# What is going on with these sex spams? **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [November 7, 2016, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943 "2016-11-07T12:30:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 12:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/1 "2016-11-07T12:30:57Z")
I have been getting about a dozen spams a day (by actual count) of which the following is typical: > [@](#): > > I have just turned 18 and I am looking for a mature instructor > I want you to c+m in my naughty mouth > Nice ginger hair and big bubbly boobs I want you to glance through my portfolio and assess my naked body > I bet you will miss me Since they have no idea where I am and you cannot email sex, what are they about? This started about a month ago and is relentless. My spam filter is obviously missing them. ---
**Author:** ![Sigene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df788c/32.png) [@Sigene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sigene)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/2 "2016-11-07T12:53:34Z")
They are trying to extract money from you. I suspect they will want you to go to their website and give them your credit card number for access to their pictures. then they will charge your credit card for their profit. ---
**Author:** ![Riemann](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/riemann/32/3133_2.png) [@Riemann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riemann)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/3 "2016-11-07T13:04:05Z")
Reminding me of this [![](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/d/dd/Gnomes_plan.png) ](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/d/dd/Gnomes_plan.png) ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/4 "2016-11-07T13:06:10Z")
> [@Hari\_Seldon](#): > > My spam filter is obviously missing them. I am curious about this. Is there anything in common with all the emails that makes them evade the usual filtering tools? ---
**Author:** ![naita](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/naita/32/5862_2.png) [@naita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/naita)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/5 "2016-11-07T13:07:12Z")
I kept reading this as “sex spasms” … ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/6 "2016-11-07T13:45:07Z")
I get the same emails (doesn’t everyone?) but they get caught by Yahoo’s spam filter. ---
**Author:** ![Riemann](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/riemann/32/3133_2.png) [@Riemann](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Riemann)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/7 "2016-11-07T13:53:03Z")
fwiw, I moved my email address (I own the domain) from Network Solutions to Google a year ago. I wish I had done it 5 years ago. There is a 'uuuge difference in the efficiency of their spam filters. With Network Solutions I was getting around 5 errors (false positive or false negative) per day. With Google I get less than 1 per week. ---
**Author:** ![jtur88](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e9c0ed/32.png) [@jtur88](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jtur88)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/8 "2016-11-07T14:11:43Z")
If you’re really serious about not wanting to receive them, it is my experience that they are sent only to email recipients that have standard English language email domains, like gmail/yahpo/hotmail/com. I have email addresses at yahoo.no and [mail.ru](http://mail.ru), and those mailboxes never get any spam. Literally never, like zero, year after year. My common English addresses, I get the same dozen a day that you get. I suspect that they are sent to random letter/number combinations of email handles, and those that do not come back from mailer-daeumon are presumed to reach a real person, which is then locked into the mailing lists. But they only send to standard dot-com domains. ---
**Author:** ![Canadjun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/76d3ee/32.png) [@Canadjun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadjun)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/9 "2016-11-07T14:44:50Z")
> [@jtur88](#): > > But they only send to standard dot-com domains. They certainly also come to .ca domains. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/10 "2016-11-07T14:53:46Z")
I’m getting fuckbuddy requests on my .uk domains. ---
**Author:** ![Me\_Billy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e480ec/32.png) [@Me\_Billy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Me_Billy)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/11 "2016-11-07T15:32:58Z")
Talk to your ISP about blocking them. Sometimes you can do things on your local device AND also change filtering settings on the ISP provider’s site. FYI - In the past I have been QUITE irritated with this type of spam. If we want to see this stuff, we know where it is at. They don’t need to constantly shove it in our face! ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/12 "2016-11-07T16:54:57Z")
Just to offer another perspective: once you cum in her naughty mouth, she might stop e-mailing you. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/13 "2016-11-07T19:58:47Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Just to offer another perspective: once you cum in her naughty mouth, she might stop e-mailing you. I was also going to suggest that the OP stop dressing provocatively as well. ---
**Author:** ![Jinx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Jinx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jinx)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/14 "2016-11-07T21:21:46Z")
Crap. I read “What is going on with these sex spasms?” :eek: Freudian slip, I guess. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Canadjun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/76d3ee/32.png) [@Canadjun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadjun)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2016, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/15 "2016-11-07T22:30:45Z")
> [@Jinx](#): > > Crap. I read “What is going on with these sex spasms?” :eek: Freudian slip, I guess. ☹ Too much Viagra. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2016, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/16 "2016-11-08T08:42:56Z")
> [@Sigene](#): > > They are trying to extract money from you. > > I suspect they will want you to go to their website and give them your credit card number for access to their pictures. then they will charge your credit card for their profit. Not always – sometimes they just want you to respond. That confirms that this is a ‘live’ email address. They sell lists of emails to other scammers, and charge a higher price for proven live emails. Often they will have text toward the bottom saying something like “click here if you no longer wish to receive similar email offers”. Clicking that does 2 things: 1) confirms that it is a live human receiving this email, and 2) confirms that the human is gullible enough to click on things in anonymous, spammy emails. ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2016, 9:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/17 "2016-11-08T09:02:39Z")
Dude, why be such a skeptic? It’s probably a super hot girl who has such difficulty meeting guys willing to have casual sex that she must resort to mailing thousands of random email addresses (But why oh why do these girls decide to put their details behind a paywall? They’re only making it harder for themselves to get laid. Insanity…) In my case, I’m going to get some sweet-ass sex from this “Elle” girl: > [@Elle (all "sic")](#): > > Hello, when you and I last chatting you said you wanted to see and have sex? > What was happend did I scare you off? > Sorry if I am slightly early but I am done with fellows goind round the houses. > I want having sex and a great deal of it if you are not the man for the job > just tell it please and i will search for someone else. > Authorise me on this site if you are still open for some real bang > > Kiss you, Elle ---
**Author:** ![GoodOmens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d26b3c/32.png) [@GoodOmens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GoodOmens)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2016, 11:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/18 "2016-11-08T11:43:40Z")
Back in the day I used to get tons of spam e-mails for military-themed gay porn. They really, REALLY missed the mark on their demographic research. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2016, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/19 "2016-11-08T14:23:58Z")
> [@Mijin](#): > > In my case, I’m going to get some sweet-ass sex from this “Elle” girl: I half expected to see “I burning your dog” in there somewhere. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2016, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943/20 "2016-11-08T14:32:47Z")
I think Elle threatened you with a firearm at the end. That’s a hard sell. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-going-on-with-these-sex-spams/770943.md?page=2)