# What do you like most about being gay? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 15, 2001, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475 "2001-05-15T04:33:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![andygirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@andygirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andygirl)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2001, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/21 "2001-05-15T17:52:34Z")
Another thing I like abing being gay is how the most mundane things become subversive. I mean, I’m openly gay, I kiss girls, I don’t censor myself… in doing this, I’m a threat to the traditional family, a deviant, and a radical. Makes me feel like such a badass. ---
**Author:** ![MrVisible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@MrVisible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrVisible)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/22 "2001-05-16T00:22:18Z")
Probably my all-time favorite thing about being gay is that the people you get to have sex with are pretty uninhibited. I mean, if you can get over the societal taboos associated with bonking someone who’s got the same private bits as you, you’re pretty much up for all sorts of experimentation. Nothing that is human is alien to me, and all that. Oh, and having the ultimate excuse for not watching sports. “I’m a gay computer geek. You want me to do what?” ---
**Author:** ![Doobieous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/da6949/32.png) [@Doobieous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doobieous)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/23 "2001-05-16T00:34:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by andygirl \* > \*\*Another thing I like abing being gay is how the most mundane things become subversive. > > I mean, I’m openly gay, I kiss girls, I don’t censor myself… in doing this, I’m a threat to the traditional family, a deviant, and a radical. > > Makes me feel like such a badass. \*\* OOoh, i forgot about this. I like how, just being a gay man, in some parent’s eyes, i’m an automatic threat to the innocence of their sons who come to college :). Oh yeah, i meant to add to the having straight girls love you part: You automatically become an object of jealousy for single, straight guys ;)…girls want to hang out with you because they can bitch about their boyfriends to you, and they know you understand the BF, cause well, you’re a guy too (at least this is what some tell me). - unprotected sex doesnt lead to pregnancy (and no diseases if both are monogamous, and disease free). - You dont have to have children. - You get to be the cool gay uncle ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/24 "2001-05-16T02:22:21Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Esprix \* > \*\ ***goboy**! [stage whisper]Ix-nay on the ex-say around the aights-stray![/stage whisper] {jerking thumb towards the rest of the SDMB} > > Sheesh! Give away all our secrets why don’tcha? > Esprix \*\* Hmm. It really isn’t secret, **Esprix** , nor is it something I begrudge any gay person. Frankly, I’m a little surprised that any members of the community that has been hardest-hit by AIDS would hold up promiscuity as an advantage of their lifestyle. ( **Doobieous** excepted) Am I missing something here? ---
**Author:** ![MrVisible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@MrVisible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrVisible)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/25 "2001-05-16T04:26:14Z")
I was wondering how long this would take to turn into a political discussion. It went almost a day; that, if I’m not mistaken, is a record. My least favorite thing about being gay: You can’t talk about being gay without having to defend yourself. Lizard, if you want to start a thread about homosexual promiscuity and the issues involved, feel free. I think I know what conclusion will be reached, though. Some gay people are promiscuous, some aren’t. Just like straight people. Some gay people aren’t safe, some aren’t. Just like straight people. Some gay people die of AIDS, some straight people die of AIDS. I’ve been following, and occasionally participating in the various threads relating to homosexuality on the board for months now, and I really needed something to remind me of some of the redeeming qualities of my sexual orientation. I thought this thread would be a good way to do so. So, one of my favorite things about being gay: You never have to hunt too hard for a topic of discussion. ---
**Author:** ![MrVisible](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@MrVisible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrVisible)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/26 "2001-05-16T04:36:59Z")
Needless to say, that last post should have had a line that read: > [@](#): > > Some gay people are safe, some aren’t. …instead of a typographical error which reversed its meaning. Carry on… I’ll be over here, typing with my thumbs. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/27 "2001-05-16T04:56:31Z")
