# What is one thing someone said that made you lose respect for them? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 9, 2016, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573 "2016-01-09T07:52:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![HeXen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@HeXen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeXen)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2016, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/41 "2016-01-09T23:37:30Z")
Grown ups that lack self discipline and control. It’s as bad as someone who never learned how to read but yet went to school. ---
**Author:** ![Bumbazine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bumbazine/32/362_2.png) [@Bumbazine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bumbazine)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2016, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/42 "2016-01-09T23:57:08Z")
Anybody who says a person cannot have any moral values unless they are a Christian. I cannot abide Kathy Lee Gifford for that very reason. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/43 "2016-01-10T00:00:06Z")
ALL of the above. And I’ll add: Anyone who says we deserved 9/11. I lost two friends on that day, and I can’t respect anyone who thinks they deserved to die. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Nylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/77aa72/32.png) [@Mr.Nylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Nylock)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/44 "2016-01-10T00:09:10Z")
> [@TheSpeculationElucidation](#): > > I greatly dislike when people are passionate about subjects they know nothing about. When they don’t put any research into their opinions and spout off utter nonsense just to feel as though they’re contributing to a conversation. It makes it even worse if you show them evidence that they’re incorrect, but they refuse to look at it or acknowledge they were wrong. I’m guilty of the first part sometimes, never guilty of the second. I’m marginally respectable. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 12:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/45 "2016-01-10T00:31:57Z")
I’ll throw out the flip side of this. Every damn person (including here) has said or thought something that any other group of reasonable people has reacted to with WTF? I tend to give everyone one at least one freeby on crazy assed beliefs or foot in the mouth syndrome. ---
**Author:** ![\_Raven](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/_raven/32/20435_2.png) [@\_Raven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Raven)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/46 "2016-01-10T00:34:03Z")
Agree with loss of respect for lies, bigotry, woo, and… what TheSpeculationElucidation describes, sometimes called [“The ‘Right Man’ Syndrome”](http://michaelprescott.typepad.com/michael_prescotts_blog/2013/06/the-right-man.html) What cost my respect for the head of an organization to which (and to whom) I’d felt heartfelt devotion? And for her spokesman and later successor, standing next to her, speaking with her nodded approval in evident sincerity, without other audience? “Sometimes you have to go beyond the written law.” (She then in fact acted beyond her authority as granted by the organization’s bylaws.) Now there are personal rights and freedoms one may defend despite limitations of the written law, to _this_ extent the quoted statement is true. But authority is granted _ **by** _ the law, founded _ **on** _ the law; “beyond” the law it has no basis whatsoever. This is the fallacy of “supralegal authority” claims such as this leader’s and Richard Nixon’s (“If the President does it, that means it’s legal”). ---
**Author:** ![incidental](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/22d042/32.png) [@incidental](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/incidental)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/47 "2016-01-10T00:53:48Z")
I had an ex with had some admittedly odd dietary beliefs. Which I was willing to let slide, as long as it wasn’t a major discussion point. It was his body, he was an adult man and could eat whatever he wanted. Yeah…that didn’t last long. The next thing I know, he’s sending me basic science articles about the mouse and in vitro studies that he was using as justification for this weirdness. Never, ever send an actual scientist mouse studies to justify your weird dietary beliefs. Mice are not people, and extrapolating from mouse data and in vitro data to your own daily lifestyle and then arguing the bloody point is just crazy. He also made some oddball connection to his dental health…the whole thing was just weird. He wasn’t a dumb guy - actually the opposite - which was probably part of the problem. I don’t think he thought he could be wrong, or that there could be flaws in the articles that he didn’t see. ---
**Author:** ![TheSpeculationElucidation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@TheSpeculationElucidation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheSpeculationElucidation)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/48 "2016-01-10T01:08:40Z")
> [@Mr.Nylock](#): > > I’m guilty of the first part sometimes, never guilty of the second. I’m marginally respectable. I think it’s fair to say most people are guilty of the first (myself included). It’s the second part that truly annoys me. ---
