43 "2001-06-27T18:28:37Z")
There are plenty of qualities I find desirable, and indeed essential, in a mate. Many of them have nothing to do with sexual desire. Okay, that’s just my disclaimer for why my list is going to sound shallow. 🙂 A good face. I can’t describe what makes it good, but the face is really important. Confidence. Expressive eyes. Long, straight hair. Preferrably deep brown, but any color will do, really. Long legs. And tall, overall. Smooth skin. An athletic build. I like my women strong. Not like a bodybuilder, they’re scary, but with good definition, especially the stomach. Mmm. Yum. But I prefer them having enough adipose tissue to still have visible breasts. A small, innie navel. Wearing heels. Mrs. Seng got a pair of 4" spike-heel shoes that she wore for my birthday…Oh my god! Wearing revealing clothing in general. Exposed stomachs, backs, shoulders, short skirts, etc, etc… Racy lingerie. It doesn’t matter what it is, it’s that the woman has chosen to wear it. Thigh high boots and shiny black vinyl. But I think I’m wandering into TMI territory. But since I’m here, I also find it very sexy if a woman can be dominant, or submissive, or vanilla as the situation requires. Whee! ---
**Author:** ![Tripler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripler/32/21807_2.png) [@Tripler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tripler)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2001, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/44 "2001-06-29T04:55:49Z")
I’m not too picky: Professional ladies well groomed, intelligent and articulate, knowledgable with what they do and have a passion for it, like competition but are able to be laid back, dark hair and darker eyes, or red hair, with a great sense of humor, and able to have fun no matter what the conditions. Tripler And I’m still looking for Mrs Right. ---
**Author:** ![BunnyGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@BunnyGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BunnyGirl)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2001, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/45 "2001-06-29T12:44:23Z")
But **Strainger** , you were a guest! Bad boy! [sub]Really, ladies, he’s sweet as pie…get 'im while you can[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19adc/32.png) [@Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2001, 1:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/46 "2001-06-29T13:33:58Z")
Knowing how to dance, and Nicely trimmed pubes. ---
**Author:** ![SoMoMom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/41988e/32.png) [@SoMoMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SoMoMom)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2001, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/47 "2001-06-29T13:48:19Z")
Blue eyes framed in dark lashes OR Deep brown eyes Straight blonde hair OR Curly dark brown hair OR A bald head (actually prefer this) Ok, I’m not really picky about looks. What I really find sexy is a guy who is HOT and he doesn’t act like he knows it. Intelligence and a sense of humor are also important. ---
**Author:** ![SoMoMom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/41988e/32.png) [@SoMoMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SoMoMom)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2001, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/48 "2001-06-29T14:45:47Z")
Ah, geez, how could I forget… An Irish accent There was college-aged Irish guy working at the KC Zoo and he talked to the kids I was with. When he got done talking I said to the girls, “Did you hear his accent?” My daughter said, “Mom, are you ok?” I guess I was a little flushed. :o ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2001, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/49 "2001-06-29T15:54:02Z")
**matt doesn’t want to get in trouble by listing one ‘type’ and excluding all the non-type but very hunky guy-type dopers out there** I have several distinct types. One I’m particularly obsessed with right now **how was that for a hedge?** is what the Japanese - or at least an _otaku_ like me - would call a bishounen: skinny, delicate, feminine, the sort of man you’re more likely to call “beautiful” than “handsome”. Shoujo animé is covered with them, which makes me very, very happy indeed; for an easier-to-find reference, right now I am totally all about Skids and Harley from [Boy Meets Boy](http://boymeetsboy.keenspace.com). I’m especially turned on by geeks and/or goths/punks and/or activists and/or sensitive artistic sissies, the sort of boy who looks like he was taunted a lot at school when he was a kid. Certain kinds of body piercing turn me on no end (tragically, I’ve yet to sleep with a bishounen with any multiplicity of eyebrow ring, tongue stud, tit ring, or belly ring). I also **always** make passes at boys who wear glasses. Colours of hair I find especially beautiful are dirty blonde, mouse-brown, black, blue-green, purple, flame-red, and crimson. I like European and Latino accents; I love Britboys, French boys, and Québécois boys. I’m also in the process of developing an attraction to Latino boys (_pero no machos, sino solamente muy maricones, ¡por supuesto!_) Right now, for example, I’m all about a slender and beautiful _venezolano_ refugee by the mellifluous and empyrian name of Miguel Ángel. Put me down, too, as yet another treasure-trail fetishist. As for conversation, if you can hold a coherent conversation with me about 1) cities and urbanism 2) linguistics 3) Canadian politics and/or 4) Star Trek, I’m basically happy. ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2001, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/50 "2001-06-30T03:17:22Z")
The eyes have it. Big dark liquid luminous eyes of Indian women melt me into white hot ecstasy. _Oh mama_ ---
