# What Is Attractive To Females **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 19, 2013, 7:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218 "2013-09-19T07:11:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/41 "2013-09-19T14:43:40Z")
> [@CLee](#): > > I’m nearly certain that the opposite route, apparently taken by the OP, will result in zero vagina. My best relationships were always with boys then men who either had female friends or sisters or who were naturally at ease in the company of women. > > A weekend jogger wouldn’t expect to win Olympic gold his first time out in a triathlon would he? Then someone who views women as a mysterious, foreign species shouldn’t have the expectation of women falling at his feet because he read the results of a carelessly worded survey on a message board. He’s got to start somewhere, and if that results in a few unrequited crushes, well, live and learn. I agree. I’m just trying to point out we’re human, too, not some weird alien species. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/42 "2013-09-19T14:50:36Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I agree. I’m just trying to point out we’re human, too, not some weird alien species. 🙂 cite? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![handsomeharry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9c0ed/32.png) [@handsomeharry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handsomeharry)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/43 "2013-09-19T15:03:29Z")
> [@pullin](#): > > I think they’re mostly attracted to certain smells. > > I’ve found the combination of Pledge, floor cleaners, Windex and laundry soap can render a male irresistible. If I sneak out of bed at 5:00 on a Saturday morning and quietly deep-clean the house and get all the laundry clean and folded, the smells of the cleaning agents apparently waft upstairs into the bedroom. This causes some sort of sexual response among females. > > I don’t know much about women, but when they awaken and find their house spotless, arousal is almost certain. Sounds good, but, I like to take the quick route. For her birthday, I give her a new broom, an can of Pledge, a bottle of Windex, a container of laundry soap. Then, I recognize her worth as a person, and explain to her that I understand her battle with weight, and that if she were to quit the bonbons and TV, and get up and clean, she would have that fresh-as-a-daisy house that she wants. This drives her wild. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/44 "2013-09-19T15:04:46Z")
> [@handsomeharry](#): > > Sounds good, but, I like to take the quick route. For her birthday, I give her a new broom, an can of Pledge, a bottle of Windex, a container of laundry soap. Then, I recognize her worth as a person, and explain to her that I understand her battle with weight, and that if she were to quit the bonbons and TV, and get up and clean, she would have that fresh-as-a-daisy house that she wants. This drives her wild. You forgot to instruct her to make you a sandwich. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/45 "2013-09-19T15:05:18Z")
Authenticity and integrity, sense of humour and depth of character. From these things stem that elusive confidence everyone loves to refer to. These things cannot be bought or faked. Affectation of such is pretty easy to spot, for most people, in my opinion. Women develop pretty good spidey sense, early in life, in regards to being treated like prey, in my experience. ---
**Author:** ![CLee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f19dbf/32.png) [@CLee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CLee)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/46 "2013-09-19T15:07:04Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > Women develop pretty good spidey sense, early in life, in regards to being treated like prey, in my experience. Ah, there it is. Said better than I. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/47 "2013-09-19T15:07:11Z")
> [@handsomeharry](#): > > Sounds good, but, I like to take the quick route. For her birthday, I give her a new broom, an can of Pledge, a bottle of Windex, a container of laundry soap. Then, I recognize her worth as a person, and explain to her that I understand her battle with weight, and that if she were to quit the bonbons and TV, and get up and clean, she would have that fresh-as-a-daisy house that she wants. This drives her wild. 😃 This is a great way to get Pledge in the eyes. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/48 "2013-09-19T15:17:42Z")
Maybe Cracked can help: [Attracting Women](http://www.cracked.com/funny-1320-attracting-women/) [6 Ways You Can (Accidentally) Attract the Ladies](http://www.cracked.com/article/206_6-ways-you-can-accidentally-attract-ladies/) [6 Things Men Do To Get Laid That Science Says Turn Women Off](http://www.cracked.com/article_18440_6-things-men-do-to-get-laid-that-science-says-turn-women-off.html) Disclaimer, in case one is needed: [Cracked.com](http://Cracked.com) is a humor website. This is not to say that what they present isn’t the truth, but it is not necessarily the whole truth; it is truth in the service of humor; and it should be taken with a grain of salt. But actually, so should anything that anyone says about “what is attractive to females.” ---