**Author:** ![scootergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e99b99/32.png) [@scootergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scootergirl)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/49 "2016-01-10T01:09:02Z")
> [@incidental](#): > > I had an ex with had some admittedly odd dietary beliefs. Which I was willing to let slide, as long as it wasn’t a major discussion point. It was his body, he was an adult man and could eat whatever he wanted. > > Yeah…that didn’t last long. The next thing I know, he’s sending me basic science articles about the mouse and in vitro studies that he was using as justification for this weirdness. > > Never, ever send an actual scientist mouse studies to justify your weird dietary beliefs. Mice are not people, and extrapolating from mouse data and in vitro data to your own daily lifestyle and then arguing the bloody point is just crazy. > > He also made some oddball connection to his dental health…the whole thing was just weird. He wasn’t a dumb guy - actually the opposite - which was probably part of the problem. I don’t think he thought he could be wrong, or that there could be flaws in the articles that he didn’t see. This made me laugh. And as in the same case as my ex/conspiracy nut case, he also is not a dumb person. Which makes the whole progression of all the weird and screwed up things he beliefs in even stranger. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/50 "2016-01-10T02:17:50Z")
The psychotic need for revenge. People on “holy crusades” for “justice”… especially against perceived slights about their favorite fairy tales (Star Wars, Celeb Bullshit, The Bible, etc). ---
**Author:** ![Jan\_John\_Cobham\_Salad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/898d66/32.png) [@Jan\_John\_Cobham\_Salad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jan_John_Cobham_Salad)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/51 "2016-01-10T02:54:16Z")
Anybody who pops off at the mouth about their infidelity. I have friends and acquaintances who pull this crap as if being a pile of shit is some badge of honor. I can tolerate a wide spectrum of opinions, beliefs and practices without batting an eye but the people bragging about their side action with a good wife sitting at home are disgusting to me. ---
**Author:** ![mage-girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cc9497/32.png) [@mage-girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mage-girl)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/52 "2016-01-10T03:19:27Z")
A few months ago, (someone I thought was) a good friend of mine replied to an e-mail from me and included the text shorthand “idk”. The e-mail I’d sent was regarding rumors I’d heard that I was interested in her husband. (I’m not - I don’t look at men who are attached. He’s a great guy though.) And _his wife_ actually uses the word (?) idk in response to my concerns. Add to it the fact that we both went to college on the exact same scholarship. We’re supposed to be _intelligent_, darn it! There is a place for idk, and it is not in serious correspondence! :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/53 "2016-01-10T03:32:48Z")
> [@mage-girl](#): > > Add to it the fact that we both went to college on the exact same scholarship. We’re supposed to be _intelligent_, darn it! There is a place for idk, and it is not in serious correspondence! When did email (especially personal email with a casual acquaintance) become “serious correspondence”? ---
**Author:** ![usedtobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ec9cab/32.png) [@usedtobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/usedtobe)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/54 "2016-01-10T03:35:22Z")
“My religion is better than your/her/his/their religion”. That is maybe acceptable for age 10 and under; once you hit 11, you should figure it out\*. - - unless you have never heard of a different religion. ---
**Author:** ![usedtobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ec9cab/32.png) [@usedtobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/usedtobe)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/55 "2016-01-10T03:37:22Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > When did email (especially personal email with a casual acquaintance) become “serious correspondence”? Ummm - when it concerns a serious subject? Ohhh - Mister Kotter! Mister Kotter! Did I get it right? ---
**Author:** ![usedtobe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ec9cab/32.png) [@usedtobe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/usedtobe)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/56 "2016-01-10T03:42:29Z")
How about this: Mr. God’s-gift-to-world-especially-_ **women** _: “you always need to find a new lover every two years or so” While his current lover was next to him. A real class act. (I later learned that a previous lover had named him as beneficiary of her company-provided life insurance - a true stud, that one) ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/57 "2016-01-10T03:54:22Z")
There was a guy at a dinner party who said he was afraid that after Obama’s election (the first one) he was afraid the “brown hordes” would flood across the border from Mexico. I thought he was joking until a couple of other people clued me in. He was serious, and he later doubled down on it. ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/58 "2016-01-10T04:09:13Z")
My ex-best friend was sucked into a group called the Michael Teachings, and se suddenly believes that this is the only way to live, jamming it down anyone’s throat at every opportunity. She used to be an intelligent fun-loving person and changed into someone that wants to change the world to her new-found belief. I lost every bit of respect for her. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/59 "2016-01-10T05:14:38Z")
An acquaintance bragged about her daughter, _“She’s going to break so many hearts…And if anyone breaks her heart, I’ll break their legs.”_ ---
**Author:** ![Whatever4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@Whatever4](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whatever4)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2016, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/what-is-one-thing-someone-said-that-made-you-lose-respect-for-them/742573/60 "2016-01-10T06:04:26Z")
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