I agree with the posters that have pointed out that there are pluses and minuses to both urban and rural living and the respective populations that enjoy where they are living are the people who find the pluses outweigh the minuses.
I grew up in a very small town in the California Delta (population when I was a boy was probably less 500). I currently live in an extremely urban area (but one without skyscrapers or parking problems). My sister lives in a tiny community (less than 500) in the Emerald Triangle of Northern California and I visit her multiple time a year (in normal years).
My sister’s community doesn’t fit the midwest/eastern communities described above. As an example, her county went more strongly for Biden this year than California statewide. It has significant diversity (when she moved there, I joked that there were three demographics- rednecks, hippies, and Hells Angels. I’d add yuppies in nowadays).
Would I want to live there? Not unless they get:
Better internet. Until a few years ago, the only internet available was satellite. They now have a wireless connection to a tower on the top of the ridge, but it is still much slower than my simple cable connection in the city (but the latency has improved).
More culture, especially films and music. They have a single multiplex that only shows the latest blockbusters (in contrast, there are at least 100 screens, from independents to multiplexes, within 30 minutes of where I am now). They have a pretty decent music scene, but again, it’s an exercise in logistics getting there. There is a community college, but no real access to university seminars and symposia like the city has.
Increased ease of travel. I do a fair amount of transcontinental and international travel. I enjoy travel. LAX is 15 minutes away. To travel by air, my sister generally has to travel an hour and a half to a small regional airport with limited connections to hubs, or travel 3 hours to a major hub.
Better, and more, food. It’s a half hour to a mediocre supermarket (my cousin jokes that he won’t consider moving there until they get a Whole Foods and a Trader Joes. I have two Whole Foods and three Trader Joes within a 15 minute drive and they aren’t the most upscale markets available within that drive time). They have good restaurants, but it’s an exercise to get to them compared to what’s available where I am (I’ve tried to estimate the number of non-chain restaurants with 30 minutes of me. I gave up. It has to be in the hundreds).
These are my personal criteria, and I don’t look down on anyone (including my sister) who makes the compromises necessary to enjoy the benefits of rural living. To each their own.