**Author:** ![aNewLeaf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ac91a4/32.png) [@aNewLeaf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aNewLeaf)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/49 "2013-09-19T15:26:36Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I agree. I’m just trying to point out we’re human, too, not some weird alien species. 🙂 I once had some rather aggressive lesbians try to explain to me that they were in fact a different, more advanced species. Not saying it’s true. But it’s out there. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/50 "2013-09-19T16:13:58Z")
Cracked also has “6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person” – [6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person | Cracked.com](http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/) ---
**Author:** ![Frazzled](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/frazzled/32/3368_2.png) [@Frazzled](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frazzled)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/51 "2013-09-19T16:43:33Z")
The real question is “what’s attractive?” This question is independent of gender because in the end we’re all pretty much attracted to the same basic things (with variations of course). The easiest example, and the most obvious, is that we’re attracted to people who are fun to look at. A fit body is very nice and easy to get with good diet and exercise habits (admittedly those habits are very hard to maintain!). Good grooming and personal style go a long ways towards being pleasing to look at as well. But looks aren’t everything, and for many they’re not the most important. There are many other things people are attracted to. People are attracted to people who are interesting to watch. Athletes and actors are big examples here since people shell out big money to watch them. Any activity where you are entertaining people and they go out of their way to watch is extremely attractive. People are attracted to leaders. Teachers, coaches, mentors. This is the very definition of confidence. If you are good at something put it out there and share it with others. People are attracted to producers. Are you artistic? Then paint. Are you a good cook? Then make dinner. Fix up your yard. Make your house look neat with a lot of little personal touches. Just do _something_ that people will be interested in hearing about and sharing with their friends. People are attracted to the people other people are attracted to. If you do something that other people find interesting and fascinating and are talking about then that is naturally something that people want to know more about. People are attracted to people who make their friends jealous. Ok, maybe not jealous but people love talking about the person they’re dating and knowing that their friends are impressed with your feats and accomplishments. It’s fun feeling like we have a great catch! If you want to attract attention from the opposite sex, then the most sure fire way to do so is to do the things listed above. When you become attractive yourself then people will be drawn to you like a moth to flames. ---
**Author:** ![Gateway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/dbc845/32.png) [@Gateway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gateway)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/52 "2013-09-19T17:52:55Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Why don’t you just ask some women? Say “Women, what is it that you like in a man?” And each of us will answer. > > Because we are not some cookie-cutter universal answer. I don’t like Latino men. I don’t like overly macho men. I don’t like hairy men - all things that other women swoon over. > > I like slim, tall, elegant, sophisticated, intelligent men, with a devastating wit. Jude Law makes me weak at the knees while someone like John Wayne leaves me pretty cold. That’s not to say I don’t think Wayne wasn’t good-looking in his heydey, but he’s so not my type. > > And that also doesn’t mean I stay true to type every time. My number one priority in a man is that sharp sense of humor. If he’s got that, I’m willing to overlook some other things. > > And I am different from every other woman out there. We’re not all the same. I refer you to my signature. > > I’d also like to politely request we quit the rape-y jokes in here - first formaldehyde and then chloroform. They’re not very funny and it’s not exactly the appropriate venue. Thanks for sharing. Also, if we stop the rape jokes on this thread, what else would we be able to laugh about when it comes to women? (joke) ---
**Author:** ![CLee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f19dbf/32.png) [@CLee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CLee)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/53 "2013-09-19T17:59:51Z")
> [@Gateway](#): > > Thanks for sharing. > Also, if we stop the rape jokes on this thread, what else would we be able to laugh about when it comes to women? (joke) You’re more than welcome to crack wise on the difficulties of locating the clitoris, but that kind of humor may require a more advanced skillset. ---
**Author:** ![Gateway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/dbc845/32.png) [@Gateway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gateway)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 6:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/54 "2013-09-19T18:03:55Z")
> [@Frazzled](#): > > The real question is “what’s attractive?” This question is independent of gender because in the end we’re all pretty much attracted to the same basic things (with variations of course). > > The easiest example, and the most obvious, is that we’re attracted to people who are fun to look at. A fit body is very nice and easy to get with good diet and exercise habits (admittedly those habits are very hard to maintain!). Good grooming and personal style go a long ways towards being pleasing to look at as well. > > But looks aren’t everything, and