# What if you find out your daughter is a prostitute **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 29, 2010, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411 "2010-09-29T00:13:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/41 "2010-09-30T00:33:16Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > > > Calling it “fun and easy” just sounds flippant and naive. I can’t believe it’s either, no matter what the level. > > Have you ever watched the HBO docu-series Cathouse? Or had any lengthy discussions with legal prostitutes in Nevada brothels? Don’t answer, **Dio** … it’s a trick! ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/42 "2010-09-30T00:56:37Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > > > Calling it “fun and easy” just sounds flippant and naive. I can’t believe it’s either, no matter what the level. > > Have you ever watched the HBO docu-series Cathouse? Or had any lengthy discussions with legal prostitutes in Nevada brothels? What makes you think you’re going to see honesty on an HBO porno show? ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/43 "2010-09-30T01:48:45Z")
> [@fjs1fs](#): > > > [@even\_sven](#): > > > > I agree with this. > > Wow, I can’t believe nobody commented on this. Two people who are totally fine with their child being a prostitute because they think “it’s fun and an easy way to make money for now. . .” You’ve got to be kidding me. That begs the question, would anyone who thinks this is OK refer their friends in support of their daughter’s career? ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/44 "2010-09-30T01:48:59Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > I have a daughter who’s 15, almost 16. My reasons for liking it or not depend on the reasons. If it’s because she’s a junkie and needs cash for her habit, or thinks she’s worthless and thinks she can’t do any better, then yes I’m against it. If it’s because she knows some clientele, or thinks it’s fun and an easy way to make money for now, or treats it like any other job then yes I’m for it. Actually, I don’t think this attitude is too bizarre. In fact, I sort of agree with it. Basically his or her opinion seems to be if my daughter is being exploited they are against prostitution. If the daughter is not being exploited then it’s another matter. Let’s face it how many young women in America are virgins on their wedding nights? A lot women in their twenties have sex. Sometimes with men they met a bar that night. The main difference between a lot of one-night stands and successful prostitution is basically a bank balance. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/45 "2010-09-30T04:41:59Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > > [@EvilTOJ](#): > > > > I have a daughter who’s 15, almost 16. My reasons for liking it or not depend on the reasons. If it’s because she’s a junkie and needs cash for her habit, or thinks she’s worthless and thinks she can’t do any better, then yes I’m against it. If it’s because she knows some clientele, or thinks it’s fun and an easy way to make money for now, or treats it like any other job then yes I’m for it. > > Actually, I don’t think this attitude is too bizarre. In fact, I sort of agree with it. Basically his or her opinion seems to be if my daughter is being exploited they are against prostitution. If the daughter is not being exploited then it’s another matter. Let’s face it how many young women in America are virgins on their wedding nights? A lot women in their twenties have sex. Sometimes with men they met a bar that night. The main difference between a lot of one-night stands and successful prostitution is basically a bank balance. I didn’t actually vote, because I never do in public polls. And I hesitate to comment, because I know we’re talking about America and thus a very different situation. But I agree with the above, as I’m simply so used to many shopgirls and hairdressers and the like going down to lower Sukhumvit Road to turn a trick or two towards the end of the month and rent is coming due. There are many part-timers here; dunno how the part-time situation stands over there. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/46 "2010-09-30T04:54:11Z")
How many of those girls are happy about having to do that? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/47 "2010-09-30T05:03:33Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > How many of those girls are happy about having to do that? They probably would rather not, but even though I don’t go with them, I’ll chat with them late at night at the sidewalk bars, and they freely tell me where they work, the ones who do have a full-time job. Occasionally I’ll run into one in a department store – Bangkok’s department-store girls are legendary for their beauty, and quite a few have a cash sideline going with some of the wealthier customers – and we’ll sort of grin and wink at each other over the shared secret. I’ve mentioned elsewhere on the Board that the wife, a government researcher, was one of the compilers of a seminal study into prostitution numbers in the 1990s, and she and her colleagues found them to be rather open. It’s not quite the sordid scene found in some places in the West. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 5:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/48 "2010-09-30T05:55:31Z")
Withdraw her allowance. ---
