# What Does a Person Have to do to get Laid (More)? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 12, 2006, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055 "2006-02-12T00:37:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![RaftPeople](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6f9a4e/32.png) [@RaftPeople](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RaftPeople)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 8:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/61 "2006-02-17T08:05:27Z")
**Rilchiam** : yep, it was a joke, as you probably figured out by **Stranger’s** thread ( 😃 ) ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/62 "2006-02-17T11:47:02Z")
> [@Amazon Floozy Goddess](#): > > Yeah, I wish. > > I’ve always had trouble in that department. The only way I’d definitely get some is to slut myself out on the street corner. But I really don’t want any from the alcoholic vagrant down the block who would most likely try to pay me with bottlecaps and leave behind a raging case of crabs/the clap/a rash. > > Currently I’ve gone about 8 months without and I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. There’s lots of women who are nowhere near as lucky as you might think. Huh? So you’re (a) female and (b) hot, and there’s something wrong with the default _modus operandi_ of smiling and looking receptive at a nice-looking guy? Do you, like, sit at home every evening carving ornamental chess sets out of scented soap? I don’t mean to mock, but in my experience and opinion, hot women who are nice to men are never out of style, any more than a never-ending keg of beer (without wanting to be so obnoxious as to imply an equivalence) and I genuinely don’t understand what the problem is. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/63 "2006-02-17T13:21:25Z")
> [@Winston Smith](#): > > Three words: Las Vegas \< **Bosda** slaps The Boy Who Can’t Count, with a Wet Trout \> ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/64 "2006-02-17T14:13:57Z")
> [@Rilchiam](#): > > **msmith** , has there ever been a time when someone you were going head-to-head with abruptly stopped rebutting and said, “Oh, okay, NOW I get it! You’re right; I should change, starting right now! Thanks for steering me in the right direction!”? Oh, okay. I guess you’re right. I should change, starting right now. Thanks for steering me in the right direction. On second thought, I am having a discussion with someone who has decided to post their thoughts on a public message board. I’m not asking him to change so I don’t think he needs you defending his virtue. I can’t help think if some of you got laid more, maybe you wouldn’t be so tightly wound. I’m off to the “[Have you ever been a slut](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=358420&highlight=slut)” thread to see if I can pick up some drunk bitches. ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/65 "2006-02-17T14:58:01Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I didn’t personally attack anyone so your statement is completely out of line. […later…] > [@msmith537](#): > > I can’t help think if some of you got laid more, maybe you wouldn’t be so tightly wound. Careful; don’t give yourself a nasty case of whiplash there. > [@msmith537](#): > > If you don’t like my opinion, then ignore it. The wisest piece of advice you’ve offered to date. Stranger ---
**Author:** ![Winston\_Smith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e95f7d/32.png) [@Winston\_Smith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Winston_Smith)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/66 "2006-02-17T15:04:36Z")
> [@Bosda Di'Chi of Tricor](#): > > \< **Bosda** slaps The Boy Who Can’t Count, with a Wet Trout \> Man, I’ve been here three-and-a-half years, and y’all _still_ don’t get my sense of humor. By the way, when you’re done with yer slappin’ trout, may I have it? I’m hungry for pan-fried slappin’ trout. Thanks. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/67 "2006-02-17T16:22:46Z")
> [@Amazon Floozy Goddess](#): > > Yeah, I wish. > > I’ve always had trouble in that department. The only way I’d definitely get some is to slut myself out on the street corner. But I really don’t want any from the alcoholic vagrant down the block who would most likely try to pay me with bottlecaps and leave behind a raging case of crabs/the clap/a rash. > > Currently I’ve gone about 8 months without and I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. There’s lots of women who are nowhere near as lucky as you might think. You got that right sistah ! Not for lack of interest or desire, I simply can’t find a DATE , much less a sex partner. I have been alone so long, I really don’t care anymore. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/68 "2006-02-17T16:27:26Z")
> [@Winston Smith](#): > > Man, I’ve been here three-and-a-half years, and y’all _still_ don’t get my sense of humor. > > By the way, when you’re done with yer slappin’ trout, may I have it? I’m hungry for pan-fried slappin’ trout. Thanks. 😉 \< **Bosda** sticks Trout down pants, rubs it around, hands it to **Winston Smith** \> Here. Hearty appetite. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Winston\_Smith](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e95f7d/32.png) [@Winston\_Smith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Winston_Smith)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2006, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/69 "2006-02-17T16:36:07Z")