People don’t look at me askance when I camp it up. They roll their eyes, to be sure, but at least they don’t look askance. I get to wear as much jewelry as I like. All my assumptions about love, sex, and relationships were instantly destroyed when I came out. I can therefore do anything I like. I’m currently involved in one semi-long-term-open-partially-committed-pseudo-ex-relationship-thing (What do I call him, anyway? Boyfriend? Lover? Fuckbuddy? My best guess: “Eric.”) a couple of B/D relationships (two of which are long-distance), a few fairly repetitive tricks, and at least three good places to get laid. My friends are my family. Coming out changed my life. It made me re-evaluate everything I’d known up to that point. My best friend, whom I met just before I came out, cured my virginity and taught me just about everything I know about politics, spirituality, and philosophy. Really, being gay has given me so many opportunities to which I would not have access as a heterosexual, that to say that being gay is one of the primary components of my life is justified. ---
**Author:** ![reprise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@reprise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/reprise)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/28 "2001-05-16T04:58:29Z")
Shit Vis…I TRIED to start a showtunes thread, but you flaming homosexuals were so busy have promiscious, unprotected sex and decorating your houses that you just couldn’t be bothered posting to it. :rolleyes: [sub] hey Lizard, the only reason the gay people don’t like us bisexuals is cos we’re the alternative to the alternative - THINK about it [/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Doobieous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/da6949/32.png) [@Doobieous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doobieous)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 7:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/29 "2001-05-16T07:28:43Z")
On Vis’ advice… One of the best things about being gay is: - If you can come out to your friends, family and people around you, you can pretty much deal with any fear. ---
**Author:** ![Redboss](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8baadc/32.png) [@Redboss](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Redboss)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/30 "2001-05-16T08:18:41Z")
I don’t want to sound sleazy, but I think it is true that because of being gay I have had a greater variety, intensity and frequency of satisfying sexual encounters than most straight men my age. And that **does** count for something. In an argument here on circumcision once a poster said something to the effect that “what does it matter, anyway, since it’s only relevant for five minutes out of your life” and I smiled and felt sorry for the women in **his** life. When boy and I make love it’s usually for two or three hours at least. Not worth bothering otherwise. hehehe. The strong friendships that last a lifetime are another wonderful thing about being a gay man. Sadly, I think many straight men my age have missed out on that. Redboss ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 11:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/31 "2001-05-16T11:14:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Aghris \* > \*\*- The shock and horror in their eyes when I explain (to;) )their girlfriends how to please a man. > > - The gratification in their eyes two days later. > \*\* Dude, will you come to Korea and have a heart-to-heart with **Astrogirl**? I’ll pay! Don’t get me wrong, our sex life is **GREAT** (better than with any of the other handful of women I have been with), but the hedonist in me can only whimper when I think of what little tricks she could learn from a MAN who knows how to please a man! Trust me, there would be no shock or horror in my eyes! Only a look of “Tell her more, and hurry it up! She needs to practice!”😃 As far as having to defend your gayness goes: most of the people in the world who _think_ can deal with it… the others _don’t think_ so who cares what their opinion is? ---
**Author:** ![Aghris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecccb3/32.png) [@Aghris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aghris)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 11:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/32 "2001-05-16T11:25:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Astroboy14 \* > > Dude, will you come to Korea and have a heart-to-heart with **Astrogirl**? I’ll pay!\*\* No problems!! I will gladly set aside some of my valuable time to come flying to Korea on your expenses! It will be difficult, yes, I will have to disappoint some friends and colleagues, OK. But that’s all for a good cause, huh? Still, provided you pay ofcourse 😃 I have to warn you though. Some of my advise may include having a threesome with someone who just flew over 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 11:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/33 "2001-05-16T11:55:02Z")
> [@](#): > > Some of my advise may include having a threesome with someone who just flew over :eek: I’m open-minded and all… but, uh, no thanks! **Excuse me, Astroboy… this is your rational and hedonistic mind speaking… remember the “MAN knowing how to please a man” bit? Huh? Whaddaya say?** 😉 Um… excuse me for a moment, I seem to have some issues to deal with! Hmmm… nah! **Astrogirl** would never go for it! [sup]Whew! Got myself off the hook there![/sup] 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Aghris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecccb3/32.png) [@Aghris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aghris)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/34 "2001-05-16T12:01:21Z")