for many they’re not the most important. There are many other things people are attracted to. > > People are attracted to people who are interesting to watch. Athletes and actors are big examples here since people shell out big money to watch them. Any activity where you are entertaining people and they go out of their way to watch is extremely attractive. > > People are attracted to leaders. Teachers, coaches, mentors. This is the very definition of confidence. If you are good at something put it out there and share it with others. > > People are attracted to producers. Are you artistic? Then paint. Are you a good cook? Then make dinner. Fix up your yard. Make your house look neat with a lot of little personal touches. Just do _something_ that people will be interested in hearing about and sharing with their friends. > > People are attracted to the people other people are attracted to. If you do something that other people find interesting and fascinating and are talking about then that is naturally something that people want to know more about. > > People are attracted to people who make their friends jealous. Ok, maybe not jealous but people love talking about the person they’re dating and knowing that their friends are impressed with your feats and accomplishments. It’s fun feeling like we have a great catch! > > If you want to attract attention from the opposite sex, then the most sure fire way to do so is to do the things listed above. When you become attractive yourself then people will be drawn to you like a moth to flames. We are not all attracted to the same things as a species. Saying this alone tells me you are female . Men are sexuallyattracted to looks primarily. Women seem to like looks but also attracted to a more full package. I do think that the answer you provided is helpful though at least for what females are attracted to ---
**Author:** ![Gateway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/dbc845/32.png) [@Gateway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gateway)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/55 "2013-09-19T18:13:12Z")
> [@CLee](#): > > You’re more than welcome to crack wise on the difficulties of locating the clitoris, but that kind of humor may require a more advanced skillset. Yes your sophisticated world of clitoral humor confounds and confuses me, I am not sure if I can make the switch. Maybe we can talk it over over a bite to eat with some coffee and then some rape? ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/56 "2013-09-19T18:16:17Z")
> [@Gateway](#): > > Yes your sophisticated world of clitoral humor confounds and confuses me, I am not sure if I can make the switch. Maybe we can talk it over over a bite to eat with some coffee and then some rape? There’s a good example. Stop that. Females hate that shit. ---
**Author:** ![CLee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f19dbf/32.png) [@CLee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CLee)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/57 "2013-09-19T18:16:42Z")
> [@Gateway](#): > > Yes your sophisticated world of clitoral humor confounds and confuses me, I am not sure if I can make the switch. Maybe we can talk it over over a bite to eat with some coffee (snipped) Hopeless. ---
**Author:** ![Frazzled](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/frazzled/32/3368_2.png) [@Frazzled](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frazzled)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/58 "2013-09-19T18:21:59Z")
> [@Gateway](#): > > We are not all attracted to the same things as a species. Saying this alone tells me you are female . Men are sexuallyattracted to looks primarily. Women seem to like looks but also attracted to a more full package. > I do think that the answer you provided is helpful though at least for what females are attracted to You are incorrect. I am not female, and while men are initially attracted to looks (especially when we’re in High School) _most_ of us mature and look at a fuller package as well. I have no problem attracting “females” and was sharing some of what I know works. If you want to attract girls, steps 1, 2, and 3 is to be attractive. But everything I said applies to men too. The women I’m most attracted to are ones that I think are fun to watch because they’re active, and ones who are confident, interesting, and creative. While I very much care that a woman I’m with takes care of herself and cares about her appearance - actual “looks” are a bit further down the line behind the less tangible things. I will tell you this - if all you care about is a girl who is hot and you want to learn the magic words to drop her panties - good luck. The tone of your post tells me you’re inexperienced and have no basis to be critiquing advice. ---
**Author:** ![Gateway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/dbc845/32.png) [@Gateway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gateway)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/59 "2013-09-19T18:24:58Z")
> [@DrFidelius](#): > > There’s a good example. Stop that. Females hate that shit. 1. No 2. If I choose to use the word female (oh my goodness!) or joke like that on a PUBLIC message board in a free country, then thats how it is. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2013, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218/60 "2013-09-19T18:29:12Z")
> [@Gateway](#): > > Thanks for sharing. > Also, if we stop the rape jokes on this thread, what else would we be able to laugh about when it comes to women? (joke) Humor, perhaps? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-attractive-to-females/669218.md?page=4)