> [@Bosda Di'Chi of Tricor](#): > > \< **Bosda** sticks Trout down pants, rubs it around, hands it to **Winston Smith** \> > > Here. Hearty appetite. 😛 **Winston** regards the now-sullied _slappin’ trout_ as such: :dubious: Um… Thanks? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2006, 3:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/70 "2006-02-18T03:27:31Z")
> [@msmith537](#): > > I mean what do you do all day if you aren’t drinking or trying to get laid? Eh? Did I really read this to mean those are the only two things in life? I plan to spend a good hour or two sewing tonight, I guess that’s “nothing”. Curioser and curiouser. > [@Malacandra](#): > > Huh? So you’re (a) female and (b) hot, and there’s something wrong with the default modus operandi of smiling and looking receptive at a nice-looking guy? Do you, like, sit at home every evening carving ornamental chess sets out of scented soap? I don’t mean to mock, but in my experience and opinion, hot women who are nice to men are never out of style, any more than a never-ending keg of beer (without wanting to be so obnoxious as to imply an equivalence) and I genuinely don’t understand what the problem is. As for females, of course females can get laid easily. Even ugly ones. Or fat chicks. And no, I am not going to apologize for using the word fat, I’m not saying it as an insult. And I’ve \*seen \ ***AFG** (well, a pic), she is not ugly at all. It’s when you start putting \*qualifiers \*on who it is, that it gets difficult. Otherwise I can guarantee you, any girl can go to a bar and pick up someone who is looking merely to get his rocks off. I bet a lot of times they’ll even get YOU off - what they might or might not do is stick around after the sex. And being 19 and a virgin, or 32 and a virgin, or 90 and a virgin, is no big deal at all. If you don’t like it, you have every right to not sleep with those people. But it’s their choice. We criticize people for slutting around, and then we turn around and criticize those who don’t, when really, it’s none of our business what they do! And I bet you all know some adult virgins, they have just never told you because of the stigma in our society against such a thing. ---
**Author:** ![MelCthefirst](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eada6e/32.png) [@MelCthefirst](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MelCthefirst)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2006, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/71 "2006-02-18T06:11:44Z")
In my experience of internet dating - I’d say for those women who can’t get laid, start using internet dating, those guys who can’t get laid, use internet dating, but be prepared to only get laid by women who are sex addicts! Ofcourse, you can find more deep and meaning relationships too. ---
**Author:** ![Bear\_Nenno](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bear_nenno/32/3358_2.png) [@Bear\_Nenno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bear_Nenno)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2006, 12:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/72 "2006-02-18T12:20:36Z")
I hope this isn’t too much of a hijack. But I’m curious about something and maybe there are some Dopers who can answer. For those of you who viewed sex as something sacred and special and saved sex for after marriage. After you got married and had sex, did you still view it the same way? Or did you come to believe that it really isn’t that big a deal and wasn’t worth fussing about for the last decade or two of your life? What I mean is that I am inclined to think that it’s the people who aren’t really having much sex - or no sex - who view it as something much, much more than it is. Something sacred and magical. Before I first had sex, this was my opinion too. I thought it was a very big deal. But now, I really don’t think it’s a big deal at all. And I’d most likely have casual sex with any female on this board. It’s no big deal to me - emotionally or psychologically, I mean. It’s a heluva lot of fun… which is why I’d do the the teemings if I could… This question also goes out to those who waited a long time to have sex, but not necessarily until after marriage. If you had your first sexual encounter at 31, did you think about it later and realize that you had been making a big deal out of nothing? Or did you hold on to your previous view? ---
**Author:** ![MelCthefirst](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eada6e/32.png) [@MelCthefirst](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MelCthefirst)\ **Post date:** [February 18, 2006, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/73 "2006-02-18T19:01:39Z")
> [@Bear\_Nenno](#): > > I hope this isn’t too much of a hijack. But I’m curious about something and maybe there are some Dopers who can answer. > > For those of you who viewed sex as something sacred and special and saved sex for after marriage. After you got married and had sex, did you still view it the same way? Or did you come to believe that it really isn’t that big a deal and wasn’t worth fussing about for the last decade or two of your life? > > What I mean is that I am inclined to think that it’s the people who aren’t really having much sex - or no sex - who view it as something much, much more than it is. Something sacred and magical. Before