# What Does a Person Have to do to get Laid (More)? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 12, 2006, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055 "2006-02-12T00:37:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/21 "2006-02-12T06:18:54Z")
Erm…is it really bad to be 19 and a virgin? Especially for a devout Catholic? I don’t think he needs to “get laid” maybe just learn how to socialize better. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 6:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/22 "2006-02-12T06:22:03Z")
> [@Stranger On A Train](#): > > That’s only in the early beta release. > > _snippitty_ > > Of course you should always use sudo to manage operator permissions and disable root access whenever possible to prevent unsuspecting attacks by malicious users. > > Stranger Brilliant **Stranger**. That was the funniest fucking thing I have read in…well…almost forever. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 6:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/23 "2006-02-12T06:30:03Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > Brilliant **Stranger**. That was the funniest fucking thing I have read in…well…almost forever. > > 😃 See…that’s why you’re home on a Saturday night. Oh, it’s Sunday morning for you. Never mind. Anyway, glad to be of service. The bill will come in the mail in due course. Stranger ---
**Author:** ![Soapbox\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Soapbox\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soapbox_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 7:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/24 "2006-02-12T07:24:08Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > Erm…is it really bad to be 19 and a virgin? Especially for a devout Catholic? > > I don’t think he needs to “get laid” maybe just learn how to socialize better. Yeah, I gotta say (as a 21 year old virgin) that I’m kind of offended by your attitude after learning his age. Originally I assumed he was around 30. It’s taken forever for people to convince me that there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin at my age. Clearly people with your mind set are the problem, and a great part of the reason why we “older” virgins feel like there’s something wrong with us. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 7:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/25 "2006-02-12T07:30:44Z")
> [@Stranger On A Train](#): > > See…that’s why you’re home on a Saturday night. > > Oh, it’s Sunday morning for you. Never mind. Anyway, glad to be of service. The bill will come in the mail in due course. > > Stranger It’s Sunday afternoon actually. And I’m home now because I’ve been slaving away at work all day. Your post got me larfing again after a shitsome shift. I’m more than happy to pay for such treasures as yours. I’ll be waiting for the postie. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/26 "2006-02-12T17:08:31Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > Brilliant **Stranger**. That was the funniest fucking thing I have read in…well…almost forever. > > 😃 And these are the people you want advise from on getting laid? > [@Soapbox Monkey](#): > > Yeah, I gotta say (as a 21 year old virgin) that I’m kind of offended by your attitude after learning his age. Originally I assumed he was around 30. It’s taken forever for people to convince me that there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin at my age. Clearly people with your mind set are the problem, and a great part of the reason why we “older” virgins feel like there’s something wrong with us. I think there is something kind of wrong with it. Sexuality is a normal part of human development. Granted, some people develop faster or slower than others but if you are in your 20s and have never had sex, one is inclined to ask why. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/27 "2006-02-12T17:32:38Z")
> [@Stranger On A Train](#): > > That’s only in the early beta release. Talk2Wmn 0.9.4\_stable utility substitutes in the “Romance women with flowers and witticisms” algorithm; however, it is incompatible with early development stage system kernels… This is why I love the Dope. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Campion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@Campion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Campion)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/28 "2006-02-12T17:43:34Z")
I forgot to mention that you may also come off like a superior ass. That’s never an attractive attribute in a person. Fortunately, to the extent that it’s the normal way of life for most teenagers, nevertheless most people do grow out of it. Of course, once in a while one is subjected to the spectacle of a man in his thirties or forties who still is sublimely ignorant that he is, simply, an ass. ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/29 "2006-02-12T18:03:50Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > Granted, some people develop faster or slower than others but if you are in your 20s and have never had sex, one is inclined to ask why. And I think I can confidently channel for Judith Martin here in suggesting that the appropriate response to such an unsolicited question is a pointed silence. If the guy wants to get laid–and desires the assistance and support of his neighbors–then he’ll ask, or at least hint. If he demonstrates no interest or doesn’t seek help then it’s likely he doesn’t want, need, or desire assistance. Ninety percent of all mature wisdom is keeping one’s nose out of other people’s business. See **Campion** ’s above [post=7094612]sage advice[/post] regarding unrequested interventions into someone’s private affairs. Stranger ---
