# What do you think of interracial couples? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 28, 2012, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331 "2012-11-28T01:55:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Sahirrnee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sahirrnee/32/13937_2.png) [@Sahirrnee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sahirrnee)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/81 "2012-11-29T00:56:21Z")
I’m half of one. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/82 "2012-11-29T01:21:33Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > I vote ‘‘Yay!’’ It matters to me because racism sucks. It sure does! Big time! ---
**Author:** ![papergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/aca169/32.png) [@papergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/papergirl)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/83 "2012-11-29T01:24:55Z")
I’ve been in mixed relationships. Even in our fairly liberal town, sometimes it was obvious that people noticed. My reaction…I tend to think that mixed couples are prettier to look at. And if they are very different in looks (from one another) I tend to think how pretty their babies will be. My children are a combination of my extreme white girlness combined with their dad’s Korean American characteristics. I gotta say, they are gorgeous kids–far more attractive than either of us. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/84 "2012-11-29T02:15:15Z")
When mixed kids look pretty, they look amazing. I went to school with a girl who was half Korean and half Caucasian. It was bizarre; her parents were average looking, but she looked stunning. One thing that I sometimes don’t get when it comes to interracial couples is when there is a language barrier between the two. Girl speaks imperfect English, guy speaks about two words of Korean. (Usually the girl’s English is far better than the guy’s Korean, for what it’s worth). I would go nuts if I couldn’t communicate fluently with my boyfriend, or vice versa. ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/85 "2012-11-29T02:27:33Z")
I voted “Just another couple”, but on reflection, I do also think, “Yay!” Around here, it’s become more and more common over the past thirty years or so, but I don’t think it’s been a big deal for most people here since the end of the 70’s. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/86 "2012-11-29T02:38:05Z")
> [@HazelNutCoffee](#): > > When mixed kids look pretty, they look amazing. I went to school with a girl who was half Korean and half Caucasian. It was bizarre; her parents were average looking, but she looked stunning. > > One thing that I sometimes don’t get when it comes to interracial couples is when there is a language barrier between the two. Girl speaks imperfect English, guy speaks about two words of Korean. (Usually the girl’s English is far better than the guy’s Korean, for what it’s worth). I would go nuts if I couldn’t communicate fluently with my boyfriend, or vice versa. Yeah, but all you need to know is “bow chicka bow bow.” ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/87 "2012-11-29T02:44:42Z")
Two of my (white, female) cousins are married to black men, and another of my cousins (white male) is in a serious long-term relationship with a black woman. In all three cases, it wasn’t an issue, with most of the family. ---
**Author:** ![Heart\_of\_Dorkness](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/4bbf92/32.png) [@Heart\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heart_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/88 "2012-11-29T03:56:55Z")
> [@ReticulatingSplines](#): > > Yeah, in DC too. People apparently don’t want to risk confrontation because I got yelled at from cars a lot. It was usually shit like “Lose the Asian guy!” One time near Foggy Bottom a woman (yes, a woman) leaned out her window and said “Asian guys suck!” > > I throw rocks now. This astounds me. I’m a blonde white chick with an Asian husband, and we started dating when I lived in DC, and I can’t recall anyone ever giving us shit or even looking askance. I took it for granted that DC was just a typical big city where it wouldn’t be an issue, but I feel really fortunate now. The one thing that did happen a lot was that people didn’t grasp that we were together. For instance, we’d walk into a restaurant together, and a hostess would greet me and ask how many in my party. I’d say, “Two,” and then she’d turn to him and say, “And you sir, how many in your party?” It seemed like we were constantly saying, “No, I’m with him/her.” But now, we live in a Maryland suburb, and it seems like every other couple is white/asian here, and there are a good number of black/white and other pairings as well. Anyway, I voted “Yay!” but it’s so common around here that often, I don’t really notice. ---
**Author:** ![IceQube](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@IceQube](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IceQube)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/89 "2012-11-29T04:26:30Z")
> [@Heart\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > For instance, we’d walk into a restaurant together, and a hostess would greet me and ask how many in my party. I’d say, “Two,” and then she’d turn to him and say, “And you sir, how many in your party?” Ouch! :eek:. Oh well, I’m sure they didn’t mean it maliciously. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/90 "2012-11-29T04:41:36Z")
I have a close friend (a Russian Jew with some Mongolian ancestry, as it happens, so someone who seems to be ethnically ambiguous to a majority of people) who has serious relationships exclusively with Asian men. White (ish) woman with Asian man, especially Asian men who were relatively recent immigrants ith thick accents, as her first serious BF and her ex-husband are, is a pretty rare pairing, and she’s taken rather a lot of crap for it. It’s easier though with her current BF, who is American-born. ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/91 "2012-11-29T04:50:32Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Depending on how you look at it, I either am or am not half of an interracial. That is, my wife’s has one black parent and one Jewish parent, but though you’d never guess she had any African ancestry to look at her, she self-identifies as African American. A bit of a hijack… I have a friend (who I hope doesn’t read the Dope) whose grandfather on her mother’s side, who she never met, was black. Her grandmother on her mother’s side was white and her father’s family is Israeli. Like your wife, she identifies as black, even though, especially in her case, it’s quite a bit of a stretch. She used to become visibly upset whenever someone questioned her ethnicity, which happened quite frequently because she always brought it up. After a number of years of seeing this and listening to her complain about it ad-freaking-nauseum, our friendship became strained. She’s better now. ---
