# What is it with men and sexual abuse of children? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 18, 2012, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595 "2012-07-18T04:01:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2012, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/61 "2012-07-18T17:26:31Z")
> [@robert\_columbia](#): > > I blame your mother. I just heard that in a cheesy Sean Connery accent. ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2012, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/62 "2012-07-18T17:34:55Z")
The game is afoot. I’ll take Children in Japan-U.S. relations, Alex. ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2012, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/63 "2012-07-18T17:53:15Z")
I think you should provide us with a detailed list of places where men might sexually abuse children, and a list of steps that men should avoid so that they don’t accidentally get themselves mixed up in sexually preying on children. A graphic description of the things we shouldn’t do might also help. 😃 Stop complaining and start educating! ---
**Author:** ![Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/intergalactic_gladiator/32/112_2.png) [@Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Intergalactic_Gladiator)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2012, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/64 "2012-07-18T18:04:50Z")
> [@Great\_Antibob](#): > > Join date: July 2012. > > Check. > > There’s got to be something in the water. …everywhere. This has got “Purity of Essence” all over it. Styrofoam underpants! Styrofoam underpants! Styrofoam underpants! ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2012, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/65 "2012-07-18T18:06:48Z")
> [@Ludovic](#): > > The game is afoot. I’ll take Children in Japan-U.S. relations, Alex. Your mother is a whore, Trebeck. I’ll take “the rapists” for $1000 It’s “therapists”, Mr Connery. ---
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2012, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/66 "2012-07-18T19:11:59Z")
> [@Machine\_Elf](#): > > Thanks for your support (seriously). > > Would you mind passing that thought on to [a few airlines?](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Airline_sex_discrimination_policy_controversy) That’s nuts. It’s hard enough to join the Mile High Club as it is, and those three airlines _just make it harder_. ---
**Author:** ![Boswellia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eada6e/32.png) [@Boswellia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boswellia)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 3:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/67 "2012-07-19T03:13:41Z")
> [@](#): > > What is it with men and sexual abuse of children? [Better Run, Girl](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hn0ZJHVH17I) :eek: ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/68 "2012-07-19T13:56:46Z")
…so where the fuck _are_ you, **LadyMadonna**? Kiddy fiddling? ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/69 "2012-07-19T14:24:56Z")
> [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](#): > > …so where the fuck _are_ you, **LadyMadonna**? > > Kiddy fiddling? I heard that she lets small children have at her breasts. Makes me wonder how she feeds the other ones. ---
**Author:** ![BlinkingDuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eada6e/32.png) [@BlinkingDuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlinkingDuck)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/70 "2012-07-19T17:59:41Z")
Reminds me of a friend of my wife who has a daughter who was friends with my daughter. My wife was out of town but my daughter wanted a sleep over and her daughter was invited. When she found out my wife was out of town she refused to let her daughter sleep over because she didn’t trust her with me if my wife wasnt around. No offense…just being safe. Several months later she invited my kids (daughter and son) to a party. My son said he didn’t want to go and so I said my daughter could go but not my son because I couldn’t trust her with my son. You never know what she might do to him, yaknow. No offense, just being safe. Wife’s friend was EXTREMELY angry and livid. Never really forgave me for that insult and to this day won’t talk to me. Why, I don’t know. Everyone knows that older women abuse little boys. They can’t help it you know. Something built into women I guess. Just can’t trust them. She should have understood and accepted that. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/71 "2012-07-19T18:01:42Z")
> [@BlinkingDuck](#): > > Wife’s friend was EXTREMELY angry and livid. Never really forgave me for that insult. “You know, I understand if you won’t forgive me for my ‘insult’. I still haven’t forgiven you for yours.” ---