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/30 "2006-02-12T19:07:17Z")
> [@Least Original User Name Ever](#): > > . he’s also very religious, and my roommate and i think he’s stuck very deep in the . I’m confused. Are you saying you think he’s gay, but so deep in the closet he needs to have his first experience be with a female? Doesn’t sound like that’d work to me. ---
**Author:** ![anu-la1979](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/47e85d/32.png) [@anu-la1979](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anu-la1979)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/31 "2006-02-12T23:09:33Z")
> [@](#): > > It also helps to have a large cache of DDRM self esteem on-board, though a sufficent excess of system hardware resources can compensate for pipeline bursts. It also means that you have to have the the appropriate binaries in /bin/wtty or the /lib/pam\_conversation library installed. Oh **Stranger** …I have a feeling one of these days we are going to run into each other…not that I know what you look like but I’m sure there can’t be that many despondently hysterical men loping about Whole Foods (although I am more easily found at the TJ’s on Rosemead) or Old Town. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/32 "2006-02-12T23:20:45Z")
I’v posted this link before: [The Don Juan Forum,](http://www.sosuave.com). A forum full of guys sharing the kind of pick-up tricks \*\*Shirley Ujest’s \*\* book is about. Warning: for entertainment value only. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2006, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/33 "2006-02-12T23:25:00Z")
Umm… what exactly is _wrong_ with being a virgin, especially at such a young age? Hire a hooker for his birthday or something if you’re serious about it (and if it’s legal where you are). ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2006, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/34 "2006-02-13T00:56:57Z")
> [@Least Original User Name Ever](#): > > this applies to males. women have it really easy in this category. Maybe…but we have it JUST as difficult, if not moreso, as you find getting laid, when it comes to finding love. So men have it no worse in the old “war of the sexes” or whatever you want to call it. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2006, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/35 "2006-02-13T01:27:55Z")
> [@Stranger On A Train](#): > > And I think I can confidently channel for Judith Martin here in suggesting that the appropriate response to such an unsolicited question is a pointed silence I don’t mean that Least’s friends should litterally go up to their neighbor and ask him. I mean that if you find yourself to be a 25 year old virgin, you might want to think about why that is. ---
**Author:** ![slortar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6bbea6/32.png) [@slortar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slortar)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2006, 3:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/36 "2006-02-13T15:58:34Z")
> [@Amazon Floozy Goddess](#): > > Yeah, I wish. > > I’ve always had trouble in that department. The only way I’d definitely get some is to slut myself out on the street corner. But I really don’t want any from the alcoholic vagrant down the block who would most likely try to pay me with bottlecaps and leave behind a raging case of crabs/the clap/a rash. > > Currently I’ve gone about 8 months without and I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. There’s lots of women who are nowhere near as lucky as you might think. Aw, shucks. _puts away collection of bottlecaps_ ---
**Author:** ![XaMcQ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/f9ae1b/32.png) [@XaMcQ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/XaMcQ)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2006, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/37 "2006-02-13T17:39:16Z")
[QUOTE=msmith537I think there is something kind of wrong with it. Sexuality is a normal part of human development. Granted, some people develop faster or slower than others but if you are in your 20s and have never had sex, one is inclined to ask why.[/QUOTE] People are inclined to ask many dumb questions that are in no way their business, too. It’s pretty superior of you to make the assumption that someone who hasn’t had sex in their late teens or early twenties is somehow abnormal. People are DIFFERENT, damn it. Not everybody has the same needs. You make it sound like sex is the same as food, and everyone must eat something or die. Hardly. And I don’t know about your planet, but here on Earth sex is very seldom something you can find without some kind of sticky emotional strings attached. You think this nineteen or twenty-one year old will be better off if he gets sex from a woman who takes it as a marriage contract and drives him out of his gourd wanting to be with him every moment. Wanting to move in? Or maybe you think he would be better off picking up a hooker or a half-drunk stranger in a bar and experiencing his first time as something cheap, tawdry and meaningless? If the OP wants to be friendly to his neighbor, he should invite him to dinner or to a ball game or something. Or possibly he should accept an invitation to attend church with his neighbor. Something supportive. Something that gives his neighbor the unmistakable message that he is liked. Though I am not a Christian, I do think Jesus had a good point when he said: And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? In other words, worry about fixing your own imperfections. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2006, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/38 "2006-02-15T18:26:01Z")
