# What Does It Mean When People Say Marriage Takes a Lot of "Work"?

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**Created:** [June 26, 2009, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-it-mean-when-people-say-marriage-takes-a-lot-of-work/501036 "2009-06-26T03:32:09Z")\
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**Post date:** [June 26, 2009, 7:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-does-it-mean-when-people-say-marriage-takes-a-lot-of-work/501036/7 "2009-06-26T07:31:04Z")

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> [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](#):
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> No, marital communication is not just opening your mouth and spouting off the truth. Almost directly the opposite, in fact. For me, that is work.

Yes. The important part of communication is listening, not talking - and sometimes listening to what isn’t said also. That takes a lot more effort than flapping ones gums.  
The other effort is not doing things your way all the time. That takes effort also.

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