I first had sex, this was my opinion too. I thought it was a very big deal. But now, I really don’t think it’s a big deal at all. And I’d most likely have casual sex with any female on this board. It’s no big deal to me - emotionally or psychologically, I mean. It’s a heluva lot of fun… which is why I’d do the the teemings if I could… > > This question also goes out to those who waited a long time to have sex, but not necessarily until after marriage. If you had your first sexual encounter at 31, did you think about it later and realize that you had been making a big deal out of nothing? Or did you hold on to your previous view? I had my first sexual encounter at 24 - which felt very old compared to others around me. I never had opportunity and didn’t have confidence, which is necessary if you are not a blonde bombshell, I wasn’t waiting for marriage. I did know that it was fun and natural, I didn’t think it was something much more than it is. However, I now know that sex with someone you are in love with, is different to casual sex - and in my experience, men tend to be less fussy who they have sex with on a casual basis. Women tend to want someone who could be relationship material. I often think men like to have sex and ask questions later - if they think the woman is worth persuing, women tend to ask questions first and then have sex if they think the man is worth persuing. (not everyone ofcourse, just a gender difference in behavioural and cognitive patterns), ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2006, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/74 "2006-02-19T17:00:50Z")
> [@Campion](#): > > Unfortunately, experience and time have taught me that offering unsolicited advice is rarely a good idea. For example, how would you approach him? “Dude, you’re really a social nerd and the chicks think you’re a dork, although you could be cute if you’d keep your mouth shut. Let me teach you how to act normal in public and then we’ll get you laid.” > > . This is exactly what your friend needs. If he is lacking only in the social graces, it would be criminal of you not to help him redirect his path. He is already being humiliated by being talked about behind his back, and his many social faux pas. Only a friend would take time to try and help him. Trying to get him laid without fixing the root problem (dorkiness) will just make it more difficult for him when nobody is there to help him get any. ---
**Author:** ![Margeuerite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/47e85d/32.png) [@Margeuerite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Margeuerite)\ **Post date:** [February 19, 2006, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055/75 "2006-02-19T21:41:49Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally Posted by **msmith537** > > > [@](#): > > > > Originally Posted by **Charger** > > I’ve got plenty of other things to do with my days right now than deal with sex and all the baggage it brings. > > …How do the women you date feel about this? I’m not sure how you think people should respond to you. “Good job! Way to hold on to that virtue!”? I can understand being somewhat selective or being concerned about STDs but it seems to me that if you are “saving yourself for marriage” and you aren’t married at 31, there’s something else going on there. I highly doubt that **Charger** cares how people respond to his choice, since he doesn’t seem like the type of man who requires external validation (a huge turn-on, I might add). Either a woman will recognize him as a prize, or she won’t. Personally I think there’s something extremely impressive about a man who chooses to wait until marriage and who respects his body enough to not get drunk or use drugs. Such choices speak volumes about his (or anyone’s) character, regardless of whether they are done for religious reasons. I really don’t understand those (presumeably emotionally mature) sexually experienced people who get threatened and weirded out because a person wants to wait until marriage. Why is it your concern? Is it because he’s not “playing the game” of the patriarchy? Or maybe it’s because he’s exposing the lie that \*all \* men want sex _all_ the time–thereby destroying one of the most popular justifications for the ill treatment of many women? Sex is an intense gift, and it can bond two people like nothing else on this earth. I have great respect for its power because I’ve seen what it can do to people (especially women) who are not mature enough to deal with the emotional issues. If a person has taken an honest assessment of themselves and made a logical decision that they are ready for sex and \*everything that goes with it \* (possibility of pregnancy, emotional entanglement, STDs), then they should do as they please–we all have free will and must take responsibility for our own decisions. I have no right to say a non-virgin is wrong for making that decision. But I also ask the same courtesy: that a non-virgin will respect my reasons for waiting, which are just as carefully selected and articulated (if not more so) as the non-virgin’s reasons for having sex. Give it a rest. Many people are looking for something more sacred, more beautiful, and more meaningful than numerous sexual encounters with people with whom there is no prospect of a secure future. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-a-person-have-to-do-to-get-laid-more/344055.md?page=3)