**Author:** ![BlinkingDuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/eada6e/32.png) [@BlinkingDuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlinkingDuck)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/72 "2012-07-19T18:06:19Z")
> [@Chimera](#): > > “You know, I understand if you won’t forgive me for my ‘insult’. I still haven’t forgiven you for yours.” My wife (who agrees with my juvenile behavior on this 🙂 ) tried to tell her I was just proving a point but the anger is still there even after 10 years. Wife’s friend just doesn’t seem to understand that it was just as insulting when she did it as when I did it. She says it is ‘different’. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/73 "2012-07-19T18:21:00Z")
I’m not sure why you’d even continue associating, even indirectly, with someone who accused you of being a potential pedophile. That’s the nuclear weapon of accusations, which can ruin lives without a shred of proof. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/74 "2012-07-19T19:24:36Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > Won’t anyone think of the children?! Laina’s Pit rule (aka the July 2012 rule): Unless you’ve lurked here long enough to know that this would be the first response to this thread, you shouldn’t be opening Pit threads. (I’m surprised it took 11 minutes.) ---
**Author:** ![Gedd](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gedd/32/4938_2.png) [@Gedd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gedd)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/75 "2012-07-19T19:36:37Z")
> [@Mosier](#): > > Won’t anyone think of the children?! Apparently men do; on those long, cold, lonely nights . . . ---
**Author:** ![Yeticus\_Rex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/a698b9/32.png) [@Yeticus\_Rex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yeticus_Rex)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/76 "2012-07-19T19:46:06Z")
I actually blame the women…after all, they gave birth to all of these sexual abusers. After all, any boy born is going to be a sexual abuser in the future…might as well terminate the pregnancy once you find out it’s a boy. The problem would solve itself in a generation or two…what say you, **LadyMadonna**? (Oh, just the OP and a walkaway? Figures.) ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 7:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/77 "2012-07-19T19:47:49Z")
_LadyMadonna Trolling the SDMB Wonder why you won’t even defend the OP_ ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/78 "2012-07-19T19:58:33Z")
> [@BlinkingDuck](#): > > My wife (who agrees with my juvenile behavior on this 🙂 ) tried to tell her I was just proving a point but the anger is still there even after 10 years. Wife’s friend just doesn’t seem to understand that it was just as insulting when she did it as when I did it. She says it is ‘different’. What a heinous bitch. When I hear stuff like this, I’m really tempted to say, ''Lady, you should worry less about this guy and more about your husband." After all, he’s statistically more likely to abuse her than you are. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/79 "2012-07-19T20:14:14Z")
> [@BlinkingDuck](#): > > Reminds me of a friend of my wife who has a daughter who was friends with my daughter. My wife was out of town but my daughter wanted a sleep over and her daughter was invited. When she found out my wife was out of town she refused to let her daughter sleep over because she didn’t trust her with me if my wife wasnt around. No offense…just being safe. > > Several months later she invited my kids (daughter and son) to a party. My son said he didn’t want to go and so I said my daughter could go but not my son because I couldn’t trust her with my son. You never know what she might do to him, yaknow. No offense, just being safe. > > Wife’s friend was EXTREMELY angry and livid. Never really forgave me for that insult and to this day won’t talk to me. > > Why, I don’t know. Everyone knows that older women abuse little boys. They can’t help it you know. Something built into women I guess. Just can’t trust them. > > She should have understood and accepted that. My coworker says this exact thing - she won’t let her daughter sleep over a friend’s house if mommy is not going to be around. Even better, when the kid was at the office one day long ago, Mom was on the phone, and the kid went to the bathroom by themself. In the middle of the day, in an office building, populated with men and women. When the kid came back, Mom said, “You shouldn’t go to the bathroom by yourself. Bad people are waiting there to take you away from me!” :eek: Nice. Give the kid a complex. Hell, my own mother wouldn’t let me sleep over someone’s house if only dad was there. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2012, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595/80 "2012-07-19T20:19:46Z")
If I heard someone say that to their kid, I’d look at the kid, point at mom, and say “starting with her!” :eek: [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-it-with-men-and-sexual-abuse-of-children/628595.md?page=5)