# What do your family/friends consider to be your best/worst qualities? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 11, 2022, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394 "2022-09-11T17:40:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2022, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/1 "2022-09-11T17:40:24Z")
šŸ”“ List two or three qualities/personality traits/attributes of yours that you think your family, friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, other people, etc., admire, like, or value about you. šŸ”“ Likewise do the same with two or three obnoxious, irritating, maddening traits. * * * - Not limited to two or three traits in each category. Doesnā€™t have to be a one-word answer-- a phrase is fine. - These might be things you _imagine_ people think about you or things you _know_ because someone whispered to you in a moment of tenderness or shouted in rage at you as they hurled an object intended to do you harm. Or somewhere in between. - You may also add a disclaimer like, ā€œPeople think _this_ about me, but Iā€™m really _that_,ā€ or any other explanatory details as you see fit. - If you think of something else later, by all means, post again. * * * * * * These are mine: Good qualities: - Utterly reliable - Kind Obnoxious qualities: - Pedantic (_The Dope rises as a body and screams in unison: ā€œNo, no! It canā€™t be! Say it isnā€™t so!!ā€_ šŸ˜±) - I seem to be always sitting on a pot of simmering anger, and I lash out unpredictably. ---
**Author:** ![Tabco](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tabco/32/7644_2.png) [@Tabco](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tabco)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2022, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/2 "2022-09-11T17:52:44Z")
Positive traits that my family has attributed to me include: - Being a generally responsible person who stays out of trouble. - Leading a generally productive lifestyle despite a rough childhood with drug-abusing and alcoholic parents. My family isnā€™t really in the business of critiquing others, although Iā€™m sure if I had really serious issues theyā€™d tell me what they think about it. If I were to guess, theyā€™d probably have these negative things to say: - I donā€™t visit them very often and I donā€™t update them very often on whatā€™s new in my life. Since Iā€™m not on Facebook like the rest of them, they pretty much have no way to get updates unless they call or email me. - Much has been made about me not ever being in a relationship or getting married. Some have suggested I see a therapist and others have wondered if I have some principled objection to long-term monogamous relationships. ---
**Author:** ![dolphinboy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dolphinboy/32/330_2.png) [@dolphinboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dolphinboy)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2022, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/3 "2022-09-11T18:30:57Z")
Positive traits: \* Honest, hardworking, and conscientious \* Reliable and dependable in a time of need \* Forgiving of otherā€™s faults and shortcomings Negative traits: \* Quirky/Odd sense of humor \* Occasionally distant and detached \* Jealous of othersā€™ successes ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2022, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/4 "2022-09-11T18:55:07Z")
Positive-open minded and accepting of others who are different. This is also a negative, some folk donā€™t deserve acceptance as theyre are mean. Holds doors for people always. Loves to read. A good quality in anyone. Negative-i have a compulsion to correct. No, it was thursday, not friday. Etc. ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2022, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/5 "2022-09-11T19:18:01Z")
> [@SuntanLotion](#): > > ā€¦Negative-i have a compulsion to correct. No, it was thursday, not friday. Etc. ā€œIā€ and the days of the week should be capitalized, a comma should follow ā€œfridayā€, and ā€œetc.ā€ should also not be capitalized. mmm ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Mouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mighty_mouse/32/7776_2.png) [@Mighty\_Mouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Mouse)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2022, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/6 "2022-09-11T19:30:42Z")
Extremely diligent and dutiful Very rule oriented Unfortunately these are both what people consider my best and worst qualities. ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2022, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/7 "2022-09-11T19:33:31Z")
Good singer, funny, a good heart, compassionate. Sometimes I get compassion fatigue and need time to rest and refresh and stay away from people for awhile. Sometimes things pile up and annoy me, and I find it hard to conceal my annoyance. ---
**Author:** ![Jaycat.again](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jaycat.again/32/11525_2.png) [@Jaycat.again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaycat.again)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/8 "2022-09-12T00:07:22Z")
Best: good-looking, smart, compassionate, talented, helpful, well-groomed. Worst: overly modest. ---
**Author:** ![Kedikat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed655f/32.png) [@Kedikat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kedikat)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/9 "2022-09-12T00:08:22Z")
Maybe they think my best quality is that I donā€™t associate with them. Hard to tell though. ---
**Author:** ![Si\_Amigo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/si_amigo/32/2877_2.png) [@Si\_Amigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Si_Amigo)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/10 "2022-09-12T00:48:08Z")
Positive: I have a great memory for details and a good sense of humor. I am an advanced planner. Negative: When drunk I remember everything anyone ever said to me and can throw them back at them as to sting (unplanned). ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/11 "2022-09-12T00:56:53Z")
Proud of your humility, eh? ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/12 "2022-09-12T16:19:31Z")
Best: My family/friends would say that I am some kind of computer genius. In reality, I know some of the basics and will restart someones computer or device and often fix the problem that way. Other times Iā€™ll post a question here and @BigT will explain it, then I fix the problem. So, yeah, Iā€™m a computer genius. Worst: ā€œHeā€™s so quiet.ā€ ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/13 "2022-09-12T16:23:35Z")
My best: Musical, good at piano, knows lots of interesting facts, generally nice and friendly My worst: Flaky, undisciplined, sloppy, late, underachiever, procrastinator, very bad judgment ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/14 "2022-09-12T16:36:37Z")
Best: - Funny and witty - Smart - Kind - Insightful - A good storyteller Worst: - Impatient - A compulsion to show off my knowledge, leading to jumping in to answer questions that were asked of other people - Lose my temper over stupid little things - Procrastinator ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/15 "2022-09-12T16:55:10Z")
Damn! I have lots in common with youse guysā€¦ I hang out here so much Iā€™m probably picking up everybodyā€™s good and bad traits. Yeah, thatā€™s it. šŸ¤“ ---
**Author:** ![Roderick\_Femm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/roderick_femm/32/14875_2.png) [@Roderick\_Femm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Roderick_Femm)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/16 "2022-09-12T18:08:08Z")
Steady Intelligent Practical but ethical Dry humor Defensive Socially inept Incomplete control of anger (see ā€œDefensiveā€) Not expressive emotionally (except above) And now you know me as my friends know me. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2022, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-do-your-family-friends-consider-to-be-your-best-worst-qualities/971394/17 "2022-09-14T19:39:18Z")
Best - - If I say Iā€™m going to do something. I will. And I will be on time. Iā€™m crazy punctual. So is my Wife. - Iā€™m a pretty darn good cook, that can improvise pretty well. - Really a jack of all trades. I can almost certainly fix it, or improvise something for now. Worst - - Iā€™m not a very good listener. In one ear and out the other. I do have real shitty hearing though. Thatā€™s not a good excuse though. It has made me a lot less social. But thatā€™s fine with me. - My favorite fashion accessory isā€¦ denial. - Iā€™m very unhappy with people being late. Even when it does not really affect me. That ties into always being on time above, Iā€™m sure.