No No, you have it all wrong. I have to _show_ **Astrofiancee** the tricks of the trade, don’t I? How can you expect her to learn if she doesn’t get some hands on training with some real life examples? Jeez, you straight guys are so close minded! You don’t see when it is for your own good 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/35 "2001-05-16T12:04:08Z")
So, Aghris, are you saying that you would turn down a blowjob offer from Astrofiancee? I mean, being gay is one thing, but this is a free, no-strings-attached blowjob we’re talking about! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/36 "2001-05-16T12:15:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Coldfire \* > \*\*So, Aghris, are you saying that you would turn down a blowjob offer from Astrofiancee? I mean, being gay is one thing, but this is a free, no-strings-attached blowjob we’re talking about! 😉 \*\* Hey! Hey! She’s mine! MINE! **ALL MINE**!!:mad: You keep your grubby, **Coldy** little hands off!! And **Aghris** , thanks and all, but couldn’t we use a cucum… wait, no!, a baseball bat (to reflect my obvious well-endowedness 😃 ) for demonstrative purposes? ---
**Author:** ![Astroboy14](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/df705f/32.png) [@Astroboy14](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Astroboy14)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/37 "2001-05-16T12:20:26Z")
BTW: she’s **AstroGIRL** now… due to popular demand.😉 (on a more serious note) I realize that human sexuality is a WIDE spectrum, but I am WAY far over on the hetero side (not that there’s anything _wrong_ with that!😃 ), and I’m thinking about this: could I get or maintain an erection with a guy giving me a 'job? I don’t think I could… that’s really weird to think about! Sexual preference is a strange thing!😉 ---
**Author:** ![Aghris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecccb3/32.png) [@Aghris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aghris)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/38 "2001-05-16T12:33:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Coldfire \* > \*\*So, Aghris, are you saying that you would turn down a blowjob offer from Astrofiancee? I mean, being gay is one thing, but this is a free, no-strings-attached blowjob we’re talking about! 😉 \*\* Well, I must say, seeing the pic from the people’s pages, I would be sorely tempted to try 😉 However, as the boy from space himself points out, it would be difficult for me to maintain an erection if it was only her in the room (and I speak from experience here). I definately need **Astroboy** to keep it going. Indeed, sexual preference is a strange thing. Mentally there wouldn’t be a difference at all (apart form quality that is ;)) between the service from a man or a woman, but emotionally it just wouldn’t work for some reason. But that’s enough of a hijack for now! Back to the regular programming of what we like most of being gay, and obviously all this wimmin talk does not belong here (that is, for us gay men at least…) ---
**Author:** ![dodge\_this](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e5b9ba/32.png) [@dodge\_this](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dodge_this)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/39 "2001-05-16T12:41:29Z")
- I love my gaydar. That unexplainable built-in device that sets me apart from my clueless straight friends. - I get to hang out with some pretty hot women. - When men ask “What does she have that I don’t?”. And the hot women go “Oh, you’ll never know.” - Meeting the woman of my dreams and spending the last four years trying to convince her I’m the one for her. Oh the thrill of the chase… - Having a coming-out story to share. Oh the drama of it all… - Being the one others trust to listen to their coming-out dilemmas. Being able to help and pull them through it. - Somehow my friends have associated my being gay to my confidence, strength and (ahem) impeccable taste. I don’t know how they’ve made those links exactly but I like it that they’re seeing the positive. ---
**Author:** ![Aghris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecccb3/32.png) [@Aghris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aghris)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2001, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475/40 "2001-05-16T12:44:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Astroboy14 \* > \*\*And **Aghris** , thanks and all, but couldn’t we use a cucum… wait, no!, a baseball bat (to reflect my obvious well-endowedness 😃 ) for demonstrative purposes? \*\* And no! You couldn’t use a baseball bat. I feel sorry for you already that you’d think that male servicing is all about that small anatomical part of the male body. You _do_ realise that there are other areas that need equal attention? Nope sorry, only the live specimen will work. However, if you can’t spring for a trip to Korea, you can always get **Astrogirl** to email me. Quality will suffer, but seeing what you are used to from your post above, every bit of help will be an improvement 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-like-most-about-being-gay/65475.md?page=3)