> [@XaMcQ](#): > > It’s pretty superior of you to make the assumption that someone who hasn’t had sex in their late teens or early twenties is somehow abnormal. People are DIFFERENT, damn it. Not everybody has the same needs. You make it sound like sex is the same as food, and everyone must eat something or die. Hardly. And I don’t know about your planet, but here on Earth sex is very seldom something you can find without some kind of sticky emotional strings attached. Sex isn’t just something people do for recreation. Propagation of the species is something that has been ingrained in every lifeform since the Earth was created…5,000 years ago…by God. Lack of sex drive often is an indication of depression or some other problem. > [@XaMcQ](#): > > You think this nineteen or twenty-one year old will be better off if he gets sex from a woman who takes it as a marriage contract and drives him out of his gourd wanting to be with him every moment. Wanting to move in? Or maybe you think he would be better off picking up a hooker or a half-drunk stranger in a bar and experiencing his first time as something cheap, tawdry and meaningless? Okaaayy…issues… How about he asks a girl out. See if they like each other. Then maybe hit it. Or he could go pick up a drunk girl and make it something FUN, tawdry and meaningless. WTF not if they are both consenting adults? ---
**Author:** ![Ravenman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ravenman/32/2929_2.png) [@Ravenman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ravenman)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2006, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/39 "2006-02-15T18:40:25Z")
Another vote for “mind your own business.” I just can’t fathom a bunch of guys worrying about a buddy’s sex life, unless that buddy is actually asking to be set up with a nice chick. I think any guys who think along these lines should be convicted in absentia of secretly watching Sex and the City. You’re way too involved in another man’s life. Warning: if you and your friends continue down this road, next you’ll be giving your friend advice on how to dress, and you are only a short, slippery slope away from inviting the fellas over to watch Dancing with the Stars. ---
**Author:** ![Charger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df788c/32.png) [@Charger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Charger)\ **Post date:** [February 15, 2006, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/40 "2006-02-15T20:49:04Z")
31 year old male virgin, here. (Yep, we exist). I find the very notion of trying to change someone’s sexual lifestyle offensive. By doing so, you are sending the message that his choices are somehow flawed, or that he’s “less of a man” simply by being atypical. I’m sick of people trying to “fix” something in my life that I’ve chosen. And I find the notion that virginity = homosexuality pretty ridiculous (though, I’ve never been offended when people thought I was gay, I simply don’t talk about sex much so they conclude that I’m a closeted homosexual. Frankly, I don’t care). To me, waiting for marriage is not a decision that was made because of religion. I just think it’s romantic as hell to have just one partner for life, that’s all. And, to a smaller degree, it keeps relationships simple (no such thing as “she only likes me for sex,” or “she’s been with so many other guys before me” jealousy issues, etc.). Not to mention that I never even have to go through the worry or medical procedures of getting tested for STDs. To me, saving sex for marriage is a wise decision, not a character flaw needing to be “corrected.” And I don’t know which is the effect and which is the cause, but I also rarely ever think about sex (and I LIKE it that way, so PLEASE, PLEASE don’t jump in with your “pity.”) Consider for a moment a world in which everyone in your community got together and played checkers every Friday night. It would seem really surreal that everyone except you finds “Checkers Night” to be the greatest thrill in life. Now, consider what life would be like if people kept insisting that you MUST take up checkers and join them in their “fun.” Well, if you’re anything like me, you’d object simply on the grounds that you are offended _that they are trying to change you_. Go ahead, enjoy your checkers, but don’t force your lifestyle, and your concept of “fun” upon me, because I just don’t understand the appeal nor do I want to. I rarely drink, never been drunk, and never tried drugs. Based on all of these things, people have described me as “boring.” My experience has been the opposite. When I hang around people who do get drunk for fun, they bore me (see the checkers analogy). It’s just not what I find to be appropriate **for me**. So, I say back the hell off, and let him live his life as he sees fit. Believe me, you may think virgins are weird people, but you all look just as weird to us as we do to you. How about if we just agree that you don’t try to change us, and we won’t try to change you? Deal? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055.md?page=3)