# What happens to all the blow jobs after marriage? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 8, 2000, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119 "2000-10-08T04:19:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Doug\_Bowe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/df788c/32.png) [@Doug\_Bowe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doug_Bowe)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2000, 5:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/21 "2000-10-09T05:44:10Z")
Are you prepared to supply similar service? ---
**Author:** ![Feynn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecb155/32.png) [@Feynn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Feynn)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2000, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/22 "2000-10-09T06:14:41Z")
I have no idea what you’re talking about. 🙂 Feynn, _aka Mr. Granola_ ---
**Author:** ![Lazarus7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/67e7ee/32.png) [@Lazarus7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lazarus7)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2000, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/23 "2000-10-09T06:37:55Z")
Normally I would agree with the OP … but last night, my wife gave me the wickedest blowjob! So I should shut up and quit my complaining!!! As to the other posters who ask if the men are willing to reciprocate and those who ask if we are still doing what we were while wooing (wow … what a wack of w’s), the answer is YES! and yes … ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2000, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/24 "2000-10-09T15:26:23Z")
In all fairness, I have heard from women who said their men don’t want sex after they marry them. ---
**Author:** ![jesuslynch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e99b99/32.png) [@jesuslynch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jesuslynch)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2000, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/25 "2000-10-09T15:43:28Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Lucretia \* > \*\* Have you thought maybe that it’s you that changed after marriage, madd1? …_\* Oh come on. Didn’t your momma ever tell you, “Don’t marry a man expecting him to change?” Men don’t change. And **handy** , the best cure for nymphomania is wedding cake. ---
**Author:** ![stofsky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dfb087/32.png) [@stofsky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stofsky)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2000, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/26 "2000-10-09T17:18:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by dragonlady \* > \*\*The best way to get a normal, healthy woman to give up sex is to ignore her, take her for granted, stop flirting with her, stop paying little attentions. In other words, she stops when you’ve stopped. \*\* Yeah, yeah. Like that mud mask you never let us see before helps things. Or nagging about chores. Or taking _us_ for granted and not flirting anymore. My case, almost 12 years later: I still flirt, play, buy flowers once or twice a week, and the sex has still diminished in quantity (quality depends on the night 🙂 ). I do more than my share of the housework, most of the finances, and have a damn nice lawn, thank you very much. But blowjobs have been replaced by quickies, handjobs, or “helping out,” which is the keyword for blowing in my ear while masturbating. Once they realize how much we love it, they start using it as bribe or blackmail. Oh yeah, one more observation, on a good night–I mean one where we have time and energy–I can give her an orgasm or two through oral sex and still move on to the real thing, but if she does that for me, we’ve got down-time and post-male-orgasmic disinterest to deal with. ---
**Author:** ![thinksnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thinksnow/32/2849_2.png) [@thinksnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thinksnow)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2000, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/27 "2000-10-10T17:02:25Z")
One of my best friends got married two weekends ago and his wife promised him a BJ for the wedding night. They’d been dating for about 4 years and she had _never_ given him one. I’m wondering if he got it, but I won’t know 'til they get back from Greece. I’m figuring, if she never gave him one in the years before, then even if she did give him head that night, she’ll not likely do it again…ever. Poor guy. [hijack] Another friend of mine was dating a stone-cold-freak in college and, of course, he married her. They used to have the freakiest, kinkiest circus-sex you’ve ever heard off and I couldn’t count the days he’d come stumbling out of the room, bruised and drained of almost all energy, but smiling, but after marriage, it stopped. Two years later, after their son was born, the sex itself seems to have gone away, too. For him, I’ll ask the teeming: “What gives?!” [/hijack] ---
**Author:** ![Simetra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Simetra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Simetra)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2000, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/28 "2000-10-10T17:24:48Z")
I had never been “gone down on” before I met my lovely, beautiful, wonderful SO. Even my x-wife, when we were married wouldn’t do it. They all said the same thing, “That’s disgusting…”, and I respected that. They had no trouble kissing me after I go down on them, but I guess that’s different. **Anyway** , my SO, who is Latin, says it was because they were white girls. To that, I say whatever, I wont caste someone that way. But in all honesty, I’ve never had a white girl offer or want to go down on me when I ask. However, my SO would rather do that to me than anything else… foreplay-wise that is. She loves it and tells me she’ll always want to do that. I hope that, if we ever do marry, it doesn’t stop. Blew me away \ the first time I got one. At the risk of sounding crass, she still insists on the deep dickin’, even if I need a little recovery time. I just think of it as time for me to touch and play time. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2000, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/29 "2000-10-10T17:29:24Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KimKatt \* > \*\*Funny, my hubby says they got better… \*\* mine too… ---
