# What is kinki sex in your opinion? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 19, 2007, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169 "2007-08-19T21:35:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![MelCthefirst](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eada6e/32.png) [@MelCthefirst](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MelCthefirst)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2007, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/1 "2007-08-19T21:35:56Z")
I’m pretty sure this doesn’t have a factual answer but I’m interested as people do tend to talk about ‘vanilla sex’ and I’m not sure what it actually is. I have been unconsciously assuming that if I do it or would do it, then it is not kinki but for obvious reasons this theory is seriously flawed. So tell me and maybe try to keep it somewhat safe TMI. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2007, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/2 "2007-08-19T21:46:57Z")
Last I knew, ‘‘vanilla sex’’ is what bondage/BDSM people call people who are not bondage/BDSM. I guess it can be considered a more general term for people who are not exploratory in the bedroom. When I hear ‘‘kinky sex,’’ I think whips and leather, but I’m sure practically any weird fetish that is not mainstream would fit the definition. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2007, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/3 "2007-08-19T21:58:04Z")
I’d say vanilla sex is sex that your parents would have (you know, if they had sex, which of course they didn’t). ---
**Author:** ![A.R.Cane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ee7513/32.png) [@A.R.Cane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/A.R.Cane)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2007, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/4 "2007-08-19T22:50:48Z")
Best definition of kinky sex I’ve heard is: anything you wouldn’t do. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2007, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/5 "2007-08-19T23:03:11Z")
What’s the difference between Kinky and Perverted? Kinky is using a feather - Perverted is using a live chicken! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Hypno-Toad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b2d939/32.png) [@Hypno-Toad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypno-Toad)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2007, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/6 "2007-08-19T23:41:47Z")
[QUOTE=A.R. Cane] Best definition of kinky sex I’ve heard is: anything you wouldn’t do. [/QUOTE] Ka-zing! For me, it would be group sex or perhaps hardcore bondage. Oh, and E-Stimming. ---
**Author:** ![BJMoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5fc32e/32.png) [@BJMoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BJMoose)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2007, 11:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/7 "2007-08-19T23:50:19Z")
Kinky sex is anything involving contortion. Vanilla sex is sex without the chocolate syrup. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/8 "2007-08-20T00:22:56Z")
It’s sex in [Western Japan](http://www.japan-guide.com/list/e1105.html). I always laugh to myself when I meet a woman from that area and say “So you’re kinki?” and she agrees. ---
**Author:** ![chaoticbear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f07891/32.png) [@chaoticbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chaoticbear)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/9 "2007-08-20T00:57:05Z")
All of those things that I’ve always wanted to try, but haven’t ever found anyone willing to do them with me. ---
**Author:** ![MelCthefirst](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eada6e/32.png) [@MelCthefirst](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MelCthefirst)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/10 "2007-08-20T01:53:45Z")
[QUOTE=A.R. Cane] Best definition of kinky sex I’ve heard is: anything you wouldn’t do. [/QUOTE] That was the definition I was working with but it is a bad one. ---
**Author:** ![MelCthefirst](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eada6e/32.png) [@MelCthefirst](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MelCthefirst)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 1:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/11 "2007-08-20T01:55:27Z")
[QUOTE=TokyoPlayer] It’s sex in [Western Japan](http://www.japan-guide.com/list/e1105.html). I always laugh to myself when I meet a woman from that area and say “So you’re kinki?” and she agrees. [/QUOTE] Whoops - I think that’s why I spelt it wrong, I got so used to hearing about the Kinki district when I lived in Japan. ---
**Author:** ![MelCthefirst](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eada6e/32.png) [@MelCthefirst](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MelCthefirst)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/12 "2007-08-20T01:56:37Z")
[QUOTE=Hypno-Toad] Ka-zing! For me, it would be group sex or perhaps hardcore bondage. Oh, and E-Stimming. [/QUOTE] What is E-stimming? ---
**Author:** ![Beware\_of\_Doug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/278dde/32.png) [@Beware\_of\_Doug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beware_of_Doug)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/13 "2007-08-20T01:58:50Z")
Anything too play-acting, demeaning, scatological, or violent (mentally, emotionally, _or_ physically). “Vanilla” is some people’s way of saying everybody else’s idea of loving behavior is insipid. ---
**Author:** ![Hypno-Toad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b2d939/32.png) [@Hypno-Toad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypno-Toad)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/14 "2007-08-20T02:00:47Z")
[QUOTE=MelCthefirst] What is E-stimming? [/QUOTE] Electrical play. A former lover kept trying to get me into it. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/15 "2007-08-20T02:00:58Z")
[QUOTE=chaoticbear] All of those things that I’ve always wanted to try, but haven’t ever found anyone willing to do them with me. [/QUOTE] Dingdingdingdingding!!! We’ve got a winner!! ---
**Author:** ![Soul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Soul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Soul)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/16 "2007-08-20T02:05:05Z")
You hide your vanilla-sex porn. You REALLY hide the kinky stuff. The answer is in the hard drive. Alternatively, it’s whenever the concept of a “safe word” begins to seem prudent. ---
**Author:** ![Triskadecamus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b19c9b/32.png) [@Triskadecamus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Triskadecamus)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/17 "2007-08-20T02:11:19Z")
[QUOTE=RTFirefly] Dingdingdingdingding!!! We’ve got a winner!! [/QUOTE] Okay, now that is kinky! Tris ---
**Author:** ![Millit\_the\_Frail](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/51bf81/32.png) [@Millit\_the\_Frail](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Millit_the_Frail)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/18 "2007-08-20T02:12:50Z")
I don’t know, but I think kinky is anything outside “the basics.” There are certain things that are necessary and sufficient to calling something “sex.” Going above and beyond those things for fun and personal enjoyment is “kinky.” In my opinion. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/19 "2007-08-20T02:22:15Z")
[QUOTE=MelCthefirst] Whoops - I think that’s why I spelt it wrong, I got so used to hearing about the Kinki district when I lived in Japan. [/QUOTE] Don’t stop-- these misspellings are exciting me! 😉 I have no clue what kinki is or what kinky is–I’m sure the standard is a moving target for everyone. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2007, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169/20 "2007-08-20T02:37:10Z")
Besides the region name, according to my Japanese dictionary, ‘kinki’ can mean either ‘pleasure’ or ‘taboo.’ Sounds about right. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-kinki-sex-in-your-opinion/416169.md?page=2)