**Author:** ![AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/49 "2010-09-30T07:14:50Z")
Ditto with the "if she was a junkie but if it was a different sitution… I plan to raise my kids with a healthy attitude about sex. I wonder if a lot of women who go into prosistution may have never outgrown the jr high/high school Pink Red Sox Hat style mentality . You know, they see themselves purely as an object to please guys. With that I have to say, there’s nothing wrong per se with causal sex. Sometimes you just need to get off. But at the same time, it just seems that there are a lot of people out there who have never outgrown the “hee hee hee. I gave Mr Football Player a blowjob!” mentality when it comes to sex. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/50 "2010-09-30T14:16:17Z")
My daughter is two. There would be hell to pay if anyone was having sex with her. In another 20 years, I still would be unhappy. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/51 "2010-09-30T15:46:39Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > > [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > > Have you ever watched the HBO docu-series Cathouse? Or had any lengthy discussions with legal prostitutes in Nevada brothels? > > What makes you think you’re going to see honesty on an HBO porno show? :: pours self snifter of scotch, downs it in a single reckless gulp, coughs :: God help me, but I agree with **Dio** here. :: begins to pour second shot; shrugs and just drinks from the bottle :: ---
**Author:** ![ZPG\_Zealot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/e47c2d/32.png) [@ZPG\_Zealot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZPG_Zealot)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/52 "2010-09-30T17:59:24Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > How many of those girls are happy about having to do that? How many of those girls are happy doing their regular jobs? Sometimes work just sucks (cheap pun intended), if it was fun they wouldn’t have to pay people to work. People do what they have to do to survive. ---
**Author:** ![MikeF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@MikeF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MikeF)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/53 "2010-09-30T19:40:50Z")
Reminds me of a joke. An Irish girl leaves her rural Donegal home and loving parents due to the lack of material goods that the farming life allows them. She takes up the world’s oldest profession and is quite successful. She sends money home and even buys her father a new truck, all the while never revealing the source of her income. Years later she returns home and admits to her father that she is, in fact, a prostitute. He loses his temper and throws her out of the house telling her never to return. She begs forgiveness crying, “I’ll stop! Your love is so much more important to me than being a prositute!” “Prostitute?!”, he says. “I thought you said you were a Protestant! Want to go for a ride in the truck?”. ---
**Author:** ![Gestalt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/90ced4/32.png) [@Gestalt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gestalt)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/54 "2010-09-30T21:03:04Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > > [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > > > What makes you think you’re going to see honesty on an HBO porno show? > > :: pours self snifter of scotch, downs it in a single reckless gulp, coughs :: > > God help me, but I agree with **Dio** here. > > :: begins to pour second shot; shrugs and just drinks from the bottle :: I think I know who you’re talking about, but for the record, it’s a little confusing to refer to **dio** when both posters you quoted have names that started with “dio” 😉 Uh, for those who are further confused, I messed up the quotes but **DtC** was responding to a question from **Diosa** ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/55 "2010-09-30T22:01:38Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > Actually, I don’t think this attitude is too bizarre. In fact, I sort of agree with it. Basically his or her opinion seems to be if my daughter is being exploited they are against prostitution. If the daughter is not being exploited then it’s another matter. Let’s face it how many young women in America are virgins on their wedding nights? A lot women in their twenties have sex. Sometimes with men they met a bar that night. The main difference between a lot of one-night stands and successful prostitution is basically a bank balance. Does wanting to actually get off factor in here? Sure it may not be on the one-night stand’s mind, but at least she can (ideally) require him to give as good as he gets and leave if he doesn’t. Women may be conditioned to please others, but not seeing the difference between sexual dynamics with and without a financial transaction is a little much. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/56 "2010-09-30T22:50:13Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > > [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > > > Actually, I don’t think this attitude is too bizarre. In fact, I sort of agree with it. Basically his or her opinion seems to be if my daughter is being exploited they are against prostitution. If the daughter is not being exploited then it’s another matter. Let’s face it how many young women in America are virgins on their wedding nights? A lot women in their twenties have sex. Sometimes with men they met a bar that night. The main difference between a lot of one-night stands and successful prostitution is basically a bank balance. > > Does wanting to actually get off factor in here? Sure it may not be on the one-night stand’s mind, but at least she can (ideally) require him to give as good as he gets and leave if he doesn’t. Women may be conditioned to please others, but not seeing the difference between sexual dynamics with and without a financial transaction is a little much. Fully getting off isn’t a prerequisite for good sex for all women. Hell, a good chunk of women can’t cum at all, let alone from a partner. I mean, not me- thank God- but my point is. . . well, sometimes I describe sex like a good dinner. The dinner can still be amazing even if you don’t have dessert, ya know what I mean? I can still be rather pleased even without totally getting off and I know other women on this board have expressed a similar sentiment. And some guys get off on. . .getting women off. So, just because a guy is going to a prostitute doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to please her. I again suggest some folks watch the docu series Cathouse on HBO- it’s hardly porno, despite what DTC suggests, though there is nudity and sex (duh). Many of the women profiled talk about getting off several times a day, they show men paying to go down on the girls, etc. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/57 "2010-09-30T22:58:59Z")
> [@ZPG\_Zealot](#): > > > [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > > > How many of those girls are happy about having to do that? > > How many of those girls are happy doing their regular jobs? If they could make the same money at their regular jobs, what do you think they’d choose, regular work or turning tricks? ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/58 "2010-09-30T23:05:00Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > > > Does wanting to actually get off factor in here? Sure it may not be on the one-night stand’s mind, but at least she can (ideally) require him to give as good as he gets and leave if he doesn’t. Women may be conditioned to please others, but not seeing the difference between sexual dynamics with and without a financial transaction is a little much. > > Fully getting off isn’t a prerequisite for good sex for all women. Hell, a good chunk of women can’t cum at all, let alone from a partner. I mean, not me- thank God- but my point is. . . well, sometimes I describe sex like a good dinner. The dinner can still be amazing even if you don’t have dessert, ya know what I mean? I can still be rather pleased even without totally getting off and I know other women on this board have expressed a similar sentiment. And some guys get off on. . .getting women off. So, just because a guy is going to a prostitute doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to please her. I again suggest some folks watch the docu series Cathouse on HBO- it’s hardly porno, despite what DTC suggests, though there is nudity and sex (duh). Many of the women profiled talk about getting off several times a day, they show men paying to go down on the girls, etc. Let me let you in on a little secret. When hookers say they’re coming, they’re LYING. It’s actually hilarious that you believe them. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/59 "2010-09-30T23:08:32Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > > [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > > Fully getting off isn’t a prerequisite for good sex for all women. Hell, a good chunk of women can’t cum at all, let alone from a partner. I mean, not me- thank God- but my point is. . . well, sometimes I describe sex like a good dinner. The dinner can still be amazing even if you don’t have dessert, ya know what I mean? I can still be rather pleased even without totally getting off and I know other women on this board have expressed a similar sentiment. And some guys get off on. . .getting women off. So, just because a guy is going to a prostitute doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to please her. I again suggest some folks watch the docu series Cathouse on HBO- it’s hardly porno, despite what DTC suggests, though there is nudity and sex (duh). Many of the women profiled talk about getting off several times a day, they show men paying to go down on the girls, etc. > > Let me let you in on a little secret. When hookers say they’re coming, they’re LYING. It’s actually hilarious that you believe them. How many hookers do you know, friend? Also, how many have told you they were cumming when they weren’t? ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2010, 11:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411/60 "2010-09-30T23:21:12Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > > > Let me let you in on a little secret. When hookers say they’re coming, they’re LYING. It’s actually hilarious that you believe them. > > How many hookers do you know, friend? Also, how many have told you they were cumming when they weren’t? Zero (except male friend of mine who made some money giving "massages’ to rich housewives for awhile), but seriously, you think that when prostitutes say they’re coming (“cumming” is not a word) that they really mean it? That’s hysterical. Do you also think they mean it when they tell the guy how huge his dick is? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-if-you-find-out-your-daughter-is-a-prostitute/555411.md?page=4)