# What do you think: Full/white/formal church wedding for couple living together 15 years?

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [February 27, 2020, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-full-white-formal-church-wedding-for-couple-living-together-15-years/848617 "2020-02-27T20:43:24Z")\
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**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\
**Post date:** [February 29, 2020, 7:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-full-white-formal-church-wedding-for-couple-living-together-15-years/848617/61 "2020-02-29T19:49:22Z")

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Like basically everyone, I think the happy couple should do whatever they want wedding wise, but pay for it themselves.

My own wedding situation was weird. I was 23 (and only child), the groom was 25, and my parents, especially my mother, were determined to give us a huge, perfect, traditional wedding - which neither I nor the groom wanted. But because we were dutiful children, we let them commandeer the whole thing. I had a fancy white dress, lots of bridesmaids, etc. etc. We hated it but did it out of respect.

Then until the day she died, my mother held a grudge because I didn’t say “thank you” for all the money and effort my parents spent on the wedding. Yeesh. Traditions are okay, but blind adherence to them can produce some mighty dumb results.

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**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\
**Post date:** [March 2, 2020, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-full-white-formal-church-wedding-for-couple-living-together-15-years/848617/62 "2020-03-02T21:21:43Z")

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> [@Procrustus](#):
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> …I’m fine with them having the big formal wedding. It’s not for me, but some people seem to enjoy it. When the couple is older than about 29, I wouldn’t expect the bride’s parents to have any financial responsibility for the event.

Zactly.

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