**Author:** ![Onomatopoeia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/onomatopoeia/32/4145_2.png) [@Onomatopoeia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Onomatopoeia)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/92 "2012-11-29T04:53:51Z")
I’m the product of an interracial marriage, so I’m okay with interracial couples. ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanub/32/132_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUB)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/93 "2012-11-29T04:56:42Z")
After following this thread, I see it’s really about how one \*feels \*about interracial couples, rather than what they think. Not trying to get into semantics, but I guess my answer would then be “meh” with a smattering of “yay”. I do \*hope \*for the day when it’s not even noteworthy and in a different environment, it quite possibly would be for me. ---
**Author:** ![ReticulatingSplines](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e274bd/32.png) [@ReticulatingSplines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ReticulatingSplines)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/94 "2012-11-29T05:31:39Z")
> [@Heart\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > The one thing that did happen a lot was that people didn’t grasp that we were together. For instance, we’d walk into a restaurant together, and a hostess would greet me and ask how many in my party. I’d say, “Two,” and then she’d turn to him and say, “And you sir, how many in your party?” It seemed like we were constantly saying, “No, I’m with him/her.” Ah, yes! This too. All the time. A couple of months ago when we were still together I took her to the ER because she was having abdominal pain. Just before the exam the doctor said “Your friend is going to have to step outside.” I came thisclose to telling her it wasn’t anything I hadn’t seen before. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 6:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/95 "2012-11-29T06:10:26Z")
> [@ReticulatingSplines](#): > > Ah, yes! This too. All the time. A couple of months ago when we were still together I took her to the ER because she was having abdominal pain. Just before the exam the doctor said “Your friend is going to have to step outside.” I came thisclose to telling her it wasn’t anything I hadn’t seen before. Hah! That reminds me - recently we were out apartment hunting and all the realtors we met assumed that HE was apartment hunting and I was his . . . I don’t know. Personal translator, I suppose. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/96 "2012-11-29T06:43:20Z")
> [@ReticulatingSplines](#): > > I’m an Asian guy and my last girlfriend was a blonde and people stared fucking holes into our skulls. That’s odd. I’m white and I dated an Asian guy once and I couldn’t believe the non-reactions we got. Every other guy I’ve dated has been black and my kid is biracial and I didn’t know what a non-reaction was like. We met at a restaurant once and he got there first and the hostess saw me and assumed we were together and pointed to where he was. On the other hand I’ve had strangers walk up to me and a black dude and flat out ask if we were together. > [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > Silly as it may be, the first thought in my head is, “There’s a good chance this lady/guy isn’t racist. Nice!” I mean, I realize they still might be racist, but there you go. . . I just generally assume they aren’t an asshole, fair or not. Yeah, well you’d be way off on my ex/current. He HATES white people. My daughter is beautiful. Not just speaking as a mother, for her whole life no one can stop telling me that. The “Biracial kids are beautiful” thing kind of grates even though it’s kind of true. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Feldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lord_feldon/32/341_2.png) [@Lord\_Feldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Feldon)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/97 "2012-11-29T06:52:43Z")
Interracial couples are probably more common around here than single-race minority couples. (There were, IIRC, five non-totally-white students in my high school class of 100. Four of them had a white parent.) ---
**Author:** ![AnaMen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/dfb087/32.png) [@AnaMen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnaMen)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/98 "2012-11-29T07:12:13Z")
As the product of one, I used to kind of oppose it. It seemed unfair to have kids and present them to a hostile world. Now though, the practice of marrying within your race seems a bit off to me. ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/99 "2012-11-29T07:12:59Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I’d be interested in hearing from the two people who think it’s “unacceptable” Seriously. My jaw dropped when I saw this. I had hoped that these sorts didn’t exist in real life, let alone here. ---
**Author:** ![Namkcalb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c89c15/32.png) [@Namkcalb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Namkcalb)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2012, 7:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331/100 "2012-11-29T07:27:37Z")
> [@echo7tango](#): > > I’m Asian and my wife is white. Here in the San Francisco area it’s no big deal. Out in the boonies in the USA, these days it’s mostly not a big deal. When I was in college I dated a lot of blondes. It was a phase (wife is brunette). Well, most of the cute straight guys in San Francisco are East Asian. > [@HazelNutCoffee](#): > > When mixed kids look pretty, they look amazing. I went to school with a girl who was half Korean and half Caucasian. It was bizarre; her parents were average looking, but she looked stunning. Well, intermixing cancels out the extremes. A Korean with really small eyes would be ugly by Korean standards A European with a really big nose would be ugly by European standards. Mix them together, and their average-sized eyes, and average sized noses would be very cute. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-of-interracial-couples/642331.md?page=6)