**Author:** ![Mobius74](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b19c9b/32.png) [@Mobius74](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mobius74)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2001, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/51 "2001-06-30T03:46:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by GingerOfTheNorth \* > \*\* > And holy cow, gimme **a man in a uniform** and I’ll just about faint… and I don’t mean a pizza-guy uniform. I mean Military, EMT, Fireman, that sorta thing. It’s a hero-worship thing with me, I think. > \*\* “On the seventh day, as you know, God rested. Then on the eighth day (at 0730) God looked down upon the earth and he was not pleased. God was not happy! So he thought about His labours, and in His infinite wisdom, God created a divine creature, and this He called a MARINE. And these Marines, whom God had created in His own image, were to be of the land, and of the air, and of the sea. And to these creatures He gave many wonderful uniforms. Some were green, some were blue with red trim, and in the early days, some were even a beautiful tan. He gave them service uniforms for their daily work and training, that they might be sharp and ready. He gave them practical fighting uniforms so that they could wage war on the forces of Satan. And He gave them evening and dress uniforms - sharp, stylish, handsome things, so they might promenade with the ladies on Saturday night and impress the hell outta everybody! He even gave them swords so that people who were not impressed could be dealt with.” ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2001, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/52 "2001-06-30T03:54:09Z")
That’s it. I really need air conditioning. Twice today I’ve been told Marines – [sub]Oh hell.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Mobius74](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b19c9b/32.png) [@Mobius74](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mobius74)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2001, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/53 "2001-06-30T04:10:50Z")
The key is (1) WIT & HUMOR, (2) EYES & SMILE, and (3) a HEART as big as the Montana. ---
**Author:** ![gex\_gex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/94ad74/32.png) [@gex\_gex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gex_gex)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2001, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/54 "2001-06-30T15:01:45Z")
hair in two buns… so cute. breasts that aren’t too big. theatre girls. dancers. girls that are thin (hey… shoot me… i’m not into fat chicks). classy girls short girls. pyjamas… love em. girls with slightly weird names. girls who dress well. teenyboppers… i might like indie/alternative music, but give me an \*nsync fan for a girlfriend. younger girls. put all this together, and i’m in heaven. ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2001, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/55 "2001-06-30T16:38:23Z")
i’m not fussy. really. any colour any shape any size any nationality whatever. they have to make me feel good, and that’s it. ideally… intelligent, funny, cute. but i’ll settle for less quite happily. ---
**Author:** ![Bob\_Scene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19adc/32.png) [@Bob\_Scene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bob_Scene)\ **Post date:** [June 30, 2001, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/56 "2001-06-30T20:32:06Z")
Whenever I get to like a woman in that special way, whatever she’s like gets added to my list of turn-ons. At the moment the list includes, but is not limited to, tomboyishness (baseball cap, jeans, sweatshirt), an abrasive personality, Hispanicity, geekiness, and a cute haircut. Ask me again in a few months. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2001, 8:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/57 "2001-07-01T20:12:34Z")
Fine mind and broad education. Keen wit and humour. Desire for exploration and adventure. Compassion and tolerance. Capacity for love. ---
**Author:** ![wolfman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/a8b319/32.png) [@wolfman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfman)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2001, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/58 "2001-07-02T04:01:41Z")
> [@](#): > > The eyes have it. Big dark liquid luminous eyes of Indian women melt me into white hot ecstasy. Oh mama I’m with you there(at least pretty close). The sexiest woman on earth would have eyes like Jasmine from Alladin. ---
**Author:** ![Edwardina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Edwardina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edwardina)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2001, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754/59 "2001-07-02T04:35:40Z")
Intangible sexy qualities: Articulateness Stylishness Playfulness Intelligence Good manners Unselfconsciousness Sensuality - of _course_ Tangible sexy things: Real men’s bodies that are fit but didn’t come from the gym Necklaces that fall just at the base of the throat Flannel pajama bottoms Dark hair and eyes Low, masculine voices Some sort of physical discipline: dancing, sports, juggling, tying a cherry stem in a knot with his tongue, I don’t much care what - it all works! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-find-sexy/69754.md?page=2)