# What do you need to change about your character? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 24, 2014, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392 "2014-10-24T20:13:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2014, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/21 "2014-10-26T06:05:10Z")
I need to internalize what I just read on the Dope - no one cares anywhere near as much about you as you think they do. I obsess over how I seem to others – I need to just be myself and do the best I can and not worry about it. I know that I don’t ever mean to hurt or offend anyone and need to stop worrying that others are judging me. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2014, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/22 "2014-10-26T06:06:43Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > I’m not the social butterfly I used to be. I seem to become more and more reclusive the older I get. > > I also tend to get cranky when I’m taken out of my routine. Like when out of town family members want to stay at my place for a few days to visit. > I probably should try to change these things about me but I probably wont because I feel no real motivation to do so. And ditto to all of this! ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2014, 9:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/23 "2014-10-26T09:45:58Z")
I can’t decide if I would change my character to bold-face or italic, but I’m sure I’d like to increase my font size by a few points. ---
**Author:** ![Dereknocue67](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/6de8d8/32.png) [@Dereknocue67](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dereknocue67)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2014, 10:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/24 "2014-10-26T10:29:59Z")
I wish I can change my absolute perfection in all tasks I flawlessly complete in record time. Also, my charm and stunning good looks is unmatched by mankind and voluptuous women pursue my affections constantly. Of course I bed them down but afterward feel remorse knowing this has spoiled them for any future sexual encounter with other less worthy men and they will feel unfulfilled. I would also change my unmatched ability to solve complex problems and issues before anyone even suspects something may be amiss. The final part of my character I might tweak could be related to my habitual lying but that’s just a minor flaw in my otherwise perfect existance. ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2014, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/25 "2014-10-26T12:37:13Z")
I am ridiculously lazy, and I get inordinately angry at the idea of cleaning up after other people (i.e. housework). I do it but boy am I mad about it. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2014, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/26 "2014-10-26T12:44:56Z")
I used to feel I should be working harder. Now I have a six-year old, and projects at work I really care about. Working hard is no longer a problem. (Yay?) Now I really, really need to stop stressing out. I’m turning into a stressed out witch. I need to go to bed before eleven o clock. (I can do this, with a little effort) I need to start really stress-burning excercising, other then the frantic biking I do in 8 minute bursts four times a day. I need to stop eating sugar so I won’t be so damn tired all the time. And I need to apply everything I know about mindfullness and - breathe, damnit ! ---
**Author:** ![Octarine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/22d042/32.png) [@Octarine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Octarine)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2014, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/27 "2014-10-26T15:29:41Z")
I’ve got a weird combination of having ridiculously high standards for myself and being incredibly lazy. I either need to adjust my expectations of what I want to do with my life, or get some self-discipline and stop procrastinating. ---
**Author:** ![mage-girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@mage-girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mage-girl)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2014, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/28 "2014-10-27T01:26:53Z")
> [@Octarine](#): > > I’ve got a weird combination of having ridiculously high standards for myself and being incredibly lazy. I either need to adjust my expectations of what I want to do with my life, or get some self-discipline and stop procrastinating. This. YESSS. Me too. :smack: I have some “excuse” for my poor habits: I have ADD, which makes time and project management a real trial. It’s very hard for me to stay on a task long enough to finish it, without jumping to something else. Like you, I’m also a perfectionist, so sometimes if I can see that I’m not going to be able to do something flawlessly, I’ll just not do it at all. Seems like a couple of inconvenient character traits to occur together, doesn’t it? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Essured](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Essured](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Essured)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2014, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392/29 "2014-10-27T01:57:29Z")
Lots of things I want / need to change, but I’ll just pick two 1. My attitude about mental illness / people with mental illness. I’ve recently become aware that I hold a lot of prejudice and intolerance in that area. It’s hard because on one hand I don’t want to be intolerant, especially when people liken it to other diseases, like cancer. But on the other hand, I find that hard to accept… I’m working on it. 2. Remembering people’s names. It takes me an embarassingly long time to remember people’s names, and given that I’ve been living in this neighbourhood for 3 years now, it’s getting ridiculous. I feel like the rudest, self-centred, uncaring person in the greater region when that awkward moment when it’s clear I can’t recal the person’s name happens ☹ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-need-to-change-about-your-character/702392.md?page=1)