# What do you think? Was she wrong?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-was-she-wrong/528492>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [February 10, 2010, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-was-she-wrong/528492 "2010-02-10T23:26:53Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\
**Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-was-she-wrong/528492/21 "2010-02-11T16:28:08Z")

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> [@IaMoDiNaRy](#):
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> I’ll definitely be very careful in any future dealings with her if there are any, that is. If she recommends me for something that I can do alone, I’ll accept.
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> If she wants to do something together, I won’t hesitate to remind her of what happened previously. I’ll be sure we’re paid separately and won’t be caught blind sided again. I learned a valuable lesson.

Good, but not good enough. You were supposed to be paid separately on _this_ job (you had negotiated separately, even if the bill was paid in one lump sum), and she managed to give you a good screwing. I wouldn’t work with her in any capacity ever again. **Joe Frickin Friday** has it just right - she doesn’t listen, she doesn’t learn, and she doesn’t take responsibility for her own mistakes.

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> AND I left her in no doubt about how I felt about her actions. I’ll be surprised if she calls again, anyway. We all live and learn, sometimes the hard way unfortunately …

Yeah, it was too bad you had to find out what your friend was really like, by her behaving so inappropriately towards you.

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**Author:** ![IaMoDiNaRy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/cc9497/32.png) [@IaMoDiNaRy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IaMoDiNaRy)\
**Post date:** [March 1, 2010, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-was-she-wrong/528492/22 "2010-03-01T03:28:07Z")

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Just a belated thanks to everyone for their great advice. I’ve been out of town for a couple of weeks and just got the chance to log on here.

I’ve definitely decided to go with the wise advice to not ever work with this lady again. It’s a sad thing when you learn the hard way not to trust someone that you valued as a friend.

Thanks again.

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**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\
**Post date:** [March 2, 2010, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-you-think-was-she-wrong/528492/23 "2010-03-02T06:56:13Z")

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You know, I wouldn’t build this into a huge trust issue.

Sometimes people just don’t get it. Everyone has at least one instance in their life where they’ve acted unfairly and didn’t see why their actions are unfair. I don’t think she went into this scheming. She just got a little selfish and didn’t have the grace to control that. Yes, she was wrong. But I don’t think she was a scheming bitch- just really self-centered and inconsiderate.

Anyway, if you have to keep working with her, I would write this one incident off. Its just going to keep bugging you if you continually think bad of someone you have to be around, and it won’t really help anything. Of course, don’t go into business with her again. But don’t let this poison her to you. She might be a decent person all around except in this one respect. Everyone has their bad moments.

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