**Author:** ![lurkernomore](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d6d6ee/32.png) [@lurkernomore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lurkernomore)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2000, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/30 "2000-10-10T17:49:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by handy \* > \*\* > In all fairness, I have heard from women who said their men don’t want sex after they marry them. \*\* I knew a woman who said her husband stopped after marriage. Said he had never fooled around with a married woman before and wasn’t about to start. ::rimshot:: ---
**Author:** ![imthjckaz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/imthjckaz/32/3223_2.png) [@imthjckaz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/imthjckaz)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 5:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/31 "2002-07-13T05:46:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by lolagranola \* > \*\*Ummm… I never quit giving them often. > > Was I supposed to? \*\* > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by Feynn_ > \*\*I have no idea what you’re talking about. > > 🙂 > > Feynn, aka Mr. Granola\*\* :smack: Now I get it. ---
**Author:** ![Feynn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecb155/32.png) [@Feynn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Feynn)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/32 "2002-07-13T07:14:54Z")
imthjckaz - Did it really take you all this time to figure it out? Wow. “However, I guess this is one question that is doomed to be relegated to the 'missing pens, lighters, and odd socks” I don’t lose lighters, never lose pens, and manage to keep my socks in pairs too. ---
**Author:** ![imthjckaz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/imthjckaz/32/3223_2.png) [@imthjckaz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/imthjckaz)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 8:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/33 "2002-07-13T08:16:05Z")
No, but I had to wait for the right smiley to come along. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![jackelope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a6a055/32.png) [@jackelope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackelope)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 9:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/34 "2002-07-13T09:43:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jesuslynch \* > **Oh come on. Didn’t your momma ever tell you, "Don’t marry a man expecting him to change?"** I misquote from “My Word,” the brilliant radio show (you have to imagine this over the radio, so the pun will work): A woman’s ideal marriage: First, they’ll have everyone gathered together and she will walk down the **aisle** ; Then they’ll have a lovely service at the **altar** ; And finally, everyone will rise and in unison sing a **hymn**. In short, a woman’s ideal of marriage can be stated as: **Aisle altar hymn.** (Say it out loud if you don’t get it.) ---
**Author:** ![Seven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Seven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seven)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 10:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/35 "2002-07-13T10:00:05Z")
Q: What happens to all the blow jobs after marriage? A: I get them from the hot number next door. _huh_ _No. It was a joke_ _I was kidding honey_ _Honey come back here_ _oh man_ ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 10:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/36 "2002-07-13T10:09:51Z")
**Monster104** > [@](#): > > …maybe the blowjobs and socks hitched up, and now they’re having all the fun. Oh no you don’t. I’ve seen some of the socks we get on this board, and there are much better people around here who should be having that kind of fun! 😉 CJ ---
**Author:** ![Squish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8797f3/32.png) [@Squish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Squish)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 11:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/37 "2002-07-13T11:05:53Z")
\ I’m white, and I love giving blowjobs. Our problem is that he says it feels too good and he can’t concentrate enough to come! What’s up with **that** , guys? ---
**Author:** ![Squish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8797f3/32.png) [@Squish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Squish)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 11:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/38 "2002-07-13T11:08:05Z")
Here’s another thought: before you got married/moved in together, how often did you really have sex? Friday and Saturday nights, I’m betting. Woo-hoo! You got laid every weekend! How often do you have sex now? Oh, only about once or twice a week. What a bummer. See my point? ---
**Author:** ![tetsusaru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f14d63/32.png) [@tetsusaru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tetsusaru)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/39 "2002-07-13T14:39:16Z")
One word. Babies. ---
**Author:** ![tetsusaru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f14d63/32.png) [@tetsusaru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tetsusaru)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2002, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119/40 "2002-07-13T14:42:50Z")
I should probably clarify that it`s a logistical problem - see, there ain`t that many rooms in a Japanese apartment, and, well, you know, [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-happens-to-all-the-blow-jobs-after-marriage/36119.md?page=3)