# What event officializes a 1 on 1 relationship? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 15, 2008, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-event-officializes-a-1-on-1-relationship/477277 "2008-12-15T19:53:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Jesse\_Leigh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7ea924/32.png) [@Jesse\_Leigh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jesse_Leigh)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2008, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-event-officializes-a-1-on-1-relationship/477277/81 "2008-12-17T17:26:40Z")
> [@Mollie\_Magill](#): > > That’s not how I read it. > It seems clear to me that **Jesse Leigh** is saying that **Illuminatiprimus** did not have sex “within the bounds of ‘Holy Matrimony’”. She did not say that marriages where abortions, heartaches, STDs, and what else have you were not “within the bounds of ‘Holy Matrimony’”. > > Whether or not this is a good argument is up for question, but let’s at least address the argument she is making. I read this and proceeded from this point to ‘address the argument.’ I have no personal agenda here, I merely have an opinion which ‘majority rule’ appears to consider off topic. No problem. - Jess. ---
**Author:** ![mhendo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mhendo/32/3159_2.png) [@mhendo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mhendo)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2008, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-event-officializes-a-1-on-1-relationship/477277/82 "2008-12-17T17:37:19Z")
> [@Mollie\_Magill](#): > > That’s not how I read it. > It seems clear to me that **Jesse Leigh** is saying that **Illuminatiprimus** did not have sex “within the bounds of ‘Holy Matrimony’”. She did not say that marriages where abortions, heartaches, STDs, and what else have you were not “within the bounds of ‘Holy Matrimony’”. > > Whether or not this is a good argument is up for question, but let’s at least address the argument she is making. I did. Your interpretation of her comments is, i believe, incorrect. ---
**Author:** ![SiXSwordS](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/49beb7/32.png) [@SiXSwordS](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SiXSwordS)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2008, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-event-officializes-a-1-on-1-relationship/477277/83 "2008-12-17T18:38:33Z")
> [@Jesse\_Leigh](#): > > I’ll leave you to discuss it within your comfort zone. Your disingenuousness is showing. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2008, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-event-officializes-a-1-on-1-relationship/477277/84 "2008-12-17T18:40:53Z")
> [@SiXSwordS](#): > > Your disingenuousness is showing. She’s not the only one. ---
**Author:** ![Turek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/turek/32/18782_2.png) [@Turek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turek)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2008, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-event-officializes-a-1-on-1-relationship/477277/85 "2008-12-17T18:46:34Z")
Ok, to get on track with the OP, I’ll reiterate what I said and expound: I wouldn’t have sex with someone unless I was in an exclusive relationship. I wouldn’t be in an exclusive relationship unless we had had an actual conversation where we BOTH agreed that we were in an exclusive relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Mrs.Cake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/2acd7d/32.png) [@Mrs.Cake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mrs.Cake)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2008, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-event-officializes-a-1-on-1-relationship/477277/86 "2008-12-20T03:41:20Z")
Also back to the OP… Officially together when we had a talk and agreed that we were officially monogamously together. Too much iffiness to risk otherwise, having uinintentionally burned and been burned by assuming a serious, monogamous relationship based on outward signs. Plain speaking is always prefereable to assumptions. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-event-officializes-a-1-on-1-relationship